Why do people feel the need to comment on someone who spends a lot of time alone and tell them they’re lonely?

[Anonymous]

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7 mo

How do you get past being misunderstood? Personally I’m not a party girl or really outgoing.

[Anonymous]

Because living life is both a blessing and a curse. People may play "the game" of life. But that doesn't mean they enjoy it all the time or even half the time. Most people are slaves to thier lifestyle. They work jobs the don't like, maintain friendships with people they don't care for, and form relationships with men they don't love. They would many times like to checkout of it all and just do what they want. But if they do that they'll lose thier place in line so to speak.

So here you come and you have the audacity to choose not to play this game. That's not fair! Why do you get a pass? Well you know what if you're going to take the easy way out and choose to be alone then other women are going to ridicule you and make you feel less for it.

OK. Now I know you're saying to yourself, "what is this fool talking about I didn't choose this"! This is the point. These women do not care! All they know is they're having to deal with problems that you're not. They're not even looking at it from your perspective. Because these women have likely been running this "treadmill" their entire life. Her entire life is a facade. She can't even remember a time when she wasn't pretending for someone. All she knows or cares about is to her it's not fair. And so she's going to make you pay.

[ArrowheadSW]

It doesn't always make sense. A lot of people who spend a fair amount of time alone are not lonely people.

[Asker]

I feel more lonely in relationships I’ve had recently. And it’s usually like women much older than myself who guilt me into getting a guy to just at least hang out with. Like I really feel ok being alone but these people make me feel lonely.

[ArrowheadSW]

They are being presumptuous. Some people just like more alone time. They are wrong for just assuming that you need to be partnered up, in my opinion.

[Asker]

Well it’s especially hard when you have a mental health problem like depression and they tell you to find someone to be there with you. Lol. Oh ok so someone to stress me out more? Lol 😂
I’m just picky with who I spend time with and I’m weeding out the jerks.

[ArrowheadSW]

Right. Just "having someone to be with you" isn't always the right thing. And if it is someone who causes you problems, it will make it worse! LOL...

[Asker]

I hope to eventually meet someone. I have so much to offer. Just gotta keep my head high.