Step mom over stepping?

Anonymous
Step mom is messaging me and telling me how impossible I am to co-parent with and how I want their life so I'm acting out. I've told her multiple times how thankful I am for the way she is with my child but the visitation and parenting choices are something me and my child's dad need to talk about and I shouldn't be going through her. She keeps trying to put herself in the middle and I've asked multiple times for my child's dad to leave her out of it. They're going with I'm trying to ruin his life by setting boundaries! Like not letting them come and go as they please on their schedule... They don't interact with us besides that. Just when they want to fight about seeing my child in the middle of the school day and keep them well into the next school week. They lie about cancelling visitation and that would be whatever who cares but with both of us parents being military I will only let him make up days when that's why it's missed. So when they lie saying that is why they missed but really are going on vacations and posting pictures and I keep to the you lied but we talked about what I'm willing to work with so it was a choice to miss those days. The step mom just won't let me have a say period in how our court order is already layed out and signed by a judge. How do I get her to back off and quit adding issues to the already uncomfortable exchanges especially when dad openly encourages her to behave this way?
Step mom over stepping?
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