I'm an adult, mid 30s with my own family and career. My parents are retired and aging and have become extremely hostile to get along with. It's been difficult for me my whole life. Both my parents are narcissistic and frequently beat and humiliated me as a child. As result, I pushed myself to overcome and have a very successful life, family and career. I am fully independent and emancipated from my parents. I believe this to be an extreme source of their hatred towards me.
In recent years my parents increasingly berate and demean me, my wife and my children. My dad nearly beat my toddler children because they are "too happy". We've reduced contact to a phone call maybe once a month. In my last phone call my dad said watching my children slowly die and seeing my horror will bring him euphoria. My wife and I were horrified.
I consequently severed ties with my parents, changed phone numbers, etc. Both my mom and dad are becoming increasingly more hostile and I've received warnings from my uncle and one of my siblings of their desire to commit physical harm to my family. My mom's told my siblings her only life regret wasn't aborting me. My one siblings must talk with me in private or be physically assaulted out of "discipline".
I don't know what I did wrong. If I engage in conversation with them, it basically boils down to my ultimate submission. I've committed self harm out of sheer frustration multiple times as a child and adult. This is the only thing that makes them very happy. I don't want to do this anymore or have my wife and children see it! I want them to leave me alone!!!
