Regarldess who is going, cause the important thing is to show up period. I organized a gathering among some lady friends (we all were former classmates from high school many years ago). SO I text each one to let them know the where and when. The ladies are a mix of 2 different groups of friends, but we all know each other. I had gathered in the past with the 2 groups separately. I believe we are mature enough not to hold grudges if when we were in high school we did not like this or that classmate, I think we passed that phase alrady. But each time I organize something and let each friend about it, they always ask me: "Who did you invite or who did you tell about the activity? Also they asked me "Who confirmed you?
Should I have to answer? I dont know why they want to know who I invited we all know who we are, even if as years went by we all took different paths, we all were classmates from the same high school.
I feel that by asking me that, Is like Im feeling responsible because I may had invited a friend that aother friend never was that amicable or something.
Should I answer if each of the friend asked me the same question? I know it will happen more than one will ask me WHo did you invite? Who has confirmed?
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These are GREAT questions! I used to deal with them all the time in two of my jobs. I'll answer your questions in the order you asked them:
Is it correct to be curious who is attending a gathering or you just show up? It's fine to be curious or fine to just show up. Both are normal and both are human. I personally like to know. It helps me prepare for unpleasant surprises or know what I'm going to have to talk about.
The question of "who confirmed" is RUDE. People use that answer to decide about going. That sucks and I'm sorry that happens to you. I just don't answer that question if it comes up.
Should I have to answer? Great question. I always did and my bosses gave me the okay to do so. A lot of people like to know and it seems to put them at ease so we went with making people feel good. But, the answer to your question is no, you don't have to; there's no "should". It can be awkward saying "no", though, as if it were a grand jury or meeting of the National Security Council.
Should I answer if each of the friend asked me the same question? Just be consistent. If you tell Suzie, you should tell Jackie. Don't be all over the place.
Hi. I told you. Earlier today other friends asked me who I invited and who had confirmed. I dont know if they want to know and depends on that they attend or not. For me that is dumb or immature.
in my case... I like to be sure or at least have a general ida of how is showing up to certain gatherings
only then I can plan accordingly as to which precautions I should take, more or less... lmao
Yes cuz you may have had a falling out with them