Lol, my mother never ever showed any hostility towards me and I'd punch my dad back just fine 😂 (We both know martial arts and trained together a bit, but he's old now)
You really should move ahead with those plans to move out, Desi. Your mom is toxic in more ways than one. I've been listening to your stories long enough to know this.
Indian parents are like that smoking is a very normal thing here. They want their children to behave as a good boy/girl for whole life and obey their every command
do they smack mature kids who are getting things done and successful, at least paying their bills? This is different. I know indian parents are hard driven for their kids to succeed... for the poverty roles in India or anywhere are awful. So indian kids are driven. But this is not driving her to a better place, this is beating her down with expectation. Almost think her mom is bipolar or stage of dimensia.
@lightbulb27 my mom is not Indian. But i do pay bills and stuff. And yea im thinking she's bipolar or just taking advantage because she knows i won't swing back. she's always had these occasional bully moments.
Her philosophy is " a couple of smacks won't change a dumbass, so why even bother". Dumbass is her nickname for me when we don't have guests, so I'm used to it. 😂
When i was young dad told me to go in the woods and get a stick. I saw one 4 inches around and told myself thats a club ap i got s small one, a switch. Omg
There's only a few things in this world that scare me. Ones that three letter word MOM. Plus I've been by plenty she would flat knock a dude out in high school. Yep I don't fuck with her.
@DizzyDesii First of all. If she had an issue with you, dealing with it in public is wrong.
Second, if that was the plan to pay for her own Items, she was in the wrong no doubt.
I'm not sure what my solution for you would be. However, there is a difference between discipline and physical abuse. Sound like this was a case of abuse
Did you ever snap at her or retaliate in any way? I wanted to snap so bad. Let her try that once i do move away. I will put her out on the streets of she comes to my place thinking thats ok
Yea like what makes them think thats ok? I used to say i wouldn't spank my kids but may give the occasional hit upside the head if they fcked up (under the age of 21 of course). Yea i dont even wanna do that now because they’d prob hit me back like i was tempted to hit her. That was disrespectful af of her
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They'd probably stop after I became an adult but they still do now rarely.
Yea it doesn't stop with parents here
Nope. If they did I wouldn’t have an issue returning it in kind.
Wait lol so that means you’d hit back? 🤣🙈
If one of them hits me, I’ll beat the shit out of them.
😂😂😂😂
Lol.
Lol, my mother never ever showed any hostility towards me and I'd punch my dad back just fine 😂 (We both know martial arts and trained together a bit, but he's old now)
Omg y'all nuts haha
How so? 🙂
my dad is like this lol to this day he would slap me on the head or something.
Yea its annoying af
My dad used to spank me till I was about 6-7 years old
Damn lucky. We still get hit if we fck up
I moved out of my parents house
Yea so do my friends who left
You really should move ahead with those plans to move out, Desi. Your mom is toxic in more ways than one. I've been listening to your stories long enough to know this.
Indian parents are like that smoking is a very normal thing here. They want their children to behave as a good boy/girl for whole life and obey their every command
smacking*
Yea its annoying man
do they smack mature kids who are getting things done and successful, at least paying their bills? This is different. I know indian parents are hard driven for their kids to succeed... for the poverty roles in India or anywhere are awful. So indian kids are driven. But this is not driving her to a better place, this is beating her down with expectation. Almost think her mom is bipolar or stage of dimensia.
No they don't do that
They give independence depending on your achievements. But don't understand liberal ideologies lol
@lightbulb27 my mom is not Indian. But i do pay bills and stuff. And yea im thinking she's bipolar or just taking advantage because she knows i won't swing back. she's always had these occasional bully moments.
Only ever had that happen when I was being a devil child.
Yea i def wasn't being that but shw claimed i was talking smart by responding “what” to her pestering
Well, my dad's dead, so he can't. My mom can, but doesn't. She says there's no point in it.
Why because it doesn't teach anything?
Her philosophy is " a couple of smacks won't change a dumbass, so why even bother".
Dumbass is her nickname for me when we don't have guests, so I'm used to it. 😂
Yea thats toxic as well to call your kid that all the time
Not really, because of the reasons she calls me dumbass. 😂
When i was young dad told me to go in the woods and get a stick. I saw one 4 inches around and told myself thats a club ap i got s small one, a switch. Omg
Lol well they didn't like the switches we picked and would go and pick another lol
I think my parents would have tried to do that, but I made it clear around 16 or 17 or so that id hit back if they hit 1st.
I am happy It's being diminished now!!! Lol
But, it was just politely not in extreme manner!!!
I see
My mother has not laid a hand on me in almost 20 years, and frankly I wish a motherfucker would.
Yaassss 🙌😝 i wish a mf would 😂
These days she has arthritis, and a bunch of other shit. She learned when I was 16 that it hurt her more than me when she smacked me. 🤣
Omg i shouldn't laugh at this
It's alright, I won't tell your mom, swearsies.
There's only a few things in this world that scare me. Ones that three letter word MOM. Plus I've been by plenty she would flat knock a dude out in high school. Yep I don't fuck with her.
Some kids need a foot up their asses.
Discipline the Red Foreman way.
Do u feel i was in the wrong (in the paragraph above)?
@DizzyDesii First of all. If she had an issue with you, dealing with it in public is wrong.
Second, if that was the plan to pay for her own Items, she was in the wrong no doubt.
I'm not sure what my solution for you would be. However, there is a difference between discipline and physical abuse. Sound like this was a case of abuse
Thank you
No after a certain age they stopped. Probably after I turned 16 or sumn.
Yea i thought it would end at 18 or 21 but nope. Not with parents in this city
You gotta be strong. Just explain to your mom that this needs to stop.
I have for thhe last 3 years. Her reasoning “I will forever be the mother and you will forever be the child (regardless of adult age).”
My mother used to think she could do that. I hated it.
Did you ever snap at her or retaliate in any way? I wanted to snap so bad. Let her try that once i do move away. I will put her out on the streets of she comes to my place thinking thats ok
I snapped at her more than once and told her to stop. as a result, she told every one of my relatives that I "abused" her.
Yep sounds like something our manipulative moms would do
Worse than that - she was a Narcissist with Borderline co-morbidity. My entire family was afraid of her and disliked her intensely.
Damn
My parents never did that.
Lucky
Yes I do and its crazy
Yea like what makes them think thats ok? I used to say i wouldn't spank my kids but may give the occasional hit upside the head if they fcked up (under the age of 21 of course). Yea i dont even wanna do that now because they’d prob hit me back like i was tempted to hit her. That was disrespectful af of her
When was the last time she hit you
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You have so really good self control cause I would've lost it
I was sooooo close. Like i “what” her today and she did nothing. So clearly she just wanted to make a scene that day because she felt embarassed
I'm gonna in box you
can't say In anger parents odd things