How to convince someone to be your friend again?

[Anonymous]

So I used to know this girl, we were really close, inseparable friends, we hooked up, went back to friends, went through a rough patch and stopped talking. But now we get along as being civil.

We both have separate relationships, she occasionally hangs out with my girlfriend and we talk in person briefly but that's it, dont message or hang out together because her boyfriend doesn't think that's appropriate because of our past.

Is there any way I can get our friendship back on track and be more than just civil?

Updates

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Thanks for all the responses, I think I'll let sleeping dogs lie. I do miss what we had but I think part of that was because we were younger and I was single at the time. If she does want to be friends in the form of gaming together or hanging out with my partner and I including both of us rather than leaving me out, then that would be a plus but i dont want to risk anything that might damage my relationship

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

It's probably better to leave it in the past. If her boyfriend has an issue with it because of your past history together, and you're really her friend, you wouldn't want to do anything that could cause her problems in her relationship. You both have moved on, you still talk occasionally, but it's not going to be the same as when you were hooking up, nor should it be if you're both involved with other people now. Sometimes things can't go back, be the same as they were before...

[Hangry22]

Nope. If you tried to do that, you both would cheat

[aftermydemise]

As long as her boyfriend is in the picture, probably not. You said she hangs out with your girlfriend. Is your girlfriend aware that you guys hooked up? I'm sure she would be uncomfortable with you guys hanging out if she knew.

[Asker]

My partner is well aware of our past but is also aware of how good friends we used to be. We all used to mix in the same friend group

[dy8alexUk]

I would not try you had a reason to break up it won't change he or she will still be same person

[Dave31989]

I guaran fucking tee you, there's no such thing as "just friends", if you're straight

[Asker]

I think you're right in that regard, my current partner and the friend in question used to be my two closest friends, I like the other friend, gave up pursuing her and my now partner admitted feelings for me.

That said the original friend I had a fling with showed so much jealousy in the first few months of my relationship...

[dpy87]

Be open and tell them what you feel. Say sorry for what you did.

[Iron_Man]

My proving yourself to gain their trust again

[In_Trance]

It's not worth it if you have to convince

[Brendlolita2]

It is if you screwed up and want to win back a person again.

[In_Trance]

Everyone's sense of value is different

[Jwags]

Trust