Have you ever had a fall out with a friend, did you ever try and fix things?

[Justneedtokno]

Well here’s my story:

I had a friend that I grew up with. We are now on two separate paths. She has three kids and I don’t. When I graduated college I came back home and I tried to reach out and hang out.
There was this one day in particular. We were both drinking and I got heat it she kick me out. I slept in my car because I was drunk and I could not drive. I lost my shoes. I know I have actions that I own and I’ve never stated that I was perfect.
But at the end of the day you’re putting my life in danger by letting me sleep in my car and I am not sober anything could’ve happened to me.

Fast forwarding to now. We started communicating slightly. Hi pretty much stopped going over there hanging. Having conversations on the phone mainly. she ended up having her third and wanted me to be a part of things. I took time because newborn children greats but I didn’t want to see the child until they were a little bit older not two days.
At this point or stage in time I don’t even know if there’s a friendship to Begin with.

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In result do you have a hard time of letting things go? What do you think about forgiveness

[legalboxers]

nope no one is worth it. But what kind of worked out was a girl I knew who did me wrong - we had a falling out - 2 years later I got so pissed I went off on her the phone - She actually was in the hospital from a heart attack. The guy she dumped me for - stressed her out so badly - she got sick and stroked out.

[Justneedtokno]

Were you l friends or were you more than friends

[legalboxers]

@Justneedtokno we teetered on it. Hooked up once or twice. But nothing more

[Justneedtokno]

Do you consider people that you hook up with a friend? Don’t you think that makes a relationship difficult friendship

[legalboxers]

@Justneedtokno didn't know it would go that way. Things just happen. I mean I still talk to them but I try not to since she's toxic

[Justneedtokno]

Yes things happen.

[legalboxers]

ty for MHO

[smilelots]

as you get older that will happen now and then , its normal to try and fix things , just know not every one can be fixed including yourself lol .. a good friend will do what is right most of the time.

[Agape93]

Yeap. Last one was a few years ago. He sent me his short stories, but one was rather... vivid in a vile what and it made me pissed and worried for his siblings. Told his father and our friends, and showed them the issue. His dad threw him out and our friends and I dropped him

[Justneedtokno]

Well it sounds like you were concerned for their safety and others. Have you checked on them to see if they if they are OK

[Agape93]

I was. Based on the story content, I feared for the safety of his sisters.

Nope, the moment he sent that to me of all people, and tried to defend it later, he became dead to me. I've check on his dad and sisters though, they're ok.

[DizzyDesii]

Plenty of times but i stopped kissin ass after high school. They’ll be aight

[ArrowheadSW]

As a teenager I did have a couple of falling outs. As an adult it has happened also. In a couple of cases, the person was so toxic that there really wouldn't be any point in trying to remain friends as there would be no reason for it. Not that I was unfriendly or mean to them, just not hanging out with them any longer.

[hahahmm]

Most friendships are shallow. Sometimes the person you thought was your friend turns out to be a back stabber. So I wouldn't get hung up on this "friend". Just move on with your life. A friendship requires both people to be interested in that. I've had to move on from lots of relatives too because I'm not going to kiss their butts when they're rude to me so it doesn't work.

[hahahmm]

And what I'm saying isn't even based on her kicking you out. Maybe you deserved to get kicked out. Depending on what you said/did. I'm just saying in general... people get too attached to someone who was never a real friend.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes but sometimes its best to say your piece and just move on.

[roy_ricky09]

Your life is not dependent on her.. Fk it and move on make new friends

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah I know I guess I wanted to have some type of connection coming home

[roy_ricky09]

But that connection hurt you right. Why want it

[Justneedtokno]

Very true I stayed away for a while but I like to know how people are doing I don’t know where trait of mine not being able to cut people off for real

[roy_ricky09]

Well to be honest, not everyone thinks or cares like you do. So you shouldn't do that, it will hurt you only. Follow me if you want.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it was just minor stuff, and we both got over it.

[msc545]

I've had this happen, tried to patch it up, and couldn't.

[NathanDavis]

fortunately, no... never

[eagle1951]

i did, and no i have not