Why don’t you want kids?

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TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Babies smell. I'm never going in the same house as, let alone touching, a dirty diaper, and I certainly don't want shit or piss on my walls, bed, floor, etc.

Babies and kids are messy slobs, and I'm a neat freak.

Babies and kids break things that either can't be replaced, or are expensive to replace.

Even if they break nothing, It costs a fortune to raise another human, and I'd rather spend that money on other things.

During moments when they aren't irritating, babies and younger children are boring.

They are unhygenic, I don't feel like catching infections because my kid touches gross things then boops me in the face or throws up on me.

I don't enjoy having to teach someone basic things, I typically only get along well with exceptionally smart, reasonable people, or very laid back people who don't throw tantrums over little things or fail to grasp simple concepts.

I do not enjoy being an authority figure in someone's life at all, in fact I hate being part of a hierarchy so much, that I'm basically anarchist, I'd rather be equals with those I interact with.

I hate censorship.

They take up time, a lot of time, and I already feel like I need way more time in the day to do what I want, I'm not shortening my free time per day.

I'm not willing to put another person first who isn't able to do the same back.

The noises babies make are like nails on a blackboard to me, and not just the high pitched crying and screaming, but the normal gurgling and cooing noises too.

There is no benefit to having kids, at least with a cat they are cute and can help calm nerves after a stressful day, but most babies are ugly and cause a mountain of stress.

CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

I want kids but it seems that most of the women that I dated are not ready to have kids. It seems too much responsibility it's too much for them or any tough woman who don't want kids. I never been a father before and I would love to try new things. But if my family ever found out that I'm a father to Someone's Child, they would probably kill me Horror movie mutilation Style. but it's also annoying that my grandmother on my father's side said that they want grandkids and my grandmother on my mother's side say that they don't. so the way I see it scale and I'm in the balance between wanting and not wanting to have kids.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

At this time I am unwilling to sacrifice my body, energy, finances, career, sleep, time, relationship, and mental health to care for something that is ungrateful and won't appreciate me for approximately 20 years.

Also I was never drawn to typical girl things as a child. I never played with babydolls or barbies or anything and my parents had triplets when I was 8 so in addition to never showing much interest in babies in the first place, I was then thrust into this big sister helper role and I gotta say... if there was any small interest in babies at that age... that got killed off immediately 😂

Theoretically, in the future, my feelings could change and I could decide a baby outweighs those things but... I have felt largely the same about the subject for 20 years now. I've also met and married a man already so... people who tell me shit like "you'll change your mind when you meet the one" y'all can sit down lol

The One is literally in my bed right now. We've been married for 4 years and are quite content just being us. I told him when we met (ages 12/14) that I didn't know that I'd ever want kids. I told him when we started dating. I told him when we got engaged. I told him when we got married. So... the man has been aware of this for a long ass time.

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

I have a variety of reasons why. I don't really want them mostly because of financial reasons. I have student loans. I just graduated from college today but I'm going to have to start repaying them soon. I'm deep in debt. It's bad enough having to pay them. I don't want another unnecessary financial obligation on my shoulders. Plus I don't like the weight gain. I really don't want to gain weight.

Now's not a good time to bring children into this world with all these covid variants and global warming/climate change. I also don't want to lose my freedom. When you have children you can't do anything you want anytime you want because you have to take care of them and meet their needs. I want to be able to go home after work and just relax and not worry about having to pick up a kid or change diapers.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Society is fucked, people are horrible and with the amount of abuse I’ve faced from outsiders in my life, why would I want to put a child through that? Ontop of that, I’m financially unstable enough already, plus my chronic illnesses would likely kill me if I tried to give birth.

IF I ever decided to have kids, it would not be from my own womb. Serogat mothers (or however you spell it) would be the way to go, because adoption is a nightmare where I live. You cannot adopt without the birth family still seeing their child and being part of its life.

Good1mufferaw · Answer

The thought of a baby growing inside of me, makes me feel both uncomfortable and claustrophobic. Something about the mere thought triggers something in me, and I would most likely feel like I have an alien growing inside of me rather than a baby. I think pregnancy is mostly a very beautiful thing when it happens to other people. But I could never imagine myself being pregnant. But perhaps when I get older I’ll think about adopting

MCheetah · Answer

1. I'd make an awful father.
2. I had terrible parents myself; an absentee dad I never knew and an abusive mother I don't care about the welfare of.
3. This world is horrible and between CRT brainwashing in American schools and the retarded left trying to turn every child Trans, I'd be better off raising kids during the Bubonic Plague.
4. I have INCREDIBLY sh*tty genetics and deserve prison time if I ever tried to reproduce (especially to create a daughter). For starters, I'm short.
5. I'll never have a loving woman and mother to my kids, anyway. Why concern yourself over things that are impossible?

mobiusforniner · Answer

Ah, c'mon now everybody. Who doesn't love waking up 3 to 4 times a night, getting less than 5 hrs total sleep daily for at least the first 8 years, dealing with screaming and fighting, spilling food on the floor and dinner table, only watching Disney+ whenever they're awake, spending all your available capital on toys, clothes, carseats and stuff to make them happy. It's great!

