What's it like to have male friends?

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Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

It's just like having female friends. You become friends with people you like and get along with. Gender doesn't have anything to do with it. If there's a person I like and I want to become friends and we become friends, I'm not going to discriminate on gender. I'm not going to refuse to be friends with someone just because that person is a man or a woman. The people who say men and women can't or shouldn't be friends are insecure.

There are a lot of insecure people on this site and you can tell just by looking at the comments on this thread. I have friends of the opposite gender. I have a cousin who has a best friend of the opposite gender. I'm not sure how long he's been friends with her but he mentioned her briefly not too long ago. I have another cousin who has a friend of the opposite gender whose wedding he went to a few years ago.

He probably has more female friends than just her. It's normal to have friends of both genders. According to the logic of people who are against male-female friendships, gay and lesbian people shouldn't be friends with people of the same gender or bisexual people shouldn't have friends. I see how ridiculous this sounds. Any rational person will get how ridiculous this sounds.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

i find a lot of guys funny. if i'm born again i wanna be a make. i used to sit near a table of males in the library for instance and i would listen to their conversation and i would then pretend to sleep but i'm laughing. but i believe than a make would befriend a femake because of a romantic motive. and you simplt cannot trust such person to be your close friend because that person in times of crisis for instance with your marriage that person will not help you because that oerson would wanna f you. i mean let's be real. so even if you wanna be a close friend you gotta maintain some distance. DISCIPLINE that's what people lack nowadays that's why they fall into immorality and sin. and you know what's so funny these immoral people have the fuckinh nerve to judge me whwn all alonh i've been doing what is right. they should be the one judginh themselves because if i will compare myself to you you gonna be fuckinh nothinh compated I REPEAT NOTHING to the standard i put myself through. i am not narcissist i am tellinh the truth.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

I have female friends so from my perspective it's pretty chill. It unlocks a wider view on things when you hear about the experiences of someone that's or a different gender.

That being said there are two things you need to make sure off before you go around calling s guy your friend:

1. Is he gay?
2. Is he straight but in a relationship?

This is important because too many times girls will find themselves befriending a guy who just wants to date them but doesn't have the backbone to be direct about it. It's WAY more common than girls think and you'll find a girl saying "he's my bestie" while he's staying up all night staring at her pictures.

As a general rule I would recommend staying away from straight single guys at first until you get a feel for it. Then if you do end up befriending a guy who genuinely has 0 interst in you then congrats just be careful

ohshee · Accepted Answer

Well there's different types of male friends I have no friends that we are all into the same thing racing bikes racing cars motors building things fixing things trading things because they have metal they have whatever you might need to do a job to build something and those guys are my pretty good friends but I also have to say I have more friends that are girls so I think I know what you're asking and even though they are my friends and not my girlfriend's there's a lot of people that get jealous because they hang out at my house or we do things together the people have to understand we do things together because we are friends and that's it so are you saying that you have no male friends whatsoever if you ever want to chat hit me up if you get bored or whatever

Secretlyy · Answer

It depends on the type of male friends that you socialize with! Every guy does not have the same attitude. From my experiences; I have came across one specific kind and that was all I ever really known!! Males that are rude, arrogant, bold, impatient, unsympathetic, aggressive, s**ually impulsive, disgusting, competitive, unreliable, sadistic, selfish, short tempered, closed minded, reckless, abusive, violent, loud, ignorant, overly critical, unhelpful, a horrible listener, a professional hypocrite, and wasn't very good at paying attention or holding conversations... But regardless of gender; every male and female that I befriended in my life was exactly like this; including my own sick family that are now officially disowned as of today!!! The individuals whom I haven't yet had the pleasure of meeting would be decent people that are calm, patient, careful, loyal, understanding, respectful, sane, loving, well mannered, gentle, soft spoken, trustworthy, dependable, smart, open minded, intelligent, honest, warm hearted, clean cut, responsible, a peacemaker, a good listener, doesn't take advantage of anybody, and treats everyone fairly.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Kinda like having girl friends but they’re guys and there hardly ever any drama.
Honestly prefer guy friends because they’re usually so much more honest, chilled, don’t backstab you, they aren’t catty, literally push you to go hard at the gym (girls usually muck around)…
Of course then there’s the constant sexual jokes (not towards me but just in general)
Often they’re like little kids lol, always gaming, laugh and much around like kids which can be annoying but sometimes nice to just be like that and around that.

globetrotter22 · Answer

I have had only one long time female platonic friend. It only works because:

1) Neither one of us are attracted to each other.

