ALWAYS. At the very minimum, you should at least make an offer to the host, be it family, friend, or new person in your life, to help clean. My mother would lose it if she ever thought she raised a child to sit on a couch after someone has been cleaning and cooking all day so that I can enjoy a meal. Thankfully I have family and friends who 100% get this. I really think it's the height of rudeness not to at least offer to help, but some people weren't raised with good manners so....
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Always! Unless they say otherwise… But I will still offer.
Christmas day, my hostess, had her sis there, and the sis did the dish washing, and I helped the host clear some of the mess off of the table.
"Real men" do help their spouse with that kind of domestic things. The hostess worked her fingers to the bone putting everything out for us, and I really don't know how she did it. I sent a very pretty table setting for dinner, and also a 'thank you" card yesterday.
Some people are just lazy, inconsiderate, or oblivious. Maybe she was not raised that way. At the holiday gatherings when I was young, all the women would help each other out in the kitchen with the cooking and cleaning. I offer to help when I'm at a friend's house for a dinner, there are no more family dinners anymore.
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When I visited my cousin's house for Thanksgiving, I did some dishes but she uses detergent that she makes and not the store bought but I had a great time I like how she turned her life around, she takes care of her little girl, she does whatever she can her health is poor, She has a great house and she deserves it, Her late Grandma raised her from age 57 on
Absolutely, I also offer to bring something for the dinner. Usually it's a bottle of wine.
Yes, I always offer. Sometimes the hostess will say it's not necessary, other times they'll thank me for helping. The most common "cleanup" I do is take the dishes and silverware from the table to the kitchen counter.
I always help clean up, if it my family even help setup.
There are people that married into the family though that think if they are guests they do not have to do anything and never offer to help but no one says anything to avoid problems.Hell nawl. I’ll cleanup my own mess i made while there. But dassit. If someone invites me to their place, then that person or their cleaning staff should be responsible for the mess that guests make.
You sound like an angel. I have invited girls for dinner before. Did everything by myself, sometimes even giving my portions of food, if they liked that much. They never helped a little bit in either pre-eating or post-eating. Most girls are like this.
Yes or at the very least, I help put the dishes in the sink (Dishwashers are uncommon to rare here, even on well-off people).
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yes, I always offer... that's how we were raised as well
Sure why not? It helps in relationship building. It's a good standard
if i don't have to tip them afterwards then it's okay
always help, even if your help is turned down.
It is the polite thing to do.If someone asks for my help, I'm more then happy to. But I typically wouldn't just jump in. Sometimes I think I'm more in their way then I am helping.
They have no choice. I clean up with them weather they like it or not.
I probably wouldn't, although I don't visit anyone as there's nobody to visit since I have no friends
No, I don't expect help when I'm hosting and I don't want to be hosted if I need to help. Defeats the purpose to me.
helping out is the best way if you can. sometimes i don't know what to do at my aunts house so I ask.
I always volunteer to help clean up when I am at someone's house for a meal.
No, It is their kitchen / home. It is not my place to help.
Yes i do this. They are not my slaves, i have to help them
We always offer. Sometimes it's accepted, most the time it isn't.
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