Best friend didn’t invite me to her baby shower because I’m too pretty?

[Anonymous]

She told me I’m too pretty and she doesn’t want me around her husband or household. I feel very hurt. Why would a best friend say this? Was she kidding? I’ve known her since 9th grade.

[courtney06]

Aww that’s hard. As hurtful as it is, I commend her for her honesty. Most people can’t be honest about jealous feelings, especially if they think the other person has it better somehow.

Jealousy is a very difficult emotion to deal with especially if one struggles with deep insecurities. It’s also difficult and embarrassing to talk about without there being some type of backlash. People tend to be very judgmental of jealous people, even when they themselves experience that emotion.

She’s definitely insecure. Maybe something is happening lately that triggers the insecurity. Maybe her husband has wondering eyes, flirts, or has a history of cheating. Especially now that she’s pregnant and her body changed (sadly I have seen some men cheat on their pregnant wives for someone more attractive). It’s also possible he doesn’t do any of those things, but maybe she is the type who needs regular reassurance and he doesn’t provide that. It is extremely mentally exhausting to be concerned about one’s
partner fancying someone else especially when they just don’t have the confidence to handle it at the time. It’s even more exhausting while pregnant. So I can understand her avoiding a situation where there could temptation. She definitely needs to work on this in her own time.

I would try to have some compassion for how she feels and maybe send a gift. If you’d rather not continue the friendship, I understand that too. Jealousy is hard. At least she told you and didn’t ghost you.

[Hannah_le]

She’s jealous and If i was u I’d probably encourage her more and grow her self esteem. It could be her hormones as well lol cuz she’s pregnant but that’s not very good of her and if she continues to be like that well you tried making it right and she didn’t want to. Since she’s your bestfriend I’m sure it’s easy to talk to her about you guys feelings and just talk to her bring sense into her 😂.

[slatyb]

Thats some some serious insecurity but I think it’s happened to my wife and me. A woman stopped inviting us because her husband was too appreciative of my wife’s beauty.

[Wise4myage]

That’s incredibly stupid and selfish and you should feel hurt, because best friends just shouldn’t do things like that. You should definitely tell her how hurt you are.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

It is weird that she would say that to you instead of just thinking it

[Paris13]

Green Eyed Monster. Drop HER. xx