I'm starting to feel weird towards my best friend?

[sheikalana]

We've been friends for eight years now. We know a lot about each other's lives and been there for each other in tough moments. We don't see each other all the time but when we do we usually go to each other's house and prepare a home cooked meal. I don't know why I feel that something is off and that we're slowly distancing from each other.

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1 mo

Some of you seem to be pretty judgmental and jump into conclusions too quickly. My friend is a gay man in a relationship. I am married. Happily married. There's nothing more than a beautiful friendship between me and my best friend. He's family to us.

[rosemilk]

that's normal, it happens more than you think

if you want, you could always try talking to them about how you are feeling a shift

[electromagnetic]

It happens sometimes but you’d be surprised how resilient your friendship might be. Try communicating your thoughts to her. It could honestly be just changing up the routine for once. So instead of going to each others places and cooking, maybe going out and getting dressed up. Or taking a trip

[sheikalana]

We're planning to take a trip during summer.

[electromagnetic]

It’ll be fun! An opportunity for you Goya to reconnect. Enjoy 😊

[Jamie05rhs]

She's probably cheating on her husband.
Whenever I have felt something off with one of my friends, this is the reason. It's because they feel guilty about something.

[sheikalana]

I'm not trying to cheat on my Husband and I do not appreciate such accusations. How would I cheat on my Husband when my friend is gay?

[Jamie05rhs]

@sheikalana I was not talking about you! I was talking about your friend!!

[sheikalana]

Apologies. Some people here completely twisted the story and started accusing me of certain things after this post and I thought you were just one of them.

[Jamie05rhs]

@sheikalana No, ma'am! I certainly was not!

[spartan55]

You don't say of this best friend is a guy or a woman which is pretty important.

[sheikalana]

He's a male best friend and he's gay.

[Jamie05rhs]

@spartan55 Yeah, I guess that is important! Since I assumed it was a woman!

[spartan55]

@Jamie05rhs
Totally. Maybe it was just an oversight

[spartan55]

Not that there is anything wrong with it.

[IslaTheWitch]

fluctuations of emotions happen in every relationship but if you feel bad with it tell him about your observations and talk to him about it. You are friends

[handsomelad70]

I OFTEN feel weird about my best friend.

[Wiredone]

A strong friendship never separates. You might get involved in daily lives but the ties are still always there

[MemeSupreme]

that's normal

you can be emotionally immature like me and let it happen or try to change it lol what do you plan on doin

[sheikalana]

I think I'll just let it happen and go with the flow but it's bothering me I've been thinking about it a lot.

[MemeSupreme]

did he start dating someone or something like that

feel like some guy friends I've had distanced themselves from me bc of their girlfriend

[sheikalana]

No, he's been with the same partner for ages and they're gay.

[midnightmoon05]

Is this a guy or girl?
things change in life. It’s normal.

[sheikalana]

This is a male best friend.

[midnightmoon05]

Just let it be…
You have a boyfriend/husband?

[sheikalana]

I'm married.

[midnightmoon05]

Okay… I am not sure what is the concern…

[DreamLife7]

Right like if you're married why are you acting like this? Seems like she's trying to cheat on her husband

[sheikalana]

@DreamLife7 I'm not going to tolerate that type of approach. I'm happily married. My friend is gay. What are you talking about?

[DreamLife7]

@sheikalana then why are you bringing this up? No one even understands what the concern is. Move on

[rienna888]

That’s normal, as long as it’s not from one side holding resentment.

[Anonymous]

Well, consider asking her about whatever is bothering you.

[sheikalana]

The thing is that nothing's bothering me so I don't really know why I feel this way. I feel a bit silly bringing this conversation when there's nothing wrong.

[DreamLife7]

If you're "married " why are you even asking this?

[sheikalana]

What do you mean? Just because I'm married I can't have friends?

[midnightmoon05]

Did you share this “concern” with your hubby?

[sheikalana]

@midnightmoon05 not yet I'm still figuring out if I'm overthinking or if there's really something off.

[midnightmoon05]

Prob just over think…let it go…enjoy life/marriage/friendship… and gag 😂

[DreamLife7]

Right like this is ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Like what exactly?