the images above. Of course there are many different kinds and styles of such clothes but it is just to give you an idea.
I asked this because yesterday (Sunday) I was doing some errands at a supermarket and then I saw a lady in a tight sexy stripped dress with black boots a bit above her knees and she was with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend on the other hand was wearing normal casual men clothes. I was like what? Then I asked myself. Do guys really like their SO to be wearing tight revealing clothes that sometimes they look like prostitutes? I had seen this in several occasions, the lady looking trashy and racy and their SO, acting like their SO is some kind of trophy to them.
It is fine and I agree for a woman to wear sexy clothes to draw the attention from your SO, your crush, etc but over doing it is when it is totally wrong, that you end up looking like a hoe…. But there are women you see on streets or on stores, etc that you just ask to yourself WHY?
Do guys who like women wearing such clothes have some kind of respect to their SO or that has nothing to do with respect and you let your girl whatever they want?
What are your thoughts on this?
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Guys Would you really like your gf/partner/SO to be wearing those clothes or similar to those in public where everyone obviously will be staring at her. Would not you be uncomfortable?
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What will be the valid reason for a man to enjoy seeing his girlfriend wearing such clothes, tight, revealing, short, etc etc in public? I What do guys gain by that? Really guys? You like ur girl to be wearing similar clothes? I mean a woman can look still sexy and attractive and feel good about themselves but not with clothes super tight, super short, super revealing. Most ladies here claim they do it for themselves? Really? I have my doubts. They do it to get the attention from others is that easy.
When you want to dress sexy and revealing, Do you do it for yourself, for your partner or for other people (excluding your partner)?
Maybe she actually was a prostitute 😐 But in all seriousness xD Some guys tend to like having a girl that others ogle only to feel a boost of confidence because he can claim ownership and feel proud that guys want what's his (it's how guys compete... and it's seen a lot in how they treat their cars and show it off to other guys too)
Some girls do in fact just have a taste for tight clothes and love the feeling when they wear it. Some girls are deterred by the stares and attention, and other girls feel rewarded. I guess what I'm trying to say, is we can't really know for sure why someone does what they do. But it is possible that if they loved getting the attention they got while wearing tight clothes, their brains might have conditioned itself to have the same high they used to get from the attention from just the clothes and so to them they may actually think that they are doing it for themselves but really it's the pre-attention high that they are enjoying/feeling. It's the same phenomenon as to why men love lingerie, it's not the actual lingerie they love but the actual thought of removing it and what it leads to (most often when a female wears lingerie she wants sex). The phenomenon is called operant conditioning (specifically positive reward)
I have to take my hat off to any lady that isn't afraid to dress in whatever way she wants to! It takes real guts to not conform to a social ideal of what is aesthetically acceptable, you get judged, labelled, Society don't like anything that deviates from the "norm" Wether that be dressing overtly sexy, gothic, alternate or even too colourfully You are deemed "odd" "eccentric " "trashy" simply because your clothes arnt acceptable by the public majority, it's assumed you are a certain "type" of person because of what you wear! How ignorant is that? We are judged and shamed on what we wear, how skinny / fat tall / short pretty/ ugly basically all of our physical attributes are scrutinised I give huge kudos to the ones who don't give a shit what society think of them, who go out and do , say and wear whatever they damn please... for whatever their purpose So long as they are hurting no other being... what's the problem!
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If I were the boyfriend on the girls wearing very revealing and look like slutty clothes, I won't ever want my girl to be wearing such clothes at all, she can dress sexy and sophisticatd without looking like that
I'm sure she'd appreciate your permission "she can wear" I don't particularly like any of those outfits , as they are not my personal style, but then I'm pretty sure not everyone would like my style either... its an individual choice No one gets to tell you what to wear, it's unfortunate that people feel pressured by social bullying into not being able to wear or be what they wish If a guy told me what to wear I'd be straight out of there no looking back I ask my partner his opinion on my outfits, because I like the idea of him appreciating how I look, however that does not give him any rights to actually tell me what I wear, an opinion and a demand are very different How the hell do you expect to make any kind of meaningfull life for yourself if you constantly worry about what everyone else thinks of you... don't set yourself on fire hoping to keep someone else warm! Wear what you like... if it has a byproduct of making you feel sexy and feminine all the better
Even if I wear what I like I won't beause 1st I will wear soemthign that looks good on me and those trashy clothes noone of them look good on me I even be embarrased to wear them on public more less to the guy Im with.
