My dad recently accused me of being all about myself, telling me I shouldn’t ask my mum for any guidance at my age, that all I ever do is talk about myself and that it bores people, that I’m meant to take responsibility for myself. I pointed out that he sits on the couch all day, watching tv and drinking every night and that he can’t possibly know what I talk about, because he’s uninterested in me to the point where he doesn’t even know my favourite colour; and he admitted that he doesn’t. I pointed out that the only time he ever talks to me is to be critical. So that was it. My situation is this, that I live with my parents, because I can’t work, because I have major depression and anxiety disorder and I have no energy. I have no money, so I can’t afford to move out. I’m grateful for all my parents have done, however I feel like it’s time to move out. So I’ve started preparing an application for public housing. While I wait for it to happen, how do I make the best of a bad situation?
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My dad and I don’t get on. How do I make the best of a bad situation, until I can get housing?
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I’m not looking for sympathy, as much as I appreciate the good intentions, nor am I looking for a lecture about what a great dad I’ve got. Good or not, we don’t get on and I’m sick of his personal attacks.
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If you can live there and resolve your emotional issues, do that... if you cannot and they are the source of it, then hopefully you can find stable place elsewhere. I just don't like the sound of that.
There's plenty of help available, but you have to do the work. Need pointers, lmk. It's not rocket science, but it is work at that age.
It took me into my 30's to just get started figuring myself out... although I was well established financially and all, I had a lot of stress and it took me down. Much life is ahead after 30's...
What don’t you like the sound of?
being unfit to work and having public housing. that in my world, becomes a trap that is hard to get out of because it's demotivating to get out of it. more pressure. better if can heal under secure roof, get stable financiall and work and move out while succeeding.
That’s not possible though. I have two choices, stay here, forever, or move into public housing.