hey guys. i had a group of really good friends in highschool. it was always us four even after highschool. we’ve been friends since 2007. two of my friends don’t live in the same town anymore. one lives six hours away (Francesca) and the other two hours (Juliana) and me and the other friend (Nicole) lives in the same town. Now they all stopped talking to me. this is what had happened. the friend that lives six hours away (Francesca) had a horrible fight with her husband. she has five kids with him. he took her phone, her car keys, license, everything from her. she she texted and called the friend that lives in same town (Nicole) to ask me if myself and Nicole can pick her up from the airport at 6pm. mind you, i work from 8am-5pm and i work 30 mins from home. by the time i get home it’s 5:30 and the airport is an hour away from my house plus traffic hour starts at 5. Nicole lives 20 mins down south from me and the air port is up north. so that alone is a 2 hour drive to pick up nicole then drive to the airport to pick up Francesca and her five kids. i told nicole that i couldn’t do it because of work. and frankly i didn’t think it was that big of an emergency. for many reasons. number one: Francesca’s entire family lives where i live so she could have asked one of them, number two: she has a best friend that lives in my town, she could have asked her. she honestly did not need me to pick her up, she had plenty of family and friends here to pick her up. after i got out of work, i texted nicole if she got someone to pick up francesca, no response. i texted her again the next day no response. i texted Francesca if she was okay, she read my message and no response. so they both legit stopped talking to me because i did not think it was an emergency to pick her up from the air port. :)
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Am I wrong for this?
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Hmmm it's an interesting predicament 🤔
Well to answer your question. I wouldn't necessarily say you're an asshole for what you did and how you saw it. But I will say it doesn't really matter how YOU saw it. It more of matter how she did
Maybe the situation was worse than you figured it to be. Maybe not but she thought she count could on you to help her out. And to her you just blew her off and didn't think it was that important. Are they taking into consideration your point of view of the situation and the problems you would've had to get there? Nope they definitely aren't
But did you take into consideration her point of view in the situation and why she mightve needed you?🤔
Most people don't look at situations from both perspectives. Now am I say you're wrong. No, of course not. But they're not seeing it the way you are
My suggestion falls on two options. Either give them time. Or message the girl telling her explaining you situation and apologizing and how you should've took into consideration of her needing you. Un the event she's mad at you. Which she most likely is.
Now, I know what you're asking," well random Mexican on the innanet, why should I have to apologize if I wouldn't have even been able to get out on time anyway?" And to answer your question. Well simply you shouldn't. But it's not about needing to it's more about healing this ," wound" between you two. or three cause they probably talking shit about you honestly
Anyway unless you don't want to be friends with them then fuck both them
What message did you give her…that you cannot?
Is it true you would wsnt to help her? If so a better communication is…i can get there x oclock…does that work?
A cold ‘NO’ is a hard rejection at times.
i told her that i couldn’t because of work and i don’t really think it was an emergency
That was a good message to end a relationship…if that wad the intent. I've had these problem’s… if you dint understand then you have some learning to do or something else is wrong. In short… you denied her need flat cold and negsted her feeling of urgency… it hurt her feelings. So emotional connection is broken.
better keep distance
they already talked about everything without u n decided
yeah we haven’t talked since November