Impossible to celebrate your birthday…😞💔?

[tfan1]

Hi all, doubt anyone cares but today is my birthday. I should be happy but it’s impossible to get happy much less celebrate my birthday. Why? Because May 23, 2005 (the day after my birthday May 22) is the day I lost my dad to esophageal cancer. It still tears me up to this day. Even though it’s been 19 years, I miss him so much. Whoever came up with time heals all wounds - is a total idiot and it’s complete bullschit! As soon as you see a picture or a video of that person gone, the wound is torn open again. 😞😢💔

[thegreenyogi]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I too lost my father to cancer. Too early for my liking and whenever birthdays or any family celebrations come round I miss him too. More than anything I miss just being able to say the word: " Dad". So I share your state of mind and only who has experienced something similar can understand. This said you are still deserving of being celebrated and congratulating yourself for having made a other trip around the sun. So Happy Damn Birthday to you!!🫶

[tfan1]

@thegreenyogi - Actually you just helped me feel a little better. My dad’s favorite cuss word was Damn. We called him CEO of the “damn” company lol. I still use it to this day even though my mom hates me saying it lol. Thank you 👍🙂

[thegreenyogi]

You're welcome!!🫶

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!!

[tfan1]

@thegreenyogi - You’re very welcome and You deserved it 👍🙂

[SandandWaves]

Birthday to you! I can relate in a little.. this sucks you're going through this. I just had a birthday, too.. I was gonna say something but, it's too sad to mention. Time doesn't heal. Try to celebrate it. Huge hug

[tfan1]

@SandandWaves *huge hug back* thank you.

[tfan1]

@SandandWaves and a happy belated birthday to you 🙂

[SandandWaves]

here's a 🎁 for you, inside with a hug for when ever you want one.
Thank you

[tfan1]

@SandandWaves. Thank you. And here’s a 🎁 wig a big hug inside for you too 👍🙂

[SandandWaves]

Thanks

[SandandWaves]

thanks, for my reward!

[tfan1]

@SandandWaves - You’re welcome. You deserve it for your kindness 🙂👍

[SandandWaves]

:) :)

[IslaTheWitch]

time heals all wounds... but if it takes too much time, ask a specialist for help...

happy birthday to you... today is today, so focus on it... tomorrow you will mourn your dad...

everything has its time... and you have to find time for yourself

[tfan1]

@islathewitch - Thank you 🙂

[Simslover92]

Happy Birthday to you and so very sorry for your loss.

[tfan1]

Thank you 🙂

[Simslover92]

You're welcome! 🙂

[LaurenM1997]

Have you tried any counselling or anything? Happy birthday

[tfan1]

Thank you and no. I couldn’t afford it even if I tried.

[LaurenM1997]

Oh I see 😞

[AviatorTom]

Try celebrating your father's birthday, rather than think of his death day.

[DishLady]

Sounds familiar. I still have trouble celebrating without my folks, esp. Mom who passed of a very odd cancer.

[tfan1]

@DishLady - I’m so sorry about your mom 💔😞

[DishLady]

Thanks. And sorry about your dad. It's a bad way to go.

[tfan1]

@DishLady Thank you. It never gets any easier and never will. 💔

[DishLady]

I know it. But try to remember the positives more than the sadness. It helps soften the sharper edges of grief and make it manageable.

[tfan1]

@DishLady 🥲👍

[elaphe]

I'm sorry to hear this. For what it's worth, happy birthday.

[tfan1]

@elaphe - Thank you 🙂

[elaphe]

My father is also deceased, but he did not die near my birthday. That has to be rough.

[ellefia]

Happy birthday to u and sorry for your loss

[tfan1]

@ellefia - Thank you 🙂

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday.

[tfan1]

Thank you 🙂

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome.😊