My dad is upset that I had to move back in with him... do you think I'm a bad mom?

[Anonymous]

I moved back into my old childhood home I still have my room... and I feel bad. I have two kids and I had to get away from my abusive husband. My dad said it ok for us to move back in... but he sometimes gets very mean to me and yell at me. He will make smart comments and keeps bringing up my husband and choices I made in life... and it makes me feel more worse. I do give him a little money and help with groceries and clean. I want to start back work soon but I'm not getting help from my husband. So it's hard to find a baby sitter. I applied for housing and daycare... I'm still on the wait list. It's been extremely hard and I been very depressed. I decided that I will go along with the divorce and put him on child support. My dad has been separated from my mom (not yet divorced) for 2 years... and he makes comments about having company over... I understand he wants to be alone and I get it. So I been calling shelters.. just to stay temporary.

[ManOnFire]

Sorry you're going through all this. Situations where you have to stay with someone else and put up with them judging or saying snide things to you is always difficult and makes you feel so much worse, I totally understand it. And for your own dad to do that is even more unfair.

I don't think it makes you a bad mother at all, because at least you're doing what you can to fix your situation for you and your kid, and in this particular separation I fully support you going after him for child support. Hang in there, it will get better at some point.

[Anonymous]

If my daughter or sister had been in an abusive relationship, the only thing I would be thinking of is how much I would want to kill that guy. The fact that your father lacks basic empathy for even his own daughter is concerning.

I don't think you're a bad mother. You did what parents are supposed to do and got your kids out of a dangerous situation.

[JetplaneJane]

On the contrary, I think you're probably a very good mom! Yeah you're in a crap situation, but that's just part of being a human sometimes. That's got nothing to do with your qualities as a mother. What I'm seeing is a woman who's doing what it takes to keep her children safe and provided for.

[chrissykerdock]

do what you have to do to be safe why consider public opinion... i guess it's hard if your father doesn't want you there but better than getting beat up by a man or possibly killed

[boggboss]

No I don't think your a bad mum from what's described

[Mrtcn01]

no he has to help you. you made bad choise but you try to correct it. dont worry deny him. focus on your life.