Should I cut my sister off entirely?

[brunner3]

My little sister and I were very close growing up. I recently moved across country and we stayed in touch. However, the last time I was in town, it was for my birthday. She didn’t speak to me at all or come to my birthday events and decided to spend time with her friends instead. Whenever I try to call or text her, she never gets back to me… I tried leaving her a voicemail explaining how I felt, and heard nothing… I’m at the point where I’m thinking about cutting her off completely and disowning her… I don’t want to, but it feels like what I need to do at this point since she won’t talk to me at all… Should I?

[OlderAndWiser]

"it feels like what I need to do at this point since she won’t talk to me at all" If she won't talk to you, what do you accomplish by cutting her off from your life? She has already done that for you. It seems that you are not being candid with yourself.

[brunner3]

Are my points valid though?

[OlderAndWiser]

It doesn't metter what anyone else thinks. If that is what you think you need to do, then why do you need others to approve of your plan?

[RobT312]

Your sister seems selfish and rude from your description.
no need to cut her off, but if it were me, I’d give up trying for a while. Give her space and distance and make her make the next move.
have her communicate with you next... stop communication with her, forget her birthday this year for example. I’ll bet she won’t like it... I think she needs to experience the same medicine to grow up.

[MyaMermaid]

Don’t cut her off, she may be in a situation that she can’t talk about or is quite difficult to discuss, be there to support her if she needs it. :)

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe you should. At least for now till she gets a little more mature.

[SlightlyEccentric]

I had close friends in high school that are now as quiet as church mice. Attempts to contact them over the years have proven a failure. I just had to accept that I was wasting my time and just had to accept the losses. Sad yes, but why get more upset over things that won't change?

[Imsmurter1]

If you two were so close growing up then I don’t think you should cut her off that would be hard on yourself and possibly her. Sometimes people drift apart not on purpose but just because of life circumstances. Maybe she just feels like this is her way of growing up or something and it’s not about you or whatever else weird reason. Anyways I would just wait for her response first before deciding on next move

[Danny_dan92]

All this for a birthday? I was expecting to read about her doing something absolutely atrocious

[brunner3]

She won’t speak to me and I don’t know why? I don’t know what to do

[rini02]

@brunner3 let her go in her way and wait and watch what she does. Keep calm and hold your patience. Did she do it without any valid reason?

[Danny_dan92]

Give her time. Then ask for clarification as to why she was giving you a cold shoulder