I feel faint and light headed constantly on the topic or if anyone even tries to bring up topic. And the thought of things happening in that area. Cutting, tearing whatever traumatises my mind..
Well firstly let me assure you that there is not always any "cutting or tearing", as there wasn't with me. However, having read your comments thoroughly, perhaps your only course of action is to consider going along the adoption route.
Believe you me, every single woman who's about to give birth wouldn't be human if she didn't have some fear or anxiety, however it's something that must be built into us when the excitement and thrill of actually giving birth to another human being completely overpowers any worries, concerns or dreads. And you must also remember that you can ask for any pain medication including having an epidural etc.
Yea I know every woman feels concerned. But for me it doesn’t feel just the normal female dread. It feels more anxious than that if I feel faint at a doctor just asking me if I want to have children. I don’t think that’s normal.
Yea it’s all in my head. Not so much the pain but the gross images. Like a c section being cut open on a table and possibly bleeding out when awake sounds absolutely like a nightmare. Or not being able to make it to a hospital and having to do a natural birth. Just so many things.
Before I had my kids, I mostly worried about the pain, because people would always tell me horror stories about their personal experiences. People love to do that lol. But I chose to have the epidural for the pain.
The way you imagine it, it won't be your personal experience. It's based on apprehension because of the things you've seen and heard. It's normal and natural to worry about something you haven't yet experienced. But no matter what your experience is like , you will have a beautiful baby at the end of it all , which makes it all worthwhile.
You may have a quick and easy pregnancy. So try to imagine that instead of fearing the worst. ❤
Try not watch anything that has a negative affect on you. When I was pregnant , I did worry about my unborn baby, and I still worry about them now. It's normal to have fears about pregnancy and your kids after they're born. But try not to let the worry consume to the extent that it stops you from doing the things you really want to do.
I just find it hard to put on the Rose coloured glasses and pretend death, complications and risk don’t exist at all and just only see the positive, I don’t know why, but I can’t just ignore those things,
Prentening risks don't exist could potentially put yourself and baby in harms way. It's not a case of ignoring the potential risks and pretending they don't exist, it's about not allowing it to consume you to the extent that it controls your life and decisions. Every stage of a child's life, there's potential risks and danger.
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Start shoving things up your vagina and gradually increase the size until one day you can get a baby in and out.
Something that stirs up emotions will make events stick in the brain, so the ones with a lot of pain will obviously remember things with more clarity, and if things were (relatively) simple and "vanilla", you'd be more apt to get the tiny, one syllable answers. My wife and both of my daughters had hard deliveries for various reasons, but with proper medical care (from ob-gyns to midwives) , pain was minimized, deliveries were successful, and everyone is fine (after 3 kids apiece). Do your research on doctor's "styles". Some will let you labor a long time for vaginal delivery, others will say "ten and out" and go right to a C-section to "minimize risks". Be sure the doctor YOU want has "rights" at the local hospital. And, if you decide that this is still too much to handle, there are many adoption agencies that are looking for good homes for children. Good luck, whatever you decide.
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Yeah I always wondered that, if women were afraid of the pain involved. I know I couldn’t do it
Yea I am in great conflict because I technically want a biological child but I just can’t at the same time.
Must be someone you can talk to that can ease your fears
So what exactly is it that scares you so much?
I feel faint and light headed constantly on the topic or if anyone even tries to bring up topic. And the thought of things happening in that area. Cutting, tearing whatever traumatises my mind..
Well firstly let me assure you that there is not always any "cutting or tearing", as there wasn't with me.
However, having read your comments thoroughly, perhaps your only course of action is to consider going along the adoption route.
Did you need feel any anxious feelings or concern for pain at all? How did you get passed it?
Believe you me, every single woman who's about to give birth wouldn't be human if she didn't have some fear or anxiety, however it's something that must be built into us when the excitement and thrill of actually giving birth to another human being completely overpowers any worries, concerns or dreads.
And you must also remember that you can ask for any pain medication including having an epidural etc.
Yea I know every woman feels concerned. But for me it doesn’t feel just the normal female dread. It feels more anxious than that if I feel faint at a doctor just asking me if I want to have children. I don’t think that’s normal.
Well that's just in your makeup I guess, so unfortunately and very sadly I can't really be of any further help I'm afraid... Sorry. x
@Bella9191 There is of course trying professional hypnosis... Just a last minute thought/idea.
GIVE BIRTH. I was afraid to give birth but it has to happen if you’re PREGNANT.🤣
What scares you about it? the thought of the pain?
Yea it’s all in my head. Not so much the pain but the gross images. Like a c section being cut open on a table and possibly bleeding out when awake sounds absolutely like a nightmare. Or not being able to make it to a hospital and having to do a natural birth. Just so many things.
Before I had my kids, I mostly worried about the pain, because people would always tell me horror stories about their personal experiences. People love to do that lol. But I chose to have the epidural for the pain.
The way you imagine it, it won't be your personal experience. It's based on apprehension because of the things you've seen and heard. It's normal and natural to worry about something you haven't yet experienced. But no matter what your experience is like , you will have a beautiful baby at the end of it all , which makes it all worthwhile.
You may have a quick and easy pregnancy. So try to imagine that instead of fearing the worst. ❤
It probably doesn’t help I recently watched the movie on Netflix where the woman gives birth to a still baby and goes into a deep depression.
Try not watch anything that has a negative affect on you. When I was pregnant , I did worry about my unborn baby, and I still worry about them now. It's normal to have fears about pregnancy and your kids after they're born. But try not to let the worry consume to the extent that it stops you from doing the things you really want to do.
I don’t see those things as necessary negative per se though they do happen to people like realistically.
I just find it hard to put on the Rose coloured glasses and pretend death, complications and risk don’t exist at all and just only see the positive, I don’t know why, but I can’t just ignore those things,
Prentening risks don't exist could potentially put yourself and baby in harms way. It's not a case of ignoring the potential risks and pretending they don't exist, it's about not allowing it to consume you to the extent that it controls your life and decisions. Every stage of a child's life, there's potential risks and danger.
Start shoving things up your vagina and gradually increase the size until one day you can get a baby in and out.
why don't you adopt then?
What exactly about it are you afraid of?
I don’t even know. I just feel faint and uncomfortable and the imagery of it makes me feel like I could die.
Talk to experienced mothers.
I have, I usually get minimising answers like you’ll be fine. Or horrible stories that make it worse.
Something that stirs up emotions will make events stick in the brain, so the ones with a lot of pain will obviously remember things with more clarity, and if things were (relatively) simple and "vanilla", you'd be more apt to get the tiny, one syllable answers.
My wife and both of my daughters had hard deliveries for various reasons, but with proper medical care (from ob-gyns to midwives) , pain was minimized, deliveries were successful, and everyone is fine (after 3 kids apiece). Do your research on doctor's "styles". Some will let you labor a long time for vaginal delivery, others will say "ten and out" and go right to a C-section to "minimize risks". Be sure the doctor YOU want has "rights" at the local hospital. And, if you decide that this is still too much to handle, there are many adoption agencies that are looking for good homes for children. Good luck, whatever you decide.
You could always adopt.
After they give you the drugs you feel nothing lol
Love someone more than anything.
Talk to your mother
You could adopt
Maybe adopt a child?
Then adopt