Guys, Do You Respect Your Mother?

[Anonymous]

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Do You Believe The Way A Man Treats His Mother Is How He Will Treat His Wife? 👈

"In my opinion, respect for women starts with your mother boys. If you treat your own mother like crap and she's a good mom to you then you will probably treat all women like crap and that's just not what I would consider "husband" material"

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1 y

This was a very emotional post for me and I am glad you all were respectful and helpful with your feedback. 😇

I wanted to just offer my condolences and deepest apologies to anyone who does not currently have their mother in their lives. I am blessed to have a healthy mother and father in my life and I am taking a road trip to see them on the East Coast this summer. I've been missing them terribly since I moved to the West Coast.

So fun, new, and nerdy bathing suit and travel pics coming 🤓

[Jjpayne]

I do quite a bit. While there is a stigma for being a mama's boy, there really is something to be said about losing a parent. With losing my father couple years back, it's made me not want to take my mom for granted. It's assuming, it's my parents... no matter what they do, they will always be there and it's not the case so I'm soaking in as much time as I can with my mom.

It's so crazy to imagine me being alone in the world without parents... It's one thing to think about it as a figurative future but once it happens it becomes really real.

I think it's nice when you lose a parent because it helps you to wake up and really spend time with the other while you still have time too. Given we want both parents to be alive but as a sliver lining, it's good to see the value in your parent that you still have.

All that to say, I value time with my mom and spent with my mom. I'm not perfect, I do disrespect her at times, it happens 😅 but overall she desires and wants to be with me as much as I can and so I'm hopefully doing something right 😂 but I try to lookout for her and do what's best for her.

I hope that I can carry that into my relationship, to be able to care and love another person like that

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you for unblocking me! I really hope we can start over on a new page, and that you are have been doing alright in this time.

Honestly, I've been very guilty of not being really respectful to my mother - admittedly I haven't been respectful of many people. But I'm changing that now.
It's true that she abandoned me and she hasn't really been the ideal mother, but what's in the past is in the past and since she's really making an effort to be close and loving to me now, I don't see why I shouldn't return the effort and respect and love her.
We have been talking a lot lately and have started to grow fond of each other and respectful.
She did some bad things in the past but I do see that her heart is in the right place and she really wants to make things right, so I don't want to waste the opportunity and grow back a healthy relationship. After all I too did my share of awful things and I'm getting forgiveness by many people I've wronged - both on G@G, including you and many others - and IRL, so I should give back all the good things I'm getting.

[Massageman]

I thought I was at the time (when I was a kid and youth), but in retrospect, I should have been more respectful on a few occasions, and those occasions stick in my throat worse than a bad batch of kale! I'm glad that those youthful outbursts were few and far between. You don't realize what you have until it's gone. Her spirit lives within me, though.
Backstory- At her wake, I found out that tat one point she was going to Hollywood to singing and piano gigs. I knew that she was an accomplished pianist, and later organist, but I never knew that she was going to make a career of it. She gave up a lot of her future to marry and raise a family. I just wish that my parents were a little more explanatory at times, since there were several things (non bad) that I discovered after they both passed.
So, respect the people that deserve your respect while you are both there to share that respect.

[User_40000]

Yes.
My mother was there for me when my father wasn't. She endured a hellish childhood of abuse, raped as a teenager, & abuse by my father. She did not let those experiences define her, instead she built herself up, became a nurse (all her patients loved her & thought she was a blessing), & did everything she could to raise me up right when my father wasn't there.
I had to learn the other half of life on my own because I didn't have a father figure growing up but as for my mother? She did her job & now I take care of her when she needs me, it's the least I can do.

[Nalix]

Respect is an interesting term to use. I love my mother, I listen to her, I'm kind of glad I don't have to deal with her any more, though that was always my dad's job. I was always grateful to her that she gave me the freedom I wanted in life, since basically forever. She would usually remind me, whenever I said that, that she did so because she saw that I never abused that freedom. Is that respect?

[ThePolishKnight37]

My mother was my best friend, until she passed away. I did typical teenager shit but I never could lie to her. She raised three boys on her own, when everyone told her to give us away, because she was ill. I have more respect for her than anybody that has been in my life. She worked hard and taught me what self love was and I could not ask for more.

[REALSTEEL]

it depends on the mother some mother's only care about themselves and just use there child for personal gain respect goes both ways not a 1 way street remember treat others the wsy you want to be treated being verbally and physically abused by both parents there is absolutely no need for that then ask do you respect them would you respect them if they were physically and mentally abusive too you?

[Just_call_me_Levi]

Yes, I respect my mother and love her dearly, not just because she gave birth to me, but also because she's a lovely woman who I'll always be grateful to have in my life. And yes, I believe it's important to take notes on how your love interest treats their surroundings, from a waiter all the way to family and friends.

[RJJ33666]

I have a large amount of respect for my mother. My mother had a shitty marriage and she had to take care of me and my brother a lot. But now, she is divorced and has truly become an independent woman. I am so proud of my mother.

[coachTanthony]

Well my mother is no longer with us but I respected the hell out of her. I also think if you see a man treating his moms poorly then you might be in for a rude awakening down the road with your own relationship. Good question.

[Dragonpurple]

I agree with this statement, I also have found that if you see how your SO mother is, that is how your girlfriend or wife will likely turn out. My ex turned out just like her mother, who is a horrible person.

[H8INCHES]

I agree. My mother was a phenom. She raised 7 kids with very little help from my dad. She wasn't a good cook, but we didn't miss a meal. She wasn't perfect, but she kept a clean, disciplined home. She is and always has been a God fearing and gentle soul.

[jsincal]

Yea, so much so, that she knows she can treat me like shit, because she's confident that I'll still love her at the end of the day.

[Wiredone]

When my mom was alive I did treat her with the most respect. My dad taught me to always treat women with respect.

I do believe the way you treat your mom and sisters is the way you will treat your wife and daughters, all women in general.

[t-8900]

Would you respect your mother if she abandoned you in a liquor store parking lot in the rain at 11 and drove off?
Answer: No

[Titanic1912]

A man should every girl with respect because a man should treat his mother with respect. Here’s a good rule of thumb for the men. Treat every girl as you would treat your mother.

[Maspolomas]

Yes I respect my mom and I try to be respectful of her when she visits. And I once read for a woman to watch how a man treats his mother is how he will treat you. My dad used to beat my mother when I was very young

[TonyV]

For the most part, there I are reasons I kind of dont that I dont feel like getting into.

[Z1pTD]

I don't know ab the follow up but yeah I respect my mother a lot. I’m not even gonna pretend I could do what she does. I mean, I’m a student freaking out about school and she’s super nice and laid back while putting like 5 kids through college. . .

[snackthatsmilesback]

I'm so fucking biased toward her just because she's my mom. I guess that makes sense but it can be hard to see her flaws cause of that, too.

[Guido]

Absolutely. She passed away years ago but I still miss her. She was a great mom and I have great respect for her. All my friends in school thought I had the best mom.

[jerdanro]

My Mother and I had a tough time when I was a kid. When I grew up, I was able to see her with all of her strengths and weaknesses. I love and respect her so much.