My boyfriend is 33 years old, divorced and his daughter (only child) is 9 years old. We've been dating for 2 years now and the girl is the typical, effectionate daddy's little girl. She bonds better with him than the mother and is a smart kid with elaborated use of vocabulary for her age. We live with our cat Leo whom she adores very much, well that's what I thought.
4 months ago: I caught her trying to give chocolate ice-cream and chocolate cookies to Leo. Apparently she didn't it can be fatal if cats digest large portions of that. She apologized and was only treating to feed her with treats. Ok so far, it's just an innocent mistake. Kid didn't know any better.
Last week:
She got caught with articles on her cell phone about what foods can kill a cat, if chocolate ice-cream is really bad, how much can a cat eat before it gets sick, how to make a cat sick without getting caught, what's it like watching a pet dying, etc. I confiscated her cell and forwarded it to my boyfriend. She ended up crying and claiming it wasn't her that type all that and more excuses. Now the girl hates me for being a snitcher and doesn't want to speak to me.
I mean... I did the right thing in telling him right? Those were awful articles.
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I do not have children but I believe you made the right choice in doing this. Not saying this can happen but his daughter is showing a dangerous trait very early trying to deliberately kill the cat. My advice for you is to take every step with caution because that’s “daddy’s girl”. If he continues to ignore your genuine concerns then yeah uh that’s rough. There really isn’t much you can do since you are his girlfriend and not his wife. Don’t know how he or you value marriage but yeah his daughter gonna come first here.
My boyfriend is taking this very seriously. He was very hurt and sad upon seeing all those articles she had on her cell. Our cat was been rehomed to someone else. The girl is upset with me because in her own words she said that ''daddy will now take her to one of those places psychiatric facilities or clinic and that she's not crazy, she's normal''.
Neither of us are thinking about marriage at this moment but it's a possibility in the future.
Gotcha well you aren’t wrong at all. I’m glad he is taking this seriously as well. I think this situation will turn out okay but make sure she keeps getting the “help” she needs. I think you personally done everything right to be honest.
This is an awkward situation. I think you did the right thing, but no good deed goes unpunished. She’s going to hate you and really have it out for you to try and turn her dad against you. Her behavior sounds borderline sociopathic and that’s frightening in and of itself.
The cat has been rehomed to someone else and my boyfriend was indeed disturbed by the search contents on her cell. He's getting her the help she needs. The girl blames me for telling her father, that now daddy will take her to a shrink and that she's normal.
You made the right decision. Sounds like his daughter needs help. She may hate you now but I believe if she gets counseling she will probably end up thanking you one day for saying something. And even if she doesn't you still did the right thing.
My boyfriend has set up an appointment with a child therapist for next week. He saw all the contents of her cell and he was indeed disturbed by what he found. Plus before I moved in with him, she had a hampster and it went missing one day, never found again. Then today he told she asked him this question during their long conversation:
''If hypothetically speaking, it's not true but if I were guilty and really did things to my other pet and wanted to harm Leo, would you still love me daddy''.
If she supposedly isn't doing anything bad, then I assume there wouldn't be any need to ask if, to ask that question.