Yet, then again, putting my daughter to sleep last night- she held my finger and said "I love you, daddy".

Hell, I wouldn't miss it for the world.

Starla1234 · Answer

I don’t want kids because I find them annoying and I don’t want to be restricted of my freedom in any way my life. You can still travel with kids, but it’s not the same. You aren’t as free to do anything in your life because you also have another life you are responsible for, and I never want to be restricted like that.. I just wouldn’t enjoy being a parent.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

1. Extremely expensive
2. The way this world is right now ( 2020 - 2022), it would be very wrong to bring a child into a completely unstable, unreliable and very dangerous world.
3. Finding an Awesome nurturing mother, (not a Woman) but mother is beyond difficult, because of all the ""liberation movements"" and ""women don't need men anymore"" etc...
4. Child should be a biological long term happiness and investment and as I have mentioned previously, right now (2020 and probably beyond) neither are possible.

MuddyMole · Answer

I used to, but it just never happened. And then I was in a relationship for a couple of years, with a woman who already had two of them, and now it feels like I dodged a bullet.
Between the lack of freedom (especially to travel), the need to settle down and do whatever job provides a stable income, and the constant noise, pestering, complaining and general stress, it's a total nightmare.
My only regret is that me wanting kids contributed in a big way to a previous relationship ending (she didn't) - it's hard not to wonder what might have been...

Tomsta · Answer

- Won't have any money left
- No freedom
- They don't shut up
- They don't do what they are told
- I hate dumbing things down to people
- I have little in the form of emotional availability
- I'd have no sleep
- Forced to take holiday during specific weeks of the year, when everyone else is fucking doing it so it's not really a holiday
- I can't really have hobbies anymore

Heartache0405 · Answer

I have a hard enough time taking care of myself. Besides, I would have to have sex in order to have a kid and I don’t do sex. You gotta have a woman for that and women these days are easily emotionally corrupt. Also I wouldn’t want to bring an innocent life into this world just to suffer at the hands of the left liberal dems. I’d be terrified for the child regardless of their birth gender. Male or female. I have siblings who will eventually have children so I don’t have to

Anonymous · Answer

I do want kids but I don't want kids if I cannot give them the tools to have the life they want. I'm not going to be that loser that has kids and their kids ends up a loser too. Most welfare people a 4th 5th generation and shit. You pass down to your kids exactly how to get as far as you did. I'm not going to pretend life is some gift and fuck my own kid because I was selfish and wanted the experience.

Oigit · Answer

Humanity is pretty much one giant dysfunctional family. People who point at the direction society are going should start looking at the whole picture. My experiences in life and world events during my life showed me this several times. Due to that I refuse to bring a child into this world. I don't see us correcting our course at any point. So bringing a child into this world is hard no for me. That is the reason I got snipped several years ago.

poneglyphs · Answer

Why am I going to bring kids into my life when I barely have money for myself? Also, why bring kids when this world is shit and climate change is going to fuck the world over.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I wouldn't mind having a child but I also wouldn't care if I didn't had one, I isn't exactly placing a kid as a priority in my life. If I do end up becoming a father I will make sure the little boy or little girl will grow up feeling love and have a great childhood but if I doesn't end up having children I can still have my own life to look forward too. Plus most children are expensive anyway and I want to use my own money for things that technically make me happy.

DanielBlack1904120 · Answer

I had to raise my 3 little brothers when I just a kid myself. so when I was finally able to live for myself I did just that... I was 34 before I knew it & this age I feel that ship has sailed & I simply wouldn't want to bring a child into this crazy world. not dissing anyone who does though!

BCRanger10 · Answer

My wife and I have a son together. We want to have more children.

If I may be completely honest, some of the reasons for people not wanting to have children, namely the condition of the world we live in, are quite distressing.

Pink2000 · Answer

I have too much I wanna do in life and having children would set me back. They cost too much and I wanna enjoy life care free. They’re too stressful.

Recurrence · Answer

I don’t believe the world is getting better, so I don’t want to create new people to suffer through it

Steve1071 · Answer

Wow, some of the opinions on children is with out words. You think raising a child is hard! Try talking care of a family member that’s in a coma for 15 years hoping and prying that they’ll recover and the same time watching their body begin to deteriorate and you fight everyday for their survival only for it to end with no recovery. Where a child will grow and you can talk to them and see and know their emotional state and also know when they’re sick and happy.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

It's not that I don't want kids, I just want to be in a stable comitted relationship and believe that the other person is "all in". I've never had that feeling.

BipBipLeddus · Answer

Well, I didn't initially because: • I hated kids • Insecurity • Financial instability Now I want a second because: • Hormones said it would be a good idea. • I love kids.

Anonymous · Answer

If you have a life partner and tons of money and can provide a good life for them (which doesn't seem possible in today's world) then have a bunch of them. But people enjoy their freedom, so it's not the same world anymore to bring kids into, it's just not worth it for them or for you.

Kayla45 · Answer

Mainly because I'm terrified of passing down my disabilities and genes to my kids. I don't want anyone else to have the same problems as I do, so I choose not to have kids of my own.

