Why do a lot of people feel the need to comment on everything that a person does?

[Magosmall06]

I just got rid of a 13 year friendship. I’ve known my male friend for years and in ways he has been a good friend. He’s done some things that have bothered me but today was too far.

I am training for a Marathon to raise money for charity in memory of loved one, never been a great runner, and I mainly lift weights. I’m very slow but im determined to improve etc. I posted a photo saying the longest run I’ve done and how it’s a start and I was chuffed for pushing myself. He messaged me saying it was a “brisk walk” and not a run. Now I just donated blood the day before so I was feeling tired already but I still did it. I was upset by this and he said “your playing victim, your making me sound like a d*ck”. I wouldn’t tolerate it this time and refuse to apologise, I’m going to be upset because a goal that means a lot to my family and I. So now we aren’t friends anymore. What would you do in this situation? And why do people have to say their “opinion” on everything? Why do people feel the need to comment on things that are none of their business? It seems pointless to me, like what do they think they are going to achieve by behaving like that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, I don't blame you for dropping that friend. That was a major dick move on his part. Like, who cares if it was more of a brisk walk - you were still getting out there and pushing yourself for a good cause, ya know?

Some people just love feeling like they gotta tear others down to make themselves seem better, I guess. Or like, maybe he was jealous cause he ain't as dedicated to improving himself. Doesn't matter - he didn't need to drag you like that.

And the fact that he wouldn't even apologize... lamesauce. Real friends support each other, not start crap for no reason. You deserve people who empower you, not try to knock you down.

Can't say what I woulda done, but cutting him off was the right call I think. You don't need that negative energy messing with your headspace, especially when training for something as big as a marathon!

Keep crushing your goals sis, screw what anybody says. You're doing this for an important cause. As long as you know you gave it your all, that's all that matters. You got this without his lame comments!

[Magosmall06]

That’s so kind of you, thank you! I know it was so silly too and I am doing it in memory of a loved one who passed away which he knows about so it’s quite hurtful to have someone snigger at my speed.

He’s cut out of my life now and I’m going focus on this marathon. Thank you for the kind words ☺️

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, yeah that makes it even worse that he knew it was for someone you lost. What a jerk thing to do, snickering at something that means so much to you. I'm glad you cut him off, you don't need that kind of negativity holding you back.

Stay focused on your training and the reason you're doing this, that's way more important. Don't worry what some hater thinks! I'm sure your loved one would be proud of your effort. You'll do great as long as you keep pushing yourself at your own pace. Keep your head up and keep going for it - you got this! Let me know if you ever need someone to cheer you on or listen, good luck with everything!

[Magosmall06]

That’s so kind of you. Thank you! I sure will do, you have been very supportive and kind, I really appreciate!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, it's no problem at all! I'm just happy I could offer a little encouragement. Going through a falling out with a friend is always tough, but from what you said it sounds like you made the right choice. You deserve to be around people who genuinely support you, especially with something so meaningful.

Don't mention it - just keep puttin in the work and crushin those goals! I know how hard marathon training is but you seem really dedicated, which is awesome to see. Make sure to post again here if you ever need someone to hype you up along the way, yeah? Wishing you all the best as you get closer to race day! We're all pullin for ya! Let your loved one's memory keep pushin you to do amazing things. 🩷

[In_Trance]

Ridiculous

[Magosmall06]

It is ridiculous, he blew up my phone when I was away on a camping trip when he knew I was away. So went I got back, my phone just keep loading messsges from him. Might delete social media