My boyfriends' friends don't like me very much. And the ones who do like me, want to date me. I'm always so afraid that they're going to make up lies about me to my boyfriend. He's studying abroad this semester of college, and going to parties sucks because guys hit on me and they won't leave me alone. I want to dance, and then a guy tries to dance with me. I'm so afraid my boyfriends' friends will oversee one of these events and not realize that I'm rejecting the guy...or they'll just tell my boyfriend a bold-faced lie about me. I'm so afraid of getting a phone call from my boyfriend saying "so-and-so told me they saw you flirting with a guy". I care so much about staying faithful but I feel like my boyfriends' friends are not going to help my case. If my boyfriend calls me with a rumor like this, how do I react to it? I've been totally faithful to him and haven't even danced with a guy (I've danced by myself in a big group, but nobody was touching me). How do I prove to him that they're wrong, if this ever comes up? I see them giving me dirty looks all the time and I'm so scared.
My boyfriend's friends scare me...what do I do?
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Tell your boyfriend you are genuinely worried about this happening, if you have that close an emotional understanding, he will naturally trust you and take anything anyone else tells him with a pinch of salt.
Don't worry about it, enjoy your relationship, stay in touch with your boyfriend and not just superficially. Tell him your fears. These fears are quite normal so I can't see your honesty backfiring. Follow whatever advice he gives, I expect he will be reasonable. He is in the same boat abroad remember - I was on an exchange scheme and one of the American guys was acting like he was single the whole time, complete asshole, another however remained totally true to his girlfriend despite a few German girls hitting on him like crazy.
Keep the bond between you and your boyfriend strong, and you will both trust each other no matter what others say.
You can't prove to him anything, it's your word against his friends. I'd give him a heads up you're afraid this might happen.
Wouldn't that just make me look like I had done something?
Like I said, it's trust. Either warn him now, or possibly face a phone call coming from him about things you did. If he can't trust you, then the relationship can't work, vice versa.
I see what you mean. but it's not even the "things I did"...it's the things I didn't do! haha
if they don't like you it won't work out. if you want them to like you set them up with your friends.
I don't really have many female friends, and the ones I do have are not attractive to be perfectly honest. It's not that they don't like me...they just like causing trouble. A lot of them actually want to hook up with me and it's really awkward and annoying.
That's probably why his friends don't like you. they're jealous. I don't know what your rep is like, but if you have a bad one they will give you shit for it