What causes low self-esteem in a guy?

[Anonymous]

I'm very concerned about my younger brother. Both of us were raised with the same loving family but he appears to have little to no self-esteem. He lets the same people that used him get back in his life again. All they need is to say sorry and that's all. He kept taking a cheating girlfriend back until the girl herself dumped him in the end and even claimed to only be dating him out of pity.

He just turned 19 recently and the path he's heading towards seems self-defeating. He has group of friends (very few though) but he literally has little to no backbone. What causes this in a guy? My parents are worried too. Any way we can help him get stronger (I don't mean physically but mentally)?

[mayur1598]

Well, you guys ( Family or those who really care about him) can talk with him and create a safe environment around him...
I think he is hiding something from you... May be his past insidence or something...
Talk about that... Make him speak about his problems...
If you can't do that then consent a good therapist who can talk with him... And make him stronger...
And at the end I guess he is just 19 and much life ahead... Let him learn from his experience because experience make man perfect...
Thank you!

[Asker]

I hope it's just his age but I've seen guys his age already standing up for themselves and manning up. We'll continue talking to him and if it doesn't work, I think if he goes to a Marine corp like someone mentioned that'll make him tougher in character.

[mayur1598]

I wish for his good...
Take care of him...

[winterfox10]

The modern school system is horrible about this, but it really discourages standing up for yourself and other "masculine identity" things like that. Your brother would feel a hell of a lot better about himself if he weren't worried about being punished for standing his ground and kicking people's asses. I know that that fear prevented me "manning up."

[Asker]

Yeah it's really bad if even the very cheating girlfriend he was with had to reveal dating him out of pity at some point. The girl was cheating and literally trying to get him bored but he wouldn't. She ended up dumping him herself and even told him to get someone better. Wow... now that's gotta be embarrassing.
Ok that's very bad I guess.

[Not_Average]

Convince him to enlist in the US Marine Corps.

[Asker]

Thank you. Yeah he definitely needs that to built character. The way he's doing now looks just as bad as the desperate girl afraid to be alone.