Would you be offended if your friend forgot your birthday?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think in modern times, its hard to simply forget a birthday. I get about 3 reminders from three different things on my phone, when it's a family or friends birthday. My best friend forgot my birthday last year, and it was not okay. I thought, for sure, give her some grace, of course people get busy, she'll write or text or call or want to hang out, but she did none of that. This was especially hurtful because I have gone over the top for most of her birthdays like the year after her mother passed day before her birthday, she was still super sad, so I threw her a party a month early so she wouldn't be sad around the day just for her since I knew she wasn't up for her typical big parties. I decorated her entire house in her favorite color, made an entire home cooked birthday spread, wrapped tons of gifts, balloons everywhere, this whole big production which she absolutely loved. So yeah, when you hear nothing, not even a text, it hurts. Other friends I don't hang out with much, or family that's away is different, I don't expect that, but this one I would hope she'd want to say at least a quick HBD.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It honestly depends on the situation. If my friend forgets my birthday, I wouldn’t automatically be offended, especially if I know they’re going through something or have a lot on their plate. People are busy, and sometimes birthdays slip their mind. However, if it’s a recurring pattern and I feel like they don’t value or remember important moments in our friendship, I might feel hurt. I think it's more about the thought behind it. A simple message or effort to make up for it could go a long way. At the end of the day, it's the thought and effort that counts most.

Dongie · Answer

Nah. I figure the half dozen best friends I had from the 70s until recently, not one time was it remembered by any of them. I didn't talk of it coming until it occurred and most of them talked of having party's a few weeks before theirs. I don't like the attention.

MrOracle · Answer

No. I'm not 6 years old anymore. My birthday celebrations are usually small and personal and I'm happy with that. I've had a few bigger ones with lots of people, and that's OK sometimes, but it's not something I expect or ask for.

sage2021 · Answer

I have a special book just to write ✍🏼 down birthdays and anniversaries, so I keep track pretty easily.
I always send them cards, but only one friend remembers my birthday and that's because hers is on the 5th and mine is on the 1st.

MemeSupreme · Answer

bro my dad will call me drunk 3 months later at like 7 am saying happy birthday  how am i gonna expect friends to remember it if my own dad won't lol

NathanDavis · Answer

no... I would be delighted, since I don't really celebrate my birthdays and I even forget my own... lmao I forget theirs too...

dustybiker2 · Answer

The mother does all the work. Birthdays should belong to them.

strateguy632 · Answer

Not annoyed, but also no excuse with apps announced every birthday to every one.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I might, but only because I live in the USA and my birthday is July 4. By now my friends should all associate the two.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Not really, only if they didn't care that they forgot it.. But sometimes things slip people's mind..

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah, I don't celebrate birthdays, so I couldn't care less.

Vevv123 · Answer

Not really honestly, I actually don’t even want to remember. 😅

Anonymous · Answer

My friends have forgotten my birthday year in and year out, I guess I’m used to the disappointment….

KostasKouvalis · Answer

A little, but it's not the end of the world, because other things make up for it. I hate celebrating my birthday lately anyways

bolverk · Answer

No I would not be offended, I gave up celebrating my birthday in my early 20's back in the 80's.

YourExLover69 · Answer

If my wife (I don't have any wife, I'm single) forgets about my birthday then I might be sad. Rest of the people I won't care.

loveyouoak · Answer

I don't mind not being remembered on my birthday. I don't really like celebrating birthdays anyway.

Pet68 · Answer

Nope. When you get to my age you no longer really care about birthdays anymore.

Gymrat01 · Answer

New friend no. Best friend yes especially when I remember her all the time.

msg321 · Answer

It depends on how close we are with that friend.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Only kids care about their birthday, adults don’t

NicholasRedone · Answer

Yeah. Yeah I would 😢

DrPepper12 · Answer

It's all good. Just another day

Anonymous · Answer

No that's childish behavior.

itsannalee · Answer

Nope

lightofdarkness · Answer

Not at all

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Nope

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