I got ghosted by my best friend. I knew her since 2020 and ever since we've became close. She's literally what every best friend is, caring, loving and is willing to listen to me all the time. She knows me so much and I know her too. But then she suddenly ghosted me out of nowhere saying that she needs to take a break. She even ghosted her other friends as well. I really miss her considering she's my favorite person and I can't let go of her ever. I tell her about my problems every time and I can't go a day without talking to her. But after she went I don't know what should I do. My days are becoming more depressing and I really miss her so much. What should I do? Will she be back someday? I know I can't ask her these questions but I can't stop but think.
Should I let go?
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I think for now letting go is the best option. Back in my early 20s, I had a best friend like you and in the end I made the same choice as your friend. You say she’s ghosted her friends as well, but honestly I think she’s asking them to tell you as much when really it’s just you she’s avoiding. I know that can be hurtful to hear, but it’s what I requested of my friends as well, even my family. I knew how thorough my friend would be, so I covered my bases.
The thing is, being the person that someone else leans on so much because overwhelming. Like when you write about your friend, it sounds like her presence in your life is a need more than a want, which is very codependent. For some people they would be ok with you, but for people like me and maybe your friend, there is not the same necessity to talk every day and spill everything onto my friends. It can be same case for her. Sorry you are spiraling without your friend, and if she comes back I think you should set boundaries. But learn to be ok without her for now.
She might be going through some tough times right now, especially since she said that she needed a break and she’s also ghosting her other friends. Have you asked her if anything’s going on in her life? Is she having problems? Does she ever talk to you about her issues, have you offered a listening ear? Maybe offer her some support, tell her you‘ll be around in case she needs a friend, tell her that you miss her. I think she needs you right now, my suggestion is to be patient with her and try to see things from her pov
Hey it's gonna be alright dear! If she is your best friend and thinks this way, can't you go meet her?
In case you can't just remember people come and go. It's just God's Will. Don't feel sad for separation