If you inherited $50,000 that was left to you, and you had a best friend that was a single mom, looking for a job, would you send her some money?

Yes or maybe buy groceries for some period of time if I knew they were in a tough spot. Friends should be that... and that's what they are for, especially when they are decent people caught off guard. It be a gift rather than loan, don't even think about making a loan to a friend.
Amount no idea...:)
@lightbulb27 you are a great example of what a friend is. That's exactly what I would have done. π
thanks for the MHO!!
yes, I would send her half.
@exitseven WOW! That is so generous of you! That's what I would do especially because the person that received the inheritance already came from a well to do family. She sent me $200, which was thoughtful and I appreciated the thought; but if the shoe was on the other foot, U would have been very generous with her and I mean very We've been friends since we were 12 years old and she knew my situation, oh well... π€·πΌββοΈ
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For me it depends how old her child is. I know what it's like to be living on a budget and trying to care for a small child. I would probably take them shopping for school clothes and help her with whatever her kid needs. I would probably spend like $1500 bucks on them before she gets a job.
If her kid is like 20 years old I'm not gonna bother giving them money unless it's like an emergency or something.
Yes, I'd give her $10 thousand and put another $10 thousand in a trust for her kid (s). And I would help her find a job.
The old adage... Give a man a fish and he will not go hungry today. Teach him to fish and he will not go hungry tomorrow.
Only if I didn't need it!! At the moment, I need at least $31,000 to keep from losing THIS house, too and, that $18,000+ that's left (from past experience) won't last very long!! 2 years, at the most!! In today's financial climate, thanks to Joe, it might not even last ONE year!!
Yes, I would give her a couple hundred to start out with
@GoodGuyBreakingBad that exactly what she got, $20O out of fifty thousand! I guess it's better than a sharp stick in her eye.
@sage2021 Yeah, that makes sense you want to make sure the money is spent wisely.
Nope! That money was meant for you. I'm sure the deceased knew pleanty of other people who need money, but wanted their hard earned money to go to your well being.
For me, that would mean improving my own financial status for the benefit of my family.
If you want to help single moms, there are ways to do so.
I, *prepares for downvotes*, would not send her anything. She chose to be a single mother.. She chose not to be able to keep a job. She's not my responsibility, if she can't stand on her own it's on her. Especially with how society treats single mothers like heroes or goddesses. My money would go to paying of debts, and the rest saved..
@worldscolide you have it all wrong here. She didn't choose to be a single mom, her husband abandoned her and her son and stole HER car and took off with another lady. Never paid them child support. She had to move back to where she came from as she was laid off from her job she had for seven years. They also laid off 5 other people the day she was laid off. She and her son were staying with friends at the time she received the inheritance. She knew this single mom was very responsible her whole life. She landed he first job at 16 and always had a job. No one ever treated the single mom lile some Goddess, just the opposite. Since he stole her car it was almost impossible to find a job. She did get lucky and a family donated a car to her - which continued to break down on her.
I know that you had a very hard life growing up and it's not much better now. I thought you would show a little bit more compassion here.
This is what we call moving the goal post. You changed your story, If i had known this, If you had this in your original description my tune might be different. Statistically MOST single mothers are single mothers by their own choice. That is what i based my response on.
If what you said is true, I would still not give her money, My wife and i would invite her to live with us in our spare bedroom rent free until she got on her feet.
This is just how i am. I dont donate money to anyone. Instead, for example to my local homeless shelter, last year i donated close to 20k worth of food. To my local animal shelter, I donated 5k worth of food and medical/pet supplies. I give stuff, NOT money. Because there is no guarantee that the money i give will go to the places it should go.
I follow this rule with people
The greatest harm can result from the best intentions.
Kindness and good intentions can be an insidious path to destruction. Sometimes doing what seems right is wrong, and can cause harm. The only counter to it is knowledge, wisdom, forethought, and understanding. Even then, that is not always enough.
I understand the husband left her, took her car and gave no child support and she lost her job.
I am curious if she learned to save money for rainy days, since she started to work at 16. Also if she has family to turn to.
@midnightmoon05 No, she didn't have family that had the means to help her. Also, the job when she was 16 wasn't for fun. She had to buy food and clothes with it. She was only in high school then.
I meant to sayβ¦. when we have to work so early onβ¦we learned to save (I hope). By the time we are married, kids.. we learned to have emergency funds.
So personally β¦ itβs time to think what I could have done or what I would do next to better myself.
To meβ¦if one canβt worked out with family β¦ itβs something I would never understand or agree. Itβs a messed up way of living that no one would care what I have to say regarding these topics.
To answer your questionβ¦
There are those who help.
There are those who enables.
We live in an enabling society.
I have four kids, and they're my main priority. But if this friend was down on her luck, I'd let her move in until she can afford a place of her own if I had the space.
Yes. I would ask what she needs and begin buying it for her.
Tbh i wouldn't need to inherit money to start helping a friend in need of help
Iβd give her $2,000 thatβs enough for one months rent.
50k isn't a lot to be helping out other people. So, no.
I only use my own money to help out others. Not money that was left to ME by a loved one.
Better: I'd buy me that nice motorbike and offer her free rides to her job interviews.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/2dRnbMX-VakNo, probably everyone I know will be asking for money
Hell no. That ain't my fault she's single, nor is it my problem.
Ohh- this was a real situation? Sorry; I thought it was a hypothetical.
I would send or buy resources.
fuck no... if she can't support herself or her kids, she needs to do something about that.
Why would I send her anything?
Friends are backstabbers
No
Enough to get her ass down to her next job
Not a chance.
Hell no.
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