How do you choose your friends?

[Anonymous]

Just curious to know. I myself find no good and valid reasons as of why I should have friends or search for them in the first place. All of the reasons I do have seem way too shallow for my taste...

I often wonder why people even want friends in the first place? To fulfill the empty gap inside them? To pass their free-time? Does that mean we are using our friends as assets to satisfy us and our needs, even if there is mutual care in the process? Is that selfish?

Also, do you befriend people easily or does it take you a lot of time to get to know someone?

Thank you.

[PrettyPriya]

It takes me some time to really become true friends with a person. I need to know about them before I open up. It is probably seems quite backwards to my personality which is extremely outgoing and bubbly.

I guess what I mean is that I will talk to most anyone and be pleasant and friendly to them. That doesn't mean they are my friend though. I am just being polite and it is part of my outgoing personality. I have a close group of friends that I have had for many years. Some since I was a child.

Some have moved away and I keep in contact via phone/text most of the time. One of my dearest friends lives a long ways away and we see each other once a year if we are lucky. I don't choose friends but rather become friends based on interactions. My friend group is not huge and there is no need to be.

[Sandeeppingping]

I'll answer your last question first, I'd say when I approach people or they approach me it's really easy to befriend them, the problem is in the initiation of the conversation, like sometimes I'm off to the point I don't even try to make a conversation, and I think people realize that and feel that energy so they do the same.

Now back to the original question, I actually understand what you're asking, I don't find any good reason for why I initiate friendships either, it just happens, but most people aren't my friends, they're just people I hangout with, my friends are the people that'd never talk shit about me behind my back and would defend me and even physically fight if I'm in trouble, too many people call others "friends" when they're actually fakes and just like the entertainment and the attention of hanging out

[HighValue]

The last people I became friends with were some co-workers. It took time, like close to a year of talking here and there and getting to know them, their morals, and their interests before becoming friends to where we actually would hang out outside of work. We have some things in common we like to talk about and I ride bikes with some of them. I also go bowling and play pool too. Next spring I am planning to go hiking and maybe camping with a couple of them.

[Blackcosmo]

You become friends with someone not for selfish reasons but because you love them and wish to spend time with them.

I don't usually approach people but I can befriend people easily if they seem genuine and want to be my friend. It takes time for me to open up to them. I tend to be attracted to kind, funny, and bright people because it makes me happy to be around them and they're such gems.

[melanieeeB]

The same way as I do with everyone else in my life, carefully and slowly lol
Plus they have to pass my standards on what a friend should have as a base, meaning mutual respect and everything that belongs under this category

[Little_Bumblebee]

I become friends with those I feel I vibe well with and have things in common with.
It's about how I feel and how comfortable I feel when I'm with them.
And whether I and they, want to spend time together.

[anon1903]

1. Do they have pinterest, tumblr, or at least we heart it? 2. Are they open-minded? 3. Do they have nerdy side? 4. Do I find them interesting? 5. Do I like them as company? Are they supportive when I'm about to pull off something stupid?

[NathanDavis]

they chose me... didn't leave me alone, so I was stuck with them

then I was like, alright... guess we're friends now

it's been 20 years since, lol

[jennifer_bloom]

I accept people who make me feel comfortable, do not interfere with my reputation, seem honest, respect my opinion, are available for events and offer privacy from others.

[ZS007]

it's kinda hard making friends cause everyone is usually already in a group. but the do know if i wanna hang out with new people I meet. it's the so called first impression.

[boggboss]

If your happy without friends then it dotn really matter as for why I enjoy having friends I enjoy talking to them and spending time with them its part of making life more enjoyable

[Wubs3000]

I don't my school does that for me pretty much. I just filter out who I like and don't like out of my classmates and hang out with the ones I like most. Then build friendships from there

[JDBSLAOQ]

I talk to people and enjoy it = friends

it just happens when 2 people enjoy each others presence

[Guy13]

Carefully and cautiously I’ve time. Consistency is important

[gayeki]

We've been each other's best friends since my best friend was born, and I think that's very precious.

[Rangers]

I don't, I let my girlfriend in and that's it, anyone else will only try to drive a wedge between us

[OddBeMe]

Those who dont run away after weeks of my bitching.

[AviatorTom]

You don't, they usually choose you.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Shared interests/hobbies.

[Iron_Man]

Through sports and a friend of a friend

[Dinosaursandanime65]

It’s okay to depend in each other

[have_a_good_day]

Y'all got friends?

[Anonymous]

Very, very, very carefully!