Will she accept my proposal if I propose to her?

[JovialJove]

We met in Community collage of 3 years duration in some other state but we belong to same place. She was my classmate. We were close but she had a boyfriend. They broke-up within 3 months. I asked her not to. but she did. I was like her 4 am friend, still I am. Whatever the problem is, where ever she wants to go, she'll call me the first. After 2-3 weeks my friend he was behind her like a mad. She was telling me that every time that she don't want to be with him. but later she accepted him. they were in live-in relationship for almost one and a half year. though we were like before. whenever she'll have fight, I'll be the one to know first from her. once she break-up, I stopped her and sent her back to him after making her understand. (that friend of mine had a girlfriend before, she was my friend too. Actually I hate him a lot.) Now they broke-up.

(** I had love a first sight. I loved her a lot that's why I don't wanted her to get hurt. Now she is perusing degree and I'm about to get a job.)

Today I told her that am gonna give her a surprise.

(That surprise is I'm gonna propose her on 14th. )

[Anonymous]

Ok if you're her 4 am friend, you know A LOT about her. What you need to do here is take things slow. You already said you have a surprise for her so if you don't give her a surprise she'll be like wtf. I don't think she'll have a problem with you taking her out to a fun place. Once again you know what she likes so just take somewhere where she likes. Call her up and tell her you have something special planned for her and you'll pick her up on the 14th. Buy her a nice boque of red roses or something that's special to her. Just something small not over the top. Then when you show up at her house tell her how you've really enjoyed talking with her all this time and you love how nice a person she is and how she makes you feel very comfortable so you want to take her to xyz place and just show her a good time:) She'll love it and make it seem like you just want to treat her to a nice time not necessarily a date. PLEASE DONT PROPOSE she will go running for the hills and you won't hear from her again.

[GuyWannaHelp]

Let me get this straight. You have known this girl for quite some time. She would always ask you she needed advice. So, you have been a good friend for a long time and you like her.

Did you ever date her? Do you know she has romantic interest in you?

If you haven't, it is very unlikely that she will say yes. Not because she doesn't like you, but because she never saw you as an romantic partner. It will probably come as an ENORMOUS surprise to her. She wouldn't know what to say and then shy away.

The best you can do is to, like DaniJ said, is to go on a date with her and go from there. If everything works out between you two, you might in year or maybe 2 years propose.

I hope this helps :)

[JovialJove]

thank you for the comment first.

Now it is going to be 4 years of knowing each other. And we had fun date every day in the collage canteen, restaurants in the weekends. when she was single she used to ask me if I have a girlfriend or not. I used to put big NO. then her reply "you probably should not get one, or I'll loose you."

When she used to say like that damn, I just wanted to kiss her and tell her that I am madly in love with her.

Now her ex has a new girlfriend. She called and told me. :(

[GuyWannaHelp]

Okay, you have known her a LOT longer than I first thought, which is a good thing :)

From what you have told me, I dn't think she knows you are in love with her. She said to you that you shouldn't get a girlfriend, because she will probably lose you. This is very sweet, but it also shows that she does not (yet) see you as a boyfriend.

You need to tell her that you feel this way about her. This can be your secret on Valentine's day. Not proposing to her, but telling her you love her.

She...

[GuyWannaHelp]

...does trust you like no one else. The fact that she calls you when she hears that her ex just got a new Girlfriend says a lot. It is very possible that she has also feelings for you, but you can't know for sure. That is why you should do confess your love to her nd hope for the best.

If you have questions, ask them! ;)

[AliceMcKay]

If you propose to your friend that you are in love with I doubt that it will end in a yes. I feel like you need a relationship before marriage, as will most people. I would tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same way, and then start dating. This is far too fast and might freak her out.

[htarmort14]

Maybe give her a necklace and then afterward develop a relationship. Don't ruin very valentine she have in the future. I know someone who ex boyfriend proposed on Christmas and her answers for two years is "NO!". Ruin every Christmas for in the future and that was a bf.

[JovialJove]

thanks for the advice. I'll look forward.

[RedSmartie]

She's not even your girlfriend and you're going to propose? Are you insane? Why don't you just ask her out first like a normal person?

[htarmort14]

Yes, I am sorry but be prepared for the shock look. If she accept it that at the moment, she is going to bail out later cause she is in shock!

[JovialJove]

she won't deny. :) I know her very much. she will say where and when. :)

[RedSmartie]

Even liking you romantically doesn't mean she'll accept a marriage proposal. She'd have to be pretty freaking insane to do that.

[CrystalMinds]

Ehm, do you actually have a relationship or something? Because it's not really clear from your story. If you don't, why would you propose to her?

[JovialJove]

actually no I don't have a girlfriend yet. fact is I don't get a girl of my type. though, the type of girl I want are either already in a relationship or they prefer to be single. And she is exactly like what I like. I told her that earlier. but I lack gut to propose her.

[CrystalMinds]

Trust me on this one, don't propose to her. Maybe start dating or something first, see how things go. Don't ask her to marry you, that's just...weird to be honest.

[DaniJ]

I don't think you should propose... I think maybe you should ask her out. That seems like a much more logical first step.

[Anonymous]

How should I know, ask her;)

[JovialJove]

i thought you could help me. :)

[Anonymous]

Hmmm...how old are you ? Have you got a job "

[guitar903]

This doesn't really sound like a good idea