When I have children, I would like to give them Italian names. Would most women be open to this? Especially if I’m unwilling to compromise with names?

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When it comes to something as important as the identity of your child, I am very uncompromising in that regard.

The male is the authority figure of the household. I see it as being my divine right to have final say.

I want two boys, one girl, as I don’t believe I could possibly mentally manage two girls.

I would name my three children Christiano and Christina which means “followers of Christ” and I would name the third child Benito which means “blessed”.

As a Catholic man, what better names are there?

And when I already feel such strong attachment to my choice in names, why should I compromise.

Also, I’m thinking of changing my surname as well. Even though I am of mixed Italian-Irish descent I would prefer to change my surname to Greco. Whilst still keeping my current name of Sean, which means “God is gracious”.

Which I certainly agree with, as I have seen many times over how God has been gracious and forgiving in my life, even when I doubted him or turned away.

But yes, I would like to eventually move to Italy. I will have to grind Italian language learning really hard, but I believe it can be done.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends on the woman. Some women don’t mind their partners choosing the name, other women have had their children’s names picked out for years or they want to name them after a family member. I have names that I adore for my future children and I wouldn’t be happy letting my husband have the final say, there would have to be a compromise somewhere.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

Yeah they could be if they know right from the beginning.. I gave my Pakistani names but that are English too so its just compromise I guess.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

It is only weird if you yourself aren't Italian. The other issue is that women will want a say in their kids names unless it is already discussed with their husband/partner on how they will name their children. Like one names the boys and other names the girls or if they agreed to name them after specific people, etc.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Tread VERY lightly. Be open and up front with a woman about that. Be ready for push back on this. You are creating a very very tiny pool of people willing to essentially have zero say in naming their children. You're going to have a very hard time finding anyone for that.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I'd bring this up pretty early if I were you. There's a very small pool of women who are going to be okay with this, especially outside of a traditional Italian community, and you don't warrant that wife since you can't even speak the language.

Exterminatore · Answer

I don't know but I like your idea. Gotta keep our Italian/American culture alive. Myself and many of my relatives have either Latin names or Italian names.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You don't get to. choose the gender of your kids. You could have 3 girls.
But you sound quite controlling. Good luck finding someone who accepts your stand point. Hope you're honest about things from the start so as not to waste anyones time

purplepoppy · Answer

Benito was Mussolinis first name.

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