Am I wrong for cutting off my sister-in-law after her cruel message and drama?

[Anonymous]

So I’m going through different settings on my instagram. I stumbled across an old message request from my husband sister. She says “psychiatric help is free. Use the resources, we don’t know you”. Her current instagram is deactivated. Nevertheless we already don’t speak because of drama. She was last to find out we got married. I decided not to interact with my husband family because of the drama. His sister keeps in contact with husband past exes and it leads to more drama. Then she mentions in the message about me photoshopping photos of me and my husband. She keeps apologizing to me about the message explaining she didn’t know. This message comes before finding out we got married and meeting me.

[HollyK21]

Drama drama drama. The only drama I see is you looking for any excuse to cut off this man’s entire family and feel justified doing so. This man’s sister has apologized profusely and rather than accept it like a grown adult so you all can move on, you choose to punish her, hold a grudge and create the exact same thing you’re accusing her of — being drama.

[Asker]

This the harsh truth.. I was just speaking about this. I have trouble letting things go and yes I hold grudges. I feel safer doing so because too many people hurt me in life

[HollyK21]

I get it, you had issues with people in the past, plenty of us have a history of pain. The thing is, you should never make new people pay for what others did. It isn’t fair to wrap your husband up into your troubled way of navigating hard feelings. It isn’t fair to drive a wedge between him and his family for the sake of protecting yourself. Being in a relationship means you become a team, that means you have to think outside of what is solely best for you and genuinely consider how acting in your own best interest is hindering your husband.

[Asker]

Thanks so much for this! I needed this

[Anonymous]

She sounds crazy. You’re fine cutting her off.

[Nikki1989]

Do absolutely nothing. Do not accept the request, do not reply, and honestly, don't even bring it up to your husband if it's going to cause a fresh argument about a settled issue.

[Asker]

Thank you! I won’t

[molonski2]

Just forget about the stinking bitch it's not worth the grief , cut her.. life is too short for that.

[InStrictConfidence]

Ignore it. Stand over it.

One reason I doth need Instagram... don't like drama.

[AngryCarl3]

I honestly couldn't follow the drama. Has my brain become so slow in my dotage?

[slatyb]

No, you are not.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Blueoceanna]

What happened?