Is it a bad idea to go back to a group of friends no matter what?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering about future situations. Recently, I went back to a friend group and a girl I talked to a lot. Both have made me incredibly frustrated and annoyed. For instance, the girl was an ex of mine and she couldn't be friends and she mentally used me basically every day. The group of guys just talk sh*t on everyone at my job. During hangouts, they just smoked and blasted rap music videos. I don't know about you, but that was the most boring thing I've ever done. I don't smoke or watch videos of music. No slander on them but they basically called me lame if I didn't like it then brought up every mistake I've made and used it against me. Luckily they all work at a job I am quitting and I don't have to talk to them ever again. But Was it a mistake just going back? Is it a thing to not go back?

[HollyK21]

It’s normal to go back, but it’s not always the best idea because 9/10 they are the same personalities and situations that made you leave in the first place. Hopefully after this time you learn your lesson and don’t repeat the mistake of going back to toxic situations. Don’t overthink walking away, you don’t owe them anything and aren’t obligated to stay friends. If they still suck then cut them loose.

[Asker]

Thank you. Whenever I stopped talking to the group they would be nice one day and it made me think they changed or become nicer people. Which is never the case. I will now evaluate my friends before letting them into my life or back into my life. I always feel like I owe people loyalty or I have to try to earn a place in their hearts or life. When that shouldn't be earned.

[HollyK21]

I totally get you dude. As someone who’s always trying to be optimistic and see the best in people, I am guilty of going back to friendships I already knew I should’ve never even looked back at. But these are all lessons as we get older. We will make mistakes but the goal is to learn from them and do better for ourselves🙏

[exitseven]

you have outgrown this group. It happens to a lot of people.

[Asker]

probably I feel like I outgrew the group when we started being friends. Like the only thing we had in common was we all knew what weed was. I didn't and still don't smoke even though they keep begging me to do it. Other than weed we literally have nothing in common besides our job. Luckily I'm in the process of leaving my current job. Partly because of them but also because I've been wanting to leave for a while since I was 17 and I am 19 now.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