Are most people in the middle of a bell curve?

[ChicanaChick]

Perhaps you can tell by my nickname (US woman with Mexican family), I was raised differently at home. For instance saying thank you and manners was a must. My parents were protective and somewhat strict with me. They tried to raised me with religion and god. However, I rebellled as soon as I moved out within my first year of college and came out as an atheist. Once you're an adult, your parents can't do much anymore. Game over for them.

I find myself right in the middle. I thought I was turning into a party girl but frequent discos get me bored too. Some days I just like going hiking or once in a while traveling to learn different cultures. Other days I just want to stay at home and mix the ingredients, learn a new recipe besides Mexican food. I'm neither a wild girl nor the ''Sandra Dee'' (all innocent and too goody) type my parents would've wanted.

Are most people (men and women) actually in the middle, not extremely wild (into parties and/or sleeping around like no tomorrow) but not a total goody-two shoes, super religous and devoted either.

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2 mo

I'm definitely not a Virgin Mary type woman but not the other extreme either.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Religion is for idiots, it isn't "good", its evil, its information censorship and lies.
I'm an atheist because I value observing reality.
I hate parties and traveling, I'm not a wild person, and I'm saving myself for marriage to avoid STDs, unplanned pregnancy, child support payments, imcompatability induced divorce, etc.
I also like helping people and doing good in general, though I'm sure my idea of good differs from other's.
I dunno what you mean by "bell curve" or "being in the middle", I just do what makes sense and what I want to do. I'm still the same person I always was.

[handsomelad70]

In looks and IQ (mine is 160), I'm close to the very top.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@handsomelad70 160 is about the halfway point on IQ charts, also IQ is not accurate at determining comprehension skills and creativity, which is the actual measurement of intellect.

Also why reply to my comment with that? Are you advertizing or something? because I'm straight.

[handsomelad70]

I'm not advertising anything, pardner, and a 160 IQ is regarded borderline PROFOUNDLY gifted. (I could read before age three.) When I was at Windsor, Ont.'s St. Clair College in 1977, an English Comprehension test proved I spoke and understood the language at a 16.4 Grade Score, meaning the level of a first-year university Post Graduate student. (My late sister studied to be a chemical engineeer, and might have been brighter than I.) Add my boyish good looks at 70, and you've got the reason for my username And the Bell Curve was a racist, lying tome by Charles Murray which was bankrolled by white supremacist Eugenics believers, so I got you two ways to Sunday on Wednesday, laddie.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@handsomelad70 Actually its not, profoundly gifted is 200 and up on the scale, but again, IQ is a poor measurement tool.

I'm not talking about learning languages, thats more mimicry than comprehension, I'm talking about understanding concepts, abstract thinking, the a ability to be inventive, creative, problem solve, understand complexities by observation, etc.

Chemical engineering counts if they aren't just copying/memorizing other's work and actually understand and invent new uses and combinations.

No one is talking about a book, a bell curve is a graphical depiction of a probability, I was stating that I wasn't sure how it would validly apply specifically to an individual's character..

I don't care how you look, and I'm not sure why you think that (or your username) is relevant to the conversation.

[ChicanaChick]

As long as you enjoy and like what you're doing, it's great. The middle of the bell curve means that fewer are extremely to the right or extremely to the left. I would say you're balanced too. You're not one of those devoted, religious fanatics. If you waiting till marriage but at the same time a religious fanatic that thinks even masturbation is wrong, that would be extreme.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes but from my point if view there is no right or left or middle, its more like tree branches/leaves in terms of life direction for people. There is so much variance in lifestyles and personality that a bell curve analog just didn't make sense to me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm waiting till marriage for scientific/practical reasons, if infections did not exist and I could press a button to turn off my ability to reproduce without injuring myself, I'd not be a virgin still, and I'd be far less picky on who I humped.
As far as masturbation goes, of course I do that, I'd end up with severe pain and health problems if I didn't do that frequently (plus its fun).

[ChicanaChick]

Honestly your explanation is logical and makes a lot more sense than the religious folks claiming to be waiting because that's what their god wants and get married in the house of god, followed by more religious explanation.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah religion is a dedication to brain rot lol.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I think right now you're in a really good place. There's nothing wrong with you being exactly the way you are everything in moderation right. You're not a party girl but you not a square either. So that's a good thing. There's one thing that is a bit disturbing though

[ChicanaChick]

yeah nothing everything is about partying as well as not everything is about being serious

[dolemite58]

The Sandra Dee reference is so old school 😂

I think a well adjusted person is somewhere in the middle. Goody two shoes are usually trying to put on a facade to hide how they actually are. As for partying, there’s an age to do that but you definitely do burn out on it. Having the occasional drink with friends or going to a fun bbq with people is a must though.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes. Thats exactly whey the Bell curve is shaped like that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes most are a mix of good and bad, and depending on how they were raised lean more one way or another

[ChicanaChick]

True. For instance I will still say Thank you, excuse myself at dining tables if I have to go or open the door for someone if they're carrying grocery bags. However, at times (twice a month) I still like having fun and drinking with friends. I'm not into god nor religion. I've tried casual sex once out of curiosity and that simply wasn't for me.
My parents would've wanted to be the Mary Virgin type, super goody-two shoes, lol. Tha'ts just too much.

[BarryLiverstone]

The more days I live the more I value balance, discipline and fun. As you say you enjoy being social at times. I’d say lots of people have days they find challenging and others they enjoy. End of the day we are all here on Earth trying to live our best lives so I generally try to do as you said and help out

[ChicanaChick]

Indeed there is a balance and time for fun and to be serious. I find it ridiculous when some men put us in categories of which women to get married to and which to just use for pumping and dumping, that they expect us to lean more towards a Madonna archetype. The hypocrisy is they have their own fun too. They need to take a look in the mirror.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ve seen guys do that and it’s sad. Usually they are immature and shaming girls due to their own insecurities. Hang in there, be yourself and know any guy who wants to pump and dump gets dumped

[ChicanaChick]

I don't mind people just want casual dating and as long as both are on the same page and enjoying the time, that's great. If both want commitment and are ok with it, that's great too.
I do mind a lot when someone uses people. Someone that uses others and discards them like they were trash is a terrible person while faking being nice to only certain people is likely a narcissist.

[BarryLiverstone]

Agreed that too often in the beginning people fake being nice only to reveal their characters much later on. I think it’s why people go on multiple dates and can take their time to really trust someone and see how they react in different situations. Unfortunately some abuse others and that’s never ok.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’d say I’m in the middle also, but if you racked up a high enough bodycount during your “wild years” it would still be a turnoff

[Nahid1707]

We are responsible for our own actions yes

[ChicanaChick]

Exactly. My parents tried their best, tried so hard to raise me into being some type of religious, devoted Virgin Mary type woman. It backfired in the end when I became an adult.

[Nahid1707]

i don’t know you personally of course so i am not a hater.
Dating and relationships are very complex.
So, i wish you well in this too

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's why it's a bell shape.