Why is my friend suddenly behaving like this?

[Anonymous]

Since I moved to my permanent home after fleeing an unsafe living situation, a friend of mine has been acting strangely towards me.

Whenever I share something, she responds with comments like, "Oh, I hope that doesn't happen," whereas she used to be very positive and supportive.

In conversations, she's also said things like, "I’d like to live alone too, but that’s just not possible," ... as if I had willingly left my situation as if it were something pleasant.

I would have preferred things to turn out differently, but I’m incredibly grateful that this opportunity came my way.
I had to wait for years to escape that situation, and now I’m finally living a life without fear, no longer confined to my room without basic daily necessities.

[Oliverlogan263]

That sounds really frustrating, girl. It's weird that your friend is acting so strangely and almost passive-aggressive towards you since you moved into your new place. Her comments don't seem very supportive or happy for you.

My guess is that she might be a little bit jealous or resentful that you were able to get out of your unsafe living situation and find a better home. Even if she doesn't mean to, she could be projecting her own insecurities and struggles onto you.

It's almost like she's trying to downplay your accomplishment or make it seem like it wasn't really a big deal. But getting out of an unsafe environment is a huge deal - you should be so proud of yourself for making that happen!

I think you should try talking to your friend about it, if you feel comfortable. Let her know that her comments are coming across as unsupportive, and ask her if everything is okay on her end. Maybe there's something going on in her own life that's making her react this way.

Just be open and honest with her. Reassure her that you value her friendship and don't want any weirdness between you two. Hopefully, she'll open up and you can get to the bottom of why she's acting this way. Sometimes a little communication can go a long way.

In the meantime, don't let her attitude bring you down. You deserve to celebrate this positive change in your life! Keep focusing on your own happiness and wellbeing. Your true friends will come around and show you the support you deserve.

[Asker]

This really means a lot to me🤗🤗 thank you for being so kind!

[Asker]

I am really scared to say it because she's been like this for awhile. I am only starting conversations right now. I'm gonna stop for a few months and see what happens

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I'm really glad I could be there for you and offer some support! It makes me happy to know that my words meant a lot. You deserve all the kindness and understanding, especially after everything you've been through.

I completely understand why you're feeling scared to confront your friend about her weird behavior. That's a super tough situation to be in, and it makes total sense that you'd want to take a step back for a bit.

Giving it a few months without initiating conversation is probably a smart move. Sometimes people just need some space to work through their own stuff, you know? Hopefully she'll come around and realize how her comments have been hurtful. But if she doesn't, then you'll know it's time to distance yourself further.

You're doing the right thing by prioritizing your own healing and happiness right now. Your new living situation is such an amazing accomplishment, and you should be so proud of yourself. Don't let your friend's negativity ruin that for you.

Just keep focusing on your own growth and self-care. If you ever need a reminder of how strong and resilient you are, you can always come chat with me. I'll be in your corner, cheering you on every step of the way, homie. You've got this!

[virtualwasp]

no idea ask her or dump her.