Why do I always want to have my things separated from other people's stuff?

[echoflowerrr]

Right now, I'm sharing a room with my sister. We have a nightstand where I have two of the drawers and she has two, and then we both have some of my things, like figured and everything, on one half, and she has hers on her half. I genuinely can't stand it when she puts anything of hers on top of a book I have on the nightstand. We also have this plastic box that was bought for us both to share to put our books in since I was keeping all of mine on top of the nightstand. My little sister has some books but she's never actually read them, since she's more of a person who likes to watch shows and everything instead. I have maybe a little over 10 books, those ones being the ones I couldn't fit in the bigger drawer in the nightstand, and I've finished most of them but I'm still reading some. For some reason I hate having our things in the same spot, so obviously I don't like having our books in the same box. Kind of because I'm worried about the books I have that aren't hardcover getting bent, but I also just don't like the fact that our books are in the same place. Basically I don't like my things being in the same place as hers at all. I don't know if I feel the same with other people since I haven't shared a room with anyone but her, other than when I was younger which was me and her sharing a room, plus our other sister, but at the time I was still way younger so it didn't bother me having my stuff mixed up with theirs. I'm not sure what it is that bothers and kinda annoys me so much about having my things with my sisters, and I feel like it's probably just me being dramatic.

[Explorer91]

I think this is a normal feeling. A lot of children have their OWN room. You do not. You share yours. So its natural to want at least some of your own space. Having my own room as a child made me feel like i had my own separate identity to my sister. My room was the colour I wanted. Things were how I wanted. It represented ME. Your sisters stuff all mixed in with yours makes you probably feel what I or any other child would feel. I do not see anything wrong with your reaction. My sister and me would get angry if we even entered the other persons room without permission LOL.

[echoflowerrr]

Thank you lol. My parents said like two days ago that I would've had my own room if my step-brother was a girl and it kinda makes sense ig, but doesn't really make me feel any less bothered about everything.

[Explorer91]

My dad had to share his room growing up with his two brothers ( 3 in the room) and his sister got her own room because she was a girl. He had a lot of resentment to that. I think what you are feeling is normal.

[Cutegirl06]

You're not being dramatic. Everyone needs boundaries and it sounds like you're trying to set them with your sister. I used to share a room with my younger sister being younger it didn't bother me if our stuff was together. It's completely normal as we get older we need to have boundaries from not only our siblings but from friends. You're definitely not being dramatic.

[Cutegirl06]

Thanks for MHO

[WhitneySnow]

I get it. I don’t share a room with my sister, but I value my privacy and I feel the same way you do.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It makes sense, humans just feel comfortable knowing all the things they own are together

[Paulychicagoluv]

It happens as we grow up. We like to keep our stuff nice and neat and others just don't care. It's part of life sometimes

[Celticwolf78]

Sisters should always get along with each other

[echoflowerrr]

We get along, we argue sometimes and everything but we do get along. It just bothers me having my stuff mixed with hers.