2) She respects me. She’s had her bitchy moments but she always apologized after she calmed down and/or later realized what she said or did wasn’t cool.

3) She listens to me and actually knows that a man’s life isn’t a bunch of easy going rainbows and unicorns.

4) She’s non political (rare nowadays). Although she’s a hippie type she doesn’t give a shit about politics. Rather she cares about life.

Now these scenarios aren’t impossible but they are rare. What’s more common is a girl who strings along an interested (nice) guy by playing dumb for her own ends while conveniently labeling him a “friend”.

Guys can do this too. But we don’t go out of our way looking for female “friends” to take advantage of.

faithgrace4u · Answer

More fun at my school I'm not friends with the girls bc most of them are snobby and disgusting and don't like me bc i'm a little more tomboy and can be rude sometimes only if they are first usually also the guys are fun you can play baseball and football and they'll let you play you can talk to the guys about a lot of stuff and they get it they are way for fun and kind. Also you may learn some stuff that you don't want to hear but soon it kinda gets out shined from the positive from hanging out with guys. Let me tell you once I found my group of friends that go to another school I was kinda surprised they were nice bc at my school all the girls are mean and the boys are awesome

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Same as any other friend.
The majority of my friends are guys; I've always been that way growing up. It seems like it's easier for me to befriend guys over girls for whatever reason- probably because most guys aren't as catty, dramatic, and messy as girls are (no offense ladies, but that's usually the case when you're around other women).

Not to mention they tend to be more straightforward. I ask them for advice on everything from dating to food and rather than sugarcoat and tell me what I want to hear, they tell me the truth: even if it's not what I want to hear, lol.

And before anyone says, "You can't be friends with the opposite sex! Someone always falls for the other!" Please don't : That question has been asked on here SO many times, and many of us can attest that it is very possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex without any attraction there.

TruthBringer · Answer

There is no such thing as a true platonic friendship between a guy and a girl. At least not in general. Here is why:

dustybiker · Answer

Just like brothers, but ones you get to choose. They know you well and all the buttons to push that trigger your emotions, they take advantage of it for laughs or make your fess up to something. Unlike a brother you don’t get along with, they never hurt you though, and always have your back. It’s comforting. I feel like I’ve been to therapy after a group night out with them.

TransAm85 · Answer

I'm around guys all day long. My husband and I have an auto shop. Men are simpler and easier to get along with to be honest. They talk shit about each other like women, but you could be in a room w/all men that you don't know and there's no stressor. Women judge from immediate eye contact. Guys are easy going, can talk about anything from what you ate last night to who's trying that new protein shake to who's wife is possessive! lol

youngmix · Answer

It's great because I believe that they are great people. Almost all of them are in relationships, and we spend a lot of time together. They seem to treat me like they do their male friends, but sometimes they're a little sensitive with me, like they don't tear into me like they do each other.

MTC29 · Answer

Men will take a secret to the grave.

We are fishing down in Baja and after we get back ashore the crew is banging whores, even the guys are married, but no one will ever say a word.

Having male friends means loyalty.

Birdlegs · Answer

Having guys friends for a woman means that
1. It’s comforting having a guy around for protection
2. Guys are more activity oriented in friendships than girls are so that’s a change many girls like to have
3. Guys are generally very straightforward
4. Guys generally aren’t very dramatic about issues
There was more but I forgot the rest

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Likely the same it is for guys to have girls as friends.

it gives life and conversations a different perspective.

i was out last night, this morning with a bunch of girls and I think at one point I was the only guy.

it’s a laugh, they dragged me out and we all got drunk although some got high and drunk.

IveGotNoName · Answer

I basically only have guy friends, but I don't see any of them a lot because of university. I don't do well with all the drama that inevitably comes with having girl friends. Guys are very straight forward, it's nice, but sometimes a little too straightforward as well xD

more_than_a_guy · Answer

I think platonic feelings from a man to his female friend is rare. At least at a point in time he must have thought of her. I made a mytake on this:

EllaNella · Answer

It's just like having female friends. they're fun, we joke around and do stuff we enjoy doing together

007kingifrit · Answer

one of the hardest life lessons to learn for young girls is... you don't have male friends

males and females can't be just friends, the men are either waiting for her to be single or waiting to have sex with her. but they are never just her friends.

learn this fact fast and prevent heartache

FictionalCharacter · Answer

It’s nice and sad at the same time. Because guys listen and are supportive. But they’re not around much because of their busy lives.

