Am I wrong for wanting to be friends with his “ex”?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend slept with this girl before we started dating and she’s nuts! It’s admirable 😂 I’ve admitted to him that while don’t condone her shenanigans I’m absolutely loving it. He told her they’d never be a thing but she developed feelings anyway. When he cut it off she did some crazy stuff. Text him from so many phones cuz he’d block her. I finally texted her number and was just like, ‘we need to be friends.’

He says he cares but he also doesn’t and says he’s not impressed. I’ve told him I want to be her friend so I kinda feel like I’m not wrong and I don’t live to impress him. On the other hand I’m like maybe I’m crossing a boundary but he isn’t saying anything. Like, I fucking love the balls she has 😂 This level of crazy is what crazy chicks aspire to be 🤣 I have mad respect for her however I do love my boyfriend. Her and I have squashed the shenanigans so she’s not bothering him anymore.

[hahahmm]

It just probes that you love drama and chaos. It suggest to me that these things are more important to you than the relationship you have with your boyfriend. When one really values their partner they don't want to risk losing them by taking unnecessary actions likely to provoke/create things like mistrust, disloyalty, anger.

Your boyfriend may be too dumb to realize that he doesn't want this to happen but when he does figure that out, you will instantly have multiple red flags that tell him to bail on the relationship. Maybe that will happen when his ex lies to you and gets you doing/saying stuff based on her manipulations.

[hahahmm]

probes=proves

[AviatorTom]

Wanting to be friends with someone's ex is disrespectful. There's a reason why she's his ex, and he doesn't need you to try to make her better than he thinks of her.

A guy wants to forget about his ex, and you wanting to be her friend doesn't let him do that. If you care at all for the guy, forget about his ex. Find someone else to be friends with.

[HollyK21]

So you want to be friends with the woman who’s endlessly harassed your boyfriend? On top of that, her behavior is admirable to you? That is mental illness.

[Asker]

I got mad respect for the audacity she had. Him and I have had several conversations and he openly admits he knew the outcome he got was possibility when he decided to sleep with her. Her shenanigans was karma at its finest

[Asker]

‘I was drunk when it started and she was an easy lay 🥴’ I don’t feel bad for him

[HollyK21]

Very strange of you. You’re supposed to protect the people you love from threats and danger, not invite them into your life. She’s only going to cause more issues for him, but I guess that is a round of applause to you. It looks like you’re holding a grudge over him sleeping with her and you love seeing him suffer for it. That is not love.

[HollyK21]

I hope you know that the universe does not reward bad behavior. Your loving to see his karma but only building your own. When it finally comes for you, I hope you are just as excited.

[Asker]

I have/am protecting him. I walked him through how to deal with it. When she had some audacity trying to rile me up it backfired. When I finally texted her I squashed it. She hasn’t tried to contact him or anything.

[HollyK21]

You think crazy people just stop being crazy or obsessive just because you ask them to? It would be very naive of you to answer that with a yes. There’s calmness right now but she will be right back around with her bullshit and you gave her the green light. You praised her for it! I don't know how you can basically smile and high five his STALKER just because you can’t let go of what he did. If you were still feeling angry or whatever then you should’ve left him, girl. But this was wrong, plainly put. You don’t have to agree with what I’m telling you but I’m just keeping it honest. You praising his harasser and admiring that behavior just puts you right in the crazy boat with her. Sorry to say, but that is shameful.

[HollyK21]

“I fucking love the balls she has” “I respect her so much”, like are you serious? Of course you crossed a boundary.

[Uptowngirl88]

Right she sounds mentally unstable

[HollyK21]

@Uptowngirl88 absolutely. The fact that she takes pride and joy in befriending the woman who has stalked and harassed the man she claims to love is just beyond me.

[Uptowngirl88]

@HollyK21 right it's just giving me mentally unstable 12 year old. I think the person lied about being 30

[t-8900]

All 3 if you ladies are like the same age. The difference is that the OP is acting like she's still 14... anyways I agree with you 2 other ladies. Stay classy gals! Cheers 🥂

[HollyK21]

Thanks guys🙏 My only hope for the asker is that she reevaluates her actions, apologizes to her boyfriend and never does this shit to him again. IF he even chooses to stay with her in the long run.

[Breebabe15]

Lights💡... camera📽... action🎬!

Like it sounds like fun and a laugh, but also sounds dangerous

[bsann2015]

I don't see a problem with being friends with somebody's EX after all I always turn to my ex's into best friends.
I would be happy and thrilled if I was dating someone and they wanted to be best friends with my best friend or my ex as long as I was still friends with them

[Reijen]

Are you wrong? Not per sei.
You are certainly free to associate with whomever you want. Whether it is wise to do so is another question.
If he wanted to cut off relations with her completely, I'm sure that extends to people close to him, like you for instance, also doing the same, so that she's out of his life.

[HighValue]

It is inappropriate to be friends with your SO's ex. I would leave someone if they tried that. Totally not cool.

[madgoat]

Giving her any mixed signals at all is a bad idea. For him and for you.

[Anonymous]

You are in the wrong who in their right mind would ever want to be friends with someone’s ex especially

[Notfabricated11]

No , and I thought was super dope of you. You controlled that whole situation with peace and love. Lol but it definitely means you have a little crazy in you.

[Cassie_1992]

Grabs popcorns starts watching. Sounds like you have a crush on her.

[Uptowngirl88]

You sound mentally unstable

[Anonymous]

yeah that's a really bad idea

[t-8900]

Bye Felicia

[Anonymous]

Whew America is in trouble

[Hallo626262]

He should break up with you.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s cool

[ChiPaPa]

Troll

[LegendaryIcon]

very

[Preeti161101]

Not wrong

[Myself_Firefly]

Nope...