Breaking my trust is probably the biggest one but hypocrisy is a close second. I'm a people pleaser and I've given too many second chances to people who really did not deserve them; its something I need to work on. But when I finally put those friendships under the microscope I saw that they'd break my trust often and were very hypocritical. Now that I have ended them I can safely say my life is extremely more enjoyable.
You don’t have to tell me all your secrets. You don’t have to agree with everything I do. You don’t always have to be there for me. You don’t need me to approve of your choices. If I call you my friend, I will love you and support you. DO NOT BETRAY ME.
Breaking my trust, toxic behavior, willfull ignorance, insulting & threatening my friends & family, actually believing conspiracy theories, making up conspiracy theories that they believe, being manipulative, and can't have any kind of conversation with them.
The same with dating, disrespect is the biggest dealbreaker... basically everything that is not good for me and bringing me down, like also intense mental health problems out of my experience
I usually avoid toxic people, the low life like those who trys to fuck up life for someone else and think they are the next Elon. And the ones that lie extremly too much.
@Gringothegango Yeah that's right. Those people really are sick in the head. I don't really understand it. They probably learn it from their parents. It's something that's difficult for them to change their views on. It's also the same for people who are homophobic/transphobic and other forms of bigotry.
Not really in the sense -> mentally chalenged but i mean actually they do have an underlying mental health issue. So yeah I rather be compassionate than fucking up the first guy who says n** to me. Racism doesn't pass on from generations. Stupidity passes on from generation , i mean if you live in a racist town , where racism is normalised Why would you ever question yourself. I becomes something normal.
In my world, friendship is cultivated over decades. They are organic. What this means is I have no deal breakers because if you are not somebody I am comfortable being around we will never be friends to start with.
I don’t really tolerate anyone - I have very few people I call friends and I never see them, they more like “fam” I known them so long. And “no new friends” really is a way to live what someone want to be your friend for they needy?
Basically if you're not trustworthy, you're not friendworthy. I'd also appreciate if they were respectful of my morals and values even if they disagreed with them.
If they say their my friend but their text messaging pattern is horrible then I might consider to be distant from them and just let them go on with their life instead of wasting my time.
My big one now is if they are flakes. like you'll agree to meet a few times and they always have some excuse to back out of it. i had a friend who constantly did this and i couldn't take it anymore.
You mean those people who act in certain ways or say certain things just to make some type of statement or politically correct statement? I find them very annoying.
Yeah something like that. Everyone has a few controversial opinions but if you always need to be controversial I think you're doing it to feel special rather than actually believe that.
I can be very vocal about certain things (like abortion rights and student loans) but I don't talk about those things just to get attention. I actually care about those topics. I haven't even asked any questions or wrote any myTakes about those subjects. Now the abortion and Roe vs. Wade posts are going to be endless because of the overturn.
But some people really talk too much about certain topics or only talk about certain things just to make apolitical statement so I think you're right about them just wanting to be special rather than believing in those things. They're being attention seekers.
Whenever i feel like people just trynna use me in the name of friendship that's it i get distant from them without a word, coz i bet those mfs know why.
If they are religious, stupid, malevolent, smell horrid, are pompous/stuck up, egotistical, judgey of preferences, boring, not funny, or don't share my interests and hobbies, I tend to avoid them.
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Insensitive, controlling, narcissistic, a liar. Once had a friend who was all of these things i tried to see her good side but i ended up letting that friendship go for good. Happy with my choice.
It's kinda difficult for people with opposing political views to be friends. It's possible to make the friendship work if both parties can agree to disagree on a lot of issues but it doesn't work for everyone. I'm not sure I can be friends with people with different political views than mine. I guess it depends on what they believe in.
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Breaking my trust is probably the biggest one but hypocrisy is a close second. I'm a people pleaser and I've given too many second chances to people who really did not deserve them; its something I need to work on. But when I finally put those friendships under the microscope I saw that they'd break my trust often and were very hypocritical. Now that I have ended them I can safely say my life is extremely more enjoyable.
You don’t have to tell me all your secrets. You don’t have to agree with everything I do. You don’t always have to be there for me. You don’t need me to approve of your choices. If I call you my friend, I will love you and support you. DO NOT BETRAY ME.
