Friend upset I don't want to go out on the Friday before finals?

[Mollymawk]

To start, I go to a JMC. It's the Friday before finals week, and about 5 days before I go home for the Summer. My friend, who is in my Company and spends pretty much every day with me, just texted me asking to go to Dollar General for food, and I said no. I'm busy writing 3 essays so I don't fail a class and have to retake it. I stressed this suggested she ask the DnD group (which we both are a part of and has 13 people) and she responded with "I genuinely don't like anyone in that group RN, but do your work no problem. Good luck and don't fail your class." and I feel like she's upset (because this always happens). She said she was starving so I offered some MREs from my collection but she absolutely refused.

I feel like it's an overreaction on her part, and it makes me (a people pleaser) feel incredibly bad. She always wants to spend time with me and I (an introvert who prefers solitude) deal with it but I genuinely want to be alone at times, and she knows I'm locked in on getting these essays done.

I feel like I'm in the wrong, but I know I'm not. Any advice to sooth ruffled feathers?

I should also note that our county is currently under a severe thunderstorm warning and I don't want to walk 1.5 miles both ways in a thunderstorm (nobody in the friend group has a car).

[Screenwriter]

Take care of YOU and your school needs FIRST. She is not going to stop being your friend.

No need for you to feel guilty because you're taking care of what you have to do to pass your class. If this ALWAYS happens between you two, it sounds like you need to put more space between you and set stronger boundaries.

Explain to her that you need time alone to finish those essays and you WANT time alone to recharge after putting out all the energy it takes to do that work.

This might be hard for her to understand if she's NOT an introvert. Think through how you have to talk to her and how you have to explain it. Think about how you can compliment her, telling her what you like about her. But remind her that you need to take care of yourself so you can enjoy time with her.

If she won't accept what you're telling her, maybe it's time you part ways. Sometimes it comes down to this. But give it that old college try at first. Good luck!

[Alex-Snow]

I'm in college also and have finals coming up. Forget Dollar General... finish the essays! Try not to stress too much. I try not to and try to chill out when stressed from classes by running and (sex or masturbation)

[Danny_dan92]

Your friend is irresponsible and immature

[Anonymous]

Let it slide. She will get over it.

[In_Trance]

You're wrong