Well that's fair enough if you just don't like that particular style in clothing, I don't like those items in the pics, I know they wouldn't suit me and they arnt my style , but if I seen a woman wearing them and looking good I'd think fair play to her!
When my boyfriend and I first met I was a teenager wearing heavy metal t-shirts and Adidas sneakers and I had a total tomboy look and didn't wear dresses or heels. now I wear pretty much everything except overalls or bikinis But, dressing sexy one in a while for your man like, on his birthday or a date night once in a while is okay if, he's cool with it.
I don't really dress sexy and revealing so much, more like "sharp" if I put an effort, but I do it for other people mostly these days. My wife already knows how I look at my sharpest, and she doesn't seem that impressed anymore. Whereas with other people, they get impressed and I still get compliments from girls and such and that makes me happy, and even guys seem more interested in talking to me and getting to know me when I look my best, and that makes getting new friends and acquaintances easier.
>> Guys Would you really like your gf/partner/SO to be wearing those clothes or similar to those in public where everyone obviously will be staring at her. Would not you be uncomfortable?
Well, I'm used to it. I dated some girls who dressed really sexy and you get stares and guys trying to pick up your girl and so forth. I don't get jealous of it. I do get annoyed if it gets excessive, but it's usually not so excessive unless we're going to a night club or something.
I prefer that they don't but it's like their choice as I see it. I'm not particularly a meddling type unless things are really starting to irritate me, at which point I might politely request a change and just break up if that doesn't work out.
In particular I still like it when girls get really flirty and say things like, "You're so lucky to have him" to my wife (even though it probably irritates her). And that's with no intentions of cheating on my wife, it's just feeding my ego a bit and letting me know I still have what it takes (which might somehow be useful for keeping my wife interested in me as well).
It depends on what the man is trying to achieve, that determines what he wants or likes. If he wants a bunch of dudes complimenting him... he needs to have a trophy to show off and get the pats on the back.
If he doesn't give a fuck about other dudes and just wants to keep what is his... his... why would he flaunt that in front of people that could potentially become jealous and try to take it away from him?
There is guys with millions in the bank and they look, act, and dress just like me. Then there are guys that are taking loans and they have cars, cloths, earrings, and fancy shit with money hungry bitches all over them. Some of us just enjoy a quit weekend with nobody filling it up with shit to do.
I dress for myself first and foremost to make myself good and then my boo then for the world... I dress sexy but not barely dressed to the point you don't leave anything for the imagination. I dress enough to show some curves, a little skin and still look put together. That even my boo will be proud to say i am his woman. Not be embarrassed by me...
Well, I personally keep it classy and sexy. I’m not really a fan of those things the girls are wearing, but do you. When it comes to who I’m getting dressed for it really depends. I like to look at myself in the mirror and feel good about myself. I also want my partner to look at me and go ‘ wow... you look good’ and make him let people knelt that he’s with me. I enjoy it when people in general look at me because I look good. I like the attention most of the time. So my answer would be, I dress sexy to impress whoever wants to take a look at me. I love my fans.
I think you have to get into the dynamics of the person as an individual, as part of a relationship and as part of society as a whole. The first and third party are probably mostly the girl herself, in the relationship area some boyfriends might have some input and want their girlfriend to dress that way. I think it is a lot more complicated than just doing it for someone, I have known a few girls who dress this way sometimes and as you get to know some clues come up why they do it, could be a touch of insecurity and thinking this is the only way they will get attention.
