My boyfriend of 3 years stares at other women and denies it and then gets mad at me, confused!!

[Anonymous]

For the last 3yrs of the relationship I had noticed my boyfriend staring at women and I have caught him and if and when I confront him he denies it and then says what you think I'm a pervert I say no honey your a womanizer and it hurts me. He then turns things around and says that's why we never go out cause your always watching me. Just so you all know in 3 years no one has ever called him and has no friends until this new job and we had gone out only twice in 2 months. It's all my friends that we have and he's always been a home body were I'm very opposite I love to be around my family. This time the fight got dirty and he said some really mean words which I haven't been able to forgive him for. I need some good advise!

[cazza3]

In my opinion checking other people out is no big deal unless you're partner says to you that they don't like it and you still do it. That show's complete disrespect for them and their feelings. But there is a massive difference between checking someone out and leering at the opposite gender . My fiance's friends will point out other woman to him in the hope of him getting caught by me and getting in trouble, I know this but I play along sometimes just for fun.

The fact that he turned the argument around onto you also shows he has the possibility of being manipulative. Maybe its time you sat down and discussed your relationship and not have it turn into a heated argument which can be very difficult, it just seems time for some honesty.

I know in my relationship my partner is the one that loves being around his family and I enjoy them too(love em to death actually). But my family annoy the crap out of me and he knows and respects that. We socialize with his family all the time and his sister's and I are very close

If you feel that you can't trust him or that he doesn't respect you and what you want to do, like go out, meet people, be social(without him leering at every woman) then its time to cut ties. But first maybe look at the facts, is there any possibility he's depressed?

[Anonymous]

Leave him he is annoying and obviously doesn't appreciate you. he sounds like a lazy perverted creep.

[stercor]

Good advice? I can't give you advice, just my thoughts.

He is --- quite obviously --- playing you, turning things around so that they make his situation look better.

He needs to find someone else, if you get my meaning.

[Godfatherman]

Sounds to me like an emotional train wreck. Pull the cord and get the hell off.