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Is it weird to want to date someone who doesn’t have, want, or need friends? (Page 3)
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Now I want to be your (online) friend, what's so wrong about friendship that you don't want it for yourself or others?
He can have it. Im just saying its dumb when people go looking for new friends after being in a relationship. Shouldve scouted long before. And i love chatting with people in person and online. But i dont wanna be friends because then you're obligated to hangout with them, answer their calls, listen to their probs and all that
So you would not like your partner, to divide time and attention on new people once they're with you?
New people? No. Same old friends, fine
I see... well, do you seem them as a threat? because old friends are more likely to get your partners time and attention, where is this coming from? I wonder.
Part of it comes from an ex who says he wanted new friends. He didn't want them til after we started dating. He didn't even care to reconnect with old friends til after we stated dating. And mind you, these were mostly females. I mean maybe he was jealous of my guy associates. But theyre associates. I’d cut them off in a heartbeat
I see why you could feel that way, but I personally never ever went out to tro and find friends, friendship just happened to me because people tend to approach me more than I approach them. So i think that in the future, your pantners happen to bump tnto a potential friendship, just let it be and don't make it a bother for yourself. If you're still their priority, then maybe let others be seconds. Most friendships are meant to happen, and they could happen to you too, don't close yourself to new horizons completely just because of some particular past experiences went a bit wrong.
I get approached as well. But i turn em away because i dont have time for that. And yea as for what you said, people dont know how to prioritize which is why i feel its just better to date someone who doesn't want friends
"I'm not clingy" yes... you are. And also controlling it seems. You want him to be all about you and at your beck and call. Recipe for disaster.
No i dont want him to be all about me. I dont care if he has associates. I just dont get the need to commit to NEW friendships once you start dating someone. Like you shouldve done that before now 🤷♀️
Still seems like you want him to be all about you. People make friends all the time.
Nah i like my space. And i like associates. Just dont care to be friends
Yeah that’s kinda weird. At least one friend or at least want some friends lol
I want acquiantances but im not tryna keep rm round for long as a friend. Acquaintances can be replaced at anytime
I’m exactly what you’re talking about. Sucks to see that so many opinions saying its weird to date me
Right. They dont understand us
I hope I find a women like you one day. I think the exact same way as you do.
Yay :)
I would like to know what in the world is wrong with finding new friends while being in a relationship? He meets your family while being in a relationship. Some girls really need to stop acting like they can just control everything
I told you above what i meant. And im not trying to control anything. Im just saying if he wanted friends, it wouldve been nice if he got them before he met me. Still looking for more friends afte ryour old friends or current girlfriend is silly. Like is he that lonely/attention seeking. Like when is enough enough. I love having associates but i dont go looking for them. And i dont make them “friends” because i dont plan to keep them around for long
No that’s fine to want what you desire. I don’t have any friends only social media life. My girlfriend says we don’t go out enough I have to remind her we live in Florida and hardly anyone takes this pandemic seriously
Yea i wouldn't go out in FL
Unfortunately I have to
Nah i’d let them deliver to me. Or do u mean workwise?
I have to work I’m in life safety so we are considered necessary
yes it is weird. But there is a high chance that someone who doesn't feel the need to socialize would actually care to make a girlfriend.
But im like that. I socialize but dont care to keep those people around longterm. On to the next. But i def care to have a boyfriend. Some people just different and rare
Probably. But who needs friends when you have Netflix?
Direct Tv for me lol
Yeah, that might be a bit too much to ask. Networking is an important skill that helps people be more successful in life. You shouldn't hold your man back like that.
Networking doesn't mean making them your friends. Business is business
@DizzyDesii Yes, it does. You can be friends with business associates. It helps build camaraderie.
Nah i’ll keep business separate. A lot will pretend to be your friends to get all the info they can and then may end up causing you to lose your job
@DizzyDesii Well, yeah. Good point there. Actual coworkers should be kept at a certain professional distance.
So what you are looking for is someone that is at your beckoning call when you want them. Someone who has you and only you to talk to. Personally, I think you are looking for a needle in a haystack.
No i didn't say that. I want him to talk to people. I just dont want him trying to build longterm friendships after we’re together. If he does, im not gonna try to stop it. I just prefer someone whos not still looking for new friends this late in the game. Thats so grade school
Ok. I'm Sorry, I misunderstood you then.
Yeah, I'm not afraid of saying I'm sorry. Lmao
I would honestly say, that is slightly unrealistic.
Maybe
This is understandable... typically the nerds in college and high school do not have friends until they graduate with a degree and a promise of a $100k job with all the benefits
Damn i bet they feel used
Well why would we care, I mean sure we were bullied but our bullies make an amazing subway sandwich
😂😂😂😂
I am glad that you enjoyed that joke
Im married to. someone with no friends n it can be over bearing 2hen you're with someone who only has u
But i want them to talk to other people. I just dont get why they have to commit to being that persons friend. I dont wanna see them around all the time
When you truly love someone, everyone else comes second to your significant other.. I don't put anyone first.. but its normal to want to be around people. I like hosting and having dinner parties and going on couples trips.. thats hard to do when you're with someone who isn't social n doesn't care for friends. I understand you want that love where nothing else in the world matters... but it shouldn't make u feel less significant bc your husband or boyfriend wants to do things with others. People have hobbies n skills... what if you don't like to indulge in those hobbies well, thats where u get away with not having to comply with his hobbies... He can do these things with friends.
Your s/o should be your best friend... so ultimately you should be the one around most often.
No thats why i said i want him to. Like i want him to socialize with others. But i hate the idea of him wanting someone in our life longterm. Like i prefer the person just come and go. If i hang with someone, i have no intentions of hanging with them again. I like the idea of come and go as you please. It was fun while it lasted
Yeah, i think you might regret them having no friends, but them being not very focused on social media would be a plus.
I wouldn't regret it because they’ll still have associates. However they won't be committed to them. They dont “owe” those people their time
There is some sort of personality that craves unavailable partners
Yea well i dont crave that
Well good
Seems reasonable, your explanation has sound logic.
Thank you
if i was a perfect gentlemen would you consider talking to me on discord one time & if you dont like our chat
i will leave you be forever
Personally, i rather not go back to those days. But turns out you can search hashtags on there and it’ll introduce you to some new people to talk to
@DizzyDesii so i learned to lsiten to women & take no for the answer but if you dont mind mind asking did i really piss you off
i dont use the app at all i only liked talking to you your very sweet
Yes not taking No for an answer pissed me off
@DizzyDesii sorry for that i meant no harm i was just stupid & lonely back then
@DizzyDesii thanks for taking to me today i will leave you be
I wouldn't date someone who has no friends, since that suggests there is something seriously wrong with them.
But the point is, they have had friends and can have more but they dont want to. Friends expect you to be there for them, comfort them, hang with them, etc. Theyre like pets or something. I dont care to have either longterm. So why not have a shorterm associate.
The fact that they don't want to speaks for itself.
People can be messy. Wanting friends is not a necessity. I think what you're trying to say is not wanting to talk to anyone period. Yes, that is weird but not frowned upon. That's like asking you're Uber driver to talk to you on a short drive. The quiet ones who mind their business are truly golden.
@Synikal Not wanting friends is a little different than not wanting to talk to the Uber driver.
I'd be scared that would be the case with me. I do have friends and have social media but we are not much in contact
Yea but is it by choice