Should I tell people that my friend dated an 11 ueat old girl when he was 18/19?

[Anonymous]

A while ago I was talking to my friend and he told me he's been drinking a lot lately. I asked why, and he told me he feels incredibly guilty about something he's done in his past. I eventually got it out of him. He said he dated an 11 year old girl when he was 18/19. He said he's talking to his therapist about it. I had a couple people tell me I shouldn't be his friend but my mom and dad said since he regrets it, and he's getting help, then just leave it alone. The thing is he has 2 neices he's around sometimes and im worried for them. I feel like maybe I should tell his mom or something assuming she doesn't know. When I talked to my dad about it, he said that I should just keep it to myself and not go and tell people. Gow do you think I should deal with it?

[SteveSmith1985]

I think that if you have concerns about him harming one of his nieces, then I think it's right to tell his mother.

I think that it would be wrong to go and "tell people" in general (as your dad suggested). Especially if he is attempting to get help for it. Things change when there are specific, real-life, actual children who you're worried about coming to harm. Additionally, you aren't telling everyone in this guy's life, or the police, or anyone... aside from his mother... and only for the sake of trying to prevent harm to his nieces.

That is what I would do. It's clearly going to be seen as a betrayal by this friend. He's gonna be upset, and may never forgive you. And he may never be able to understand why you would tell his mother this. You're going to have to basically accept that.

To me , it would be worth it to have this guy pissed off with me, and to lose him as a friend. If you're genuinely worried about his nieces, you should tell his mother

[SnowedIn]

I think your dad is right. Assuming there's not something else you're not telling us, this guy did something not great when he was younger. You also didn't say there was sex. So if this guy dated the girl and now feels remorse for it and is trying to get help, I'm not sure why lots of people need to be told. If the nieces are a real [key word], then your dad or mom should deal with that with the nieces parents. Otherwise, I'd stay out of it.

[Asker]

My parents should deal with it? Why shouldn't I deal with it? I'm an adult.

[SnowedIn]

I thought based on what you said there was a connection between your parents and the friends parents.

Bottom line: do nothing.

[Asker]

My mom is friends with his mom, but I doubt my mom will tell his mom.

[Anonymous]

Carefully educate those children on what to do if shit goes wrong.

[Anonymous]

Eliminate him or tell the Bidens, they don't like competition

[Anonymous]

He is a pedo. He should be in jail.