LilyoftheLake · Answer

Dudes are so fun! Honestly, they bring so much chaotic energy and rowdiness, and I feel safer around them. At least, when they aren't being horny... :'(

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Every girl should have at least one good guy friend who won't take advantage of her  (Yes I know that to some that sounds gay, but that's their problem not mine)

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Same as female friends only but not as dramatic as then. Honestly there isn't a different. Just that male friends won't be enough sensitive like female friends.

Blackcupcake · Answer

just like having girlfriends except that they can work as a shield against weirdos approaching you lol

TheFlak38 · Answer

"Male friends"

Maggie9821 · Answer

It can be fun and challenging if you end up dating someone who doesn’t understand. I grew up with a lot of guy friends, and girls too. But I’d say at my current age they’ll always be my friends but we don’t talk daily or anything. sometimes their gfs aren’t okay with it

BLM4Ari · Answer

They tease you a lot and tend to get on your nerves but like they're your homies and you'd be considered one of the guys even tho your not a guy. They're like brothers! They always got to meet your boyfriend. Relation ships don't always work out if you end up dating a homie and the best pro of all: They got your back if somebody hurts you they better run.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I do t really differentiate between the 2. I treat my male friends about the same as I do my girl friends. Major plus though is they LOVE to eat, and so do I 😙

menina · Answer

From my experience it fun, even though there are certain things that shouldn't be discussed with a guy.

JoyGirl · Answer

It is cool, because guys cause less drama. There is a downside, tho.  One of them ends up liking you, which ruins shi… So, I try not to be too friendly with guys, anymore.

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

Theyre Fun to hang with. Always has your back, etc. Same way with female friends

Sour-rose · Answer

It becomes easy to tell who's a asshole, who's a bish, and who might have a crush on you. And who's an actual bro

Bubbles16 · Answer

If you ask me it's a great thing to have friends that are guys in fact two of my best friends are guys I mean I don't tell them some of the stuff that I tell my female friends but its helpful to have guy friends

ilikesubies · Answer

It's way less dramatic, and I generally share more interests with guys so it just works

Carina0 · Answer

I have a male close friend and he's asexual. I have so much fun with him but sometimes it's kinda stresses me because what we can talk about is limited

Kayla45 · Answer

It's nice, offers a bit of diversity if you have friends of the opposite gender as you.

Cutea · Answer

It's more fun sometimes but that also depends on the persons

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Great friends. Maybe a bit more wild and stuff but oh welll right

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

Amazing. Breaks any barriers dividing us by gender. I can be comfortable around him

In_Trance · Answer

Her: i want male friends

Guanfei · Answer

More chill, as guys usually are more straight forward and more prone to laugh at anything. I've been friend mostly with girls, and it was always fights, secrets and talks behind back.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

For me, same as having female friends except that there's no chance in hell that I'd ever fuck them.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

it's like having female friends but minus the female part.

vduong1988 · Answer

yes i have a male friends know him for 9 years we both have a lot of common he is sweet friend i love him he is caring friends ever

Anonymous · Answer

It's like having female friends except less drama, more physicality, and, if they're discreet, a lot more hanky-panky.

abendrotsun · Answer

It’s great. It helps you understand more about the other gender. Plus, I find that guys don’t get into that much drama and are way more reliable as friends. Hope this helped

Spiritofn · Answer

Honestly sus very sus. Sometimes we all almost get stabbed or robbed cause they’re dumb.

brezzybaby · Answer

I'd rather have male friends then a female ass trifling friend you can't trust

EarthRealm · Answer

I question Whether I should just ghost my best friend.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You mean a full friend zone bench of orbiting Betas, and the occasional Chad fuck buddy?

Bunny876 · Answer

It’s super fun… its like having a lot of brothers that take you places

Chrisne3 · Answer

I have work buddies i only chat with at work... Not real friends but theyre usually cool dont take anything seriously which can be good or bad but usually its good depending on their maturity levels.

zagor · Answer

Your moving expenses can be limited to buying a lot of beer.

laraWM · Answer

It's great, they are funny lol

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

If you're a girl you can have someone always ready to fuck you. And use their hope for favors.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Kinda like having an annoying ass brother tbh

Anonymous · Answer

We will pick on you a lot but we'll also be very protective of you, even when you don't want us to be lol.

Spikey_uwu · Answer

like a friend but he's a dude

LeeannaDD · Answer

Pretty much the same as female friends

Jadethedream · Answer

Same as having female friends no different for me

Joker_ · Answer

I only have female friends

MCheetah · Answer

Same as it is for females to have female friends.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Very fun, would recommend.

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