We slept together and he is clingy now. I like him but feel he is moving too fast. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I have been going out for 2 months now (and I was out of the county for the last month so we've only, and we met online. he's very sweet, smart, we have a lot in common, and he treats me better than any other guy I've been with. He has told his parents and friends about me, and I have also done the same. I live with my parents, so they have met him, and they like him (which means a lot to me because I trust their judgement).

The problem is I think he's moving very fast. Like he proclaims he likes me a lot, he wants to go on a lot of trips, have planned activities for us to do, and when we are together he is physically clingy (like really). I love cuddling and the lot, but he literally physically clings to me. He hasn't dated much before, and has been hurt previously, so I understand the insecurity, but I just fear that this may be going too fast and I want to slow things down, and I worry that he could be the controlling type later on (and Im keeping an eye out for those red flags).

Im just wondering if any of you have been with someone who is borderline obsessive and how they were able to handle the situation, if you could?

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Bit overly touchy, maybe. "Borderline possessive", I'm not sure his behavior really fits this descriptor. Ypu guys are long distance right? It's normal to wanna "make up for lost time" when you have maybe one or two days out of the whole month to show physical affection. If he's getting a bit much for you, just have an honest conversation about it with him, and explain that you like him but don't like to feel so much pf that energy all at once. If he's smart he'll understand and adjust his trajectory.

[BarryLiverstone]

The important part is setting healthy boundaries and having balance to life. Sure you can be on a date with him and he can be loving towards you. But the next day or two maybe you just text to check in and do other things. If you let him know you want time to yourself and appreciate looking forward to a planned date it allows some personal space and independence so that you don’t feel so trapped. Another boundary could be physical touch in public. If you want to limit to holding hands and don’t like him being all over you let him know it’s better to save that intimacy for private times.

[Anonymous]

It's making a common mistake men make... making you his purpose. How unfortunate. This will not end well and your attraction for him will drop quicker than a led balloon in an ocean. i don't think there is much you can do because either he will change his behavior for a few days and reset back to the default, or not change at all.