Yes, my mother is a psycho crazy bitch, when I was a kid she'd either be completely ignoring me or screamed the house down at one of us. I stopped caring around the age of 10 and rarely engaged with her, and my father was no help as he's a weak man and didn't care either.
Same, wouldn't care if my mum died... She's nice to me now I've moved out, but that can't reverse the years of being a bitch to me as a kid.. she caused unreveesable damage like low self esteem
@Idioticsnowfairies I moved out as soon as I turned 18 and left my first round of college, really haven't had much to do with any of my immediate family since although lately I have been going there one a week to check on them out of a sense of obligation as they are both very elderly now, still cunts though. My brother still lives with them but is useless as a human. If their house burnt down tomorrow it wouldn't bother me one bit.
Mine is mentally ill. I love her but can’t tolerate much time with her for my own sanity. She can go up and down the full range of emotions many times in the same day with none of it rooted in reality. It’s some form of psychosis. It gave me many issues being raised that way. I love her and don’t blame her because she’s handicapped. But it’s a daily struggle because of those years of abuse
My mom definitely screams at me in the morning saying that I don't do what she says me to do. She gets ready for her job and says these things to get done.
Wash the car? Done, Get the bath ready? Done, Turn around the car? Done, Get the lunch-box ready? Done.
And despite doing all of these things, in half asleep state almost 70% of mornings, I get yelled at nearly every morning for some or the other things. I get it, pressure to get at time, but sometimes I also think, why?
She is a great mom, but this really makes my mood worse in the morning. I watch YT videos after she goes and listens to music too.
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Now I just take her criticisms and take them out of the other ear. Like I have heard a thing she said. Works for me!
Maybe some moms do this because they feel it is abuse if they spank their children. But children understand a spanking if they were misbehaving and don't hold on to that very long. But what will a child remember later on when they get older. Not "My mom spanked us." but they will remember "my mom yelled and cussed at us all the time". So I don't understand why mothers would rather have kids remember that yelling rather than have them remember how mom spanked them, made them write lines, or stood them in the corner but that it taught them discipline for later life.
No, it lowers the value of the words she is saying. She say something just once to have authority or twice with the first one being a warning. If the child still doesn't behave, show them the consequences. And maybe let go of some of the small things and let them "breath" sometimes. Life will punish them anyways as there are consequences to anything. Maybe talk to them and say "if you do this, this will happen"
No. Shouting and screaming at your child is a sign of verbal abuse if they have done nothing to deserve it. Even then, children don't deserve that. If they've done something wrong, talk to them sternly and discipline them accordingly, never resort to shouting/screaming at them. That's weak and shows you up as a rather nasty character for an adult of any age
Nope. No. Not normal. No, thankfully mine did not. My husband is more of a yeller than me. I really try to keep thar in check and I cal him out on it too.
I've yelled at my kids, but not screaming like that picture. I used to whisper if I started getting upset because that way they would actively listen and I would keep my composure. Win win!
Whispering is THE best parenting trick! I also use some basic sign language on occasion. The sign for “stop” and the sign for “no” can be powerful ways to discipline without yelling.
No that is not normal. A mom who does that really needs some professional help with her anger or anxiety, or whatever the issue is. It is damaging to the children.
thats not normal, my mother is sympathetic and actually would regret if she hurt us ever, because she was raised being yelled at and hit a lot, so she feels bad if she would hit us, and later would go cry it out alone... that makes me sad she can yell at us for a while for some things, but later gets back to normal with time just laughing at some joke or smiling , man. I love her and would never want to lose her, or my dad
It's not normal. My mother never screamed and only yelled at me once for being a dumb teen when I stole something (happened only once, still regret it). And if my partner ever did this to my/her kids I'd raise my voice, tell her to get the fuck out of the house, cool down, say sorry to the kid and deal with the issue at hand like an adult dealing with a child.
No it's not normal. Parents who abuse their children as emotional punching bags should lose parenting right like parents who abuse their kids physically. Children who grow up in such families are often mentally crippled.
Nobody should be yelling at anybody for hours... Unless there's some very exceptional circumstance. If this happens... More than once (for some really good reason) that's a problem for sure. It's abusive.
Not for hours, but raising your voice can be useful to teach a lesson without having to recur to your hands. Kids do whatever they like, and that's not good, nor healthy for his later entrance into society. Even though seems like education is not a big thing anymore considering how worthless the new generations tend to be.
can't remember was it point or argument but you get the point. Screaming and scaring is what they did when people lived in caves and proposed to women by knocking them out with a stick and dragging them to their cave.
Yelling is normal. Yelling for "hours" is not. My parents have been pretty upset with me on a few occasions, but they never spent a long time expressing how pissed they were. I suppose a parent would yell for hours if their kid talked/yelled back.
Hours? No my father wouldn't go on that long, more so a few minutes. My mom barely yells and usually doesn't like talking. Dad is a extrovert and my mom is a introvert
No it isn't normal. My mom would ask for forgiveness after she even scolded me and it is always something for serious. Otherwise she will just make me understand gently. My mom was never like this.