Lliam · Answer

So many reasons. Shit, piss, barf, germs. Whining, crying, drama. Constant attention and worry. They get in trouble. They are total money pits - food, clothes, toys, sports, school, medical.

Anonymous · Answer

1. They're annoying 2. Don't wanna ruin my body  3. The World is already overpopulated as it is. We don't need to add more people.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Right now, I haven't got me a gentleman. Until I meet him and then figure out what we doing with our lives together, babies will remain an avoided topic.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I did my time when I had to take care of my brother and foster kids. I hated sacrificing my time and having responsibilities of others put on me when I wanted to go out.

malwins · Answer

first off all pregnancy is son of a bitch and then u dont get peace of mind to the rest of your life. yeah there are benefits to them and they so friggin cute when little but they dont outweigh the minuses

MarkyyG123 · Answer

I 100% want kids, 110% want kids, I love the family life and building a family! I understand its not for everyone and that's okay, we all have our reasons

LinaDaGoddess · Answer

I think most of these comments would’ve saved me ten years ago.. lol if I read them, I would’ve reconsidered having kids I personally think.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I am just focused on my career and the economy is really bad. Also I have a high possibility of my kids having seizures and it scares them hell out of me

josh23992 · Answer

Because the environment is about to collapse in thirty years, and possibly the united states as well. I don't want to raise kids in that kind of hell hole, it's just not fair to them.

bolverk · Answer

Just personal choice, besides I've done enough bathing, feeding, burping, and changing the children of my extended family (sisters, nieces, nephews, cousins etc) that I have more hours in than most parents.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

1. They cost money. 2. They are an added responsibility. Other than that, I see nothing wrong with them. I'm not completely against children, though. I just don't care either way. I'm neutral.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It never really interested me. I like the freedom of not being tied down to raising kids.

Sonorous · Answer

Because I cannot (in good conscience) maketh something with the capacity to suffer. Much less sayeth I'm doing it for the sake of "love" or whatever.

howhigh420 · Answer

My lifes not ready for kids yet iam 32 to but am not ready to be a mother yet

Hangry06 · Answer

Little kids are annoying and they stare and demand stuff. They don't know how to keep themselves clean. Also too loud

Fireguy17 · Answer

It was because I didn't want them, I couldn't have them. That really limits your dating choices when you are younger. Now it isn't an issue.

Anonymous · Answer

As of right now, I don’t know if I will find the right person. I want kids, but I don’t want kids if I don’t have the right person.

Anonymous · Answer

I want nothing to do with kids, pregnancy, or anything related. Men get screwed and have no rights in any of it, so why would I want to subject myself to that?

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

Short version I just think I'd be terrible at being a father, wouldn't even know where to begin?

Anonymous · Answer

1. In a world like this? No lmao
2. Lots of responsibility
3. Money
4. I just never liked kids growing up with 2 younger siblings and having to basically raise them. Not for me
5. I have anger issues and I’m impatient

Lionman95 · Answer

Because I'm not good at showing affections for them. Secondly because I'm uncomfortable with them.

vduong1988 · Answer

I love kids I’m not ready for kids yet it’s really stressful I have 2 niece 3 nephew I’m aunt I had to take care my older sister kids every time they are so messy

Deathraider · Answer

I mean I don’t like kids, but it’s also the fact that there’s some ethical issues about having kids (in particular the fact they really can’t consent to existing).

kingykringy · Answer

I’m not financially stable I’m not mentally ready The world is overpopulated My dad’s side has bad genes: nasal issues and alcoholism. I still haven’t tried nor achieved so many things.

TexasRed95 · Answer

Cancer, depression, anxiety, and nerve issues run in my family and I got all of it. I don't want to keep this all going.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Because I’ll never be the dad. The state will be. Regardless where I live in the world.  And needs village to raise a kid not me and my wife.  Which people don’t have anymore.

Starwitch23 · Answer

My life isn't sorted. I want to be available for my kids.

Jonny59 · Answer

lol to these comments, you all just scared to raise a child just like your mother raised you, no excuses just weak mindset

Elisabeth1985 · Answer

I just don’t cause I grew up with 13 first cousin, and little brother who’s 9 years younger then me. I now have 15 first cousin their 24 years younger.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I'm just very selective about the woman I want to start a family with

TheFlak38 · Answer

I want kids. I just don't want a mother for my kid who will fuck its brains up with her stupidity.

emperor90 · Answer

I dont want kids because they are way to expensive to raise

Deserter · Answer

I like my autonomy, don't care for most people. Also what if I just don't like my child as a person or it comes out with some sort of issue?

user4477388 · Answer

I want kids But women use kids , court , dhs police , child support , jail , prison , taxes as a weapon

CatusNoir · Answer

I Don't feel like i am responsible enough to take care of someone else

OG956 · Answer

First: I'm asexual, so not interested in these activities saecond: not a family type of person

Anonymous · Answer

Many reasons but the one's I keep circling back to is society is extremely fucked up and there's no man worthy of me caring his seed for.

AvaOlivia · Answer

I'm not stable yet and I can enjoy sex without being pregnant.

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