Breaking my trust, toxic behavior, willfull ignorance, insulting & threatening my friends & family, actually believing conspiracy theories, making up conspiracy theories that they believe, being manipulative, and can't have any kind of conversation with them.
The same with dating, disrespect is the biggest dealbreaker... basically everything that is not good for me and bringing me down, like also intense mental health problems out of my experience
I usually avoid toxic people, the low life like those who trys to fuck up life for someone else and think they are the next Elon. And the ones that lie extremly too much.
Being two faced and bitchy. If they are constantly talking shit about others no doubt they are talking shit about me.
I only want positive friends who bring each other up not down.
bigotry, racism, or just being an overly unpleasant to be around, that's about it.
In the world we live in racism is more of a mental ilness than an actual Opinion
People who are racist are mentally sick whatever their social class. Rich or Poor they live soemthing uncompfortable. Rather give compassion to them.
@Gringothegango Yeah that's right. Those people really are sick in the head. I don't really understand it. They probably learn it from their parents. It's something that's difficult for them to change their views on. It's also the same for people who are homophobic/transphobic and other forms of bigotry.
Not really in the sense -> mentally chalenged but i mean actually they do have an underlying mental health issue. So yeah I rather be compassionate than fucking up the first guy who says n** to me.
Racism doesn't pass on from generations.
Stupidity passes on from generation , i mean if you live in a racist town , where racism is normalised
Why would you ever question yourself. I becomes something normal.
In my world, friendship is cultivated over decades. They are organic. What this means is I have no deal breakers because if you are not somebody I am comfortable being around we will never be friends to start with.
I don’t really tolerate anyone - I have very few people I call friends and I never see them, they more like “fam” I known them so long. And “no new friends” really is a way to live what someone want to be your friend for they needy?
Basically if you're not trustworthy, you're not friendworthy. I'd also appreciate if they were respectful of my morals and values even if they disagreed with them.
If they say their my friend but their text messaging pattern is horrible then I might consider to be distant from them and just let them go on with their life instead of
wasting my time.
My big one now is if they are flakes. like you'll agree to meet a few times and they always have some excuse to back out of it. i had a friend who constantly did this and i couldn't take it anymore.
Yes mine too
People who go against the mainstream just so as they're unique.
You mean those people who act in certain ways or say certain things just to make some type of statement or politically correct statement? I find them very annoying.
Yeah something like that. Everyone has a few controversial opinions but if you always need to be controversial I think you're doing it to feel special rather than actually believe that.
I can be very vocal about certain things (like abortion rights and student loans) but I don't talk about those things just to get attention. I actually care about those topics. I haven't even asked any questions or wrote any myTakes about those subjects. Now the abortion and Roe vs. Wade posts are going to be endless because of the overturn.
But some people really talk too much about certain topics or only talk about certain things just to make apolitical statement so I think you're right about them just wanting to be special rather than believing in those things. They're being attention seekers.
* a political
Whenever i feel like people just trynna use me in the name of friendship that's it i get distant from them without a word, coz i bet those mfs know why.
I am guilty of being that kind of "friend"
Sometimes one has to learn the hard way.
guess we all gotta learn the hard way in the end
Narcissists
People who talk to much/ super loud
Show offs
and people who lie all the freaking time
Individuals that's a negative Nancy, people who think they're better than everyone else, narrow-minded individuals, Narcissistic , etc
I mean if you can’t see i’m the best than you have shit in your eyes. ;)
If they are religious, stupid, malevolent, smell horrid, are pompous/stuck up, egotistical, judgey of preferences, boring, not funny, or don't share my interests and hobbies, I tend to avoid them.
Insensitive, controlling, narcissistic, a liar. Once had a friend who was all of these things i tried to see her good side but i ended up letting that friendship go for good. Happy with my choice.
liberal vs conservative , because no way can opposites be friends. It will come up all the time.
It's kinda difficult for people with opposing political views to be friends. It's possible to make the friendship work if both parties can agree to disagree on a lot of issues but it doesn't work for everyone. I'm not sure I can be friends with people with different political views than mine. I guess it depends on what they believe in.
At this point... if the person is not willing to give love as much as i give... then its a deal breaker for me...