Look first of all, I am very sorry for my friends lost of her dad. She lost him three weeks ago and she’s been sad ever since. I did give her space to grieve and still am. So I wanted to lighten up the mood a bit. So she looked depressed looking at her phone. I was like, “Hey girl. What’s a matter did you forget to lighten up.” She looked up at me, and said “Huh?” I sarcastically said, “Huh? You need me girl! Did you forget to have a sense of humor?
She laughed. I was like, “Yes I got her to laugh!”
Then later, brother and her showed me an obituary of their father which is so nice. I told her brother, “You seriously are a split image of your father. You do. I don’t know about your sister.” They both said she’s has a mixture of her mom and dad. She said she looks like her mom but others said I look like dad. I disagree. I don’t see the resemblance. She looks like her mom. I said, “I don’t know about your sister. If she says she looks like her crazy ass mother, that’s a huge problem.” You should have seen their faces. Her brother laughed and said, “DAMMNNNN (my name) that’s cold! (His sister name) that’s your best friend! YOU have to put up with her. She laughed and she said, “Wow that was messed up! Im grieving about my dad and you said a dark joke like this.” I knew her laugh was fake but I said, “I was just joking! I was trying to lighten up the mood. I hate seeing you hurt. You can’t walk around being sad all the time. I gotta mess with you. I was just cheering up.
Then later I texted her but she hasn’t responded. Look I wasn’t trying to be a jerk. I was trying to make her laugh and lighten up the mood.
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There's a thin line between joking and hurting someone.
What 'you' think is funny might not be fun to the other person. And that too at a sensitive time like this when her father passed away recently.
People spend weeks, months in grief and she's just 3 weeks into it.
Be thoughtful of what you say and it's best being silent if you can't really say something nice.
Give her time and space. She'll come back to you.
I have a lot of sympathy to her, her brother and her family. My condolences to all of them, but I was just trying to lighten up the mood! Trying to make her laugh.
Even if your intention was good your execution wasn't.
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Your joke just showed lack of sympathy for her situation, I don't know how you expected to cheer her up by involving the thing she's down about, you should've seen this reaction coming.
I didn’t lack sympathy! I have a lot of sympathy to her, her brother and her family. My condolences to all of them, but I was just trying to lighten up the mood! Trying to make her laugh.
You might not have lacked it but that's how it comes out, imagine someone you care about dies and she makes a joke, it's just a serious situation I guess and the joke should've been completely off topic if there was going to be a joke in the first place.
It was off topic! I wasn’t making a joke about her dads death. That’s uncalled for,
I was trying to lighten up the mood. I wanted to make her smile
Yea but you brought up her dad, that only reminded her more, I guess your heart was in the right place but the reality is that with deaths, there's no cheering up, it's a full process of grief, the situation was just far too serious to consider making space for that joke, it's possible she knows you were just trying to make her feel better she is probably not responding cause she is grieving and is in her longer vibes, which usually happens to people that are grieving.
Look I understand she is hurt but she can’t be sad all the time. I told her that. I had to light up the mood
Well she will be sad for as long as she has to be until she builds the energy to help herself back up again, all you should do is be there when she needs your support,
not right time to joke
I was trying to lighten up the mood. You can’t be sad all the time.