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I’m in a relationship at the moment. If we go out like to a club or bar. Or concert (which is usually our scene), I’ll dress a bit more “provocative”. (I wouldn’t even call it provocative tho tbh).
On a normal day, I usually just wear jeans (sometimes Shorts, I live in Texas. The heat is awful) and a T-shirt. Pretty average.
If we go out to, like I said a club, bar or concert, if I show cleavage; I cover up my legs (like wear jeans) but my cleavage is never excessive. Just a bit. If I show off my legs whether it’s a skirt or shorts, even a dress, I cover up my chest. I think it’s really just a balance. You asked if we did it for ourselves or for our SO. It’s mostly for myself. I could never feel comfortable being half naked in public (but it’s cool if you do. Not judging). If I really want to wear something extremely revealing, I’d only wear it for my SO in the privacy of my apartment.
BUT, women can wear whatever they want. Remember that the next time you ask why. 🤷♀️
Oh. Thanks for clearing that up. We DO have free will. I thought the government regulated the outfits the citizens wore. So glad to hear EVERYONE can do whatever they want. We didn't know that. We DO have freedom in western countries. I had no idea. So glad you cleared up that major issue.
Let's dispel a little myth here. Women who dress like the girls in the photos ALWAYS do it for the attention from others. Now, they may do it for themselves, as many of them claim, but that is true only in the sense that the attention they get from others makes them feel good about themselves. So, saying they don't do it for anyone but themselves is just pure nonsense.
And no, I would not want my SO to go out in public dressed like that, and I would not date a girl who would even want to. I'm not into trashy girls. They do absolutely nothing for me.
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That is what I meant but some guys posted here they dont care if their girl were similar clothes. I mean i be embarrased to wear those kind of clothes. Why would I want my girlfriend (If I was a guy) to be wearing that? Is tehre a valid reason for a guy to like those kind of clothes on his partner?
I totally agree with you. And I didn't mean you were saying anything different. My comments were aimed at the other women who say they are only doing it for themselves when they dress like that, which is kinda silly. They are clearly doing it for the attention of others, even if that attention is only to make them feel good about themselves. I mean there's nothing wrong with that, but they should at least be honest about it.
I have mixed feelings about this. I wouldn’t want other guys looking at my woman as if she were just another piece of meat they can get but it’s male nature to look at women so what can I do? Plus, as much as I appreciate her being almost naked I just can’t stand the fact of other people looking at her and I’ll get the impression she is planning to cheat on me because what else would a woman dress sexy for? To make me feel thankful for having her? Not even, plus men find most women to be attractive anyways. I wouldn’t want to control what my girlfriend wears but modesty will always be appreciated. At least for me of course. I don’t think like it when people assume that I’m only with her just to show off like “Haha look at me! I got a sexy ass girlfriend and you don’t.” My girlfriend is my partner not some trophy for me to brag about.
When I'm getting ready to go out on a date with my fiance, he's usually with me when I'm trying to decide on what to wear. He helps me choose my clothes. If he picks my revealing ones, I don't object since they're still respectable anyway. He's mainly who I please when we're out together. When I go out without him, I dress for myself which isn't far from what he would have picked out for me.
Well I think there’s a fine difference of stay sexy and classy vs sexy trashy lol.
I mainly dress sexy for myself and my man. I don’t need to impress anyone else when I’m taken and gotta love yourself. Dress good to feel good and confident. 😉
Well I don't know why taken women need other people’s attention when they have a man. 🤷🏼♀️
I just read your updated to your question. We are here to give you our honest opinions. If you don’t think what we said are the truth, then what’s the point of this question post? It sounds like you wanna hear that you’re right only. Of course anyone who would wanna dress good look good for themselves too.
I say women do it for ALL 3. It's human nature. Most women want to be desirable, to their man or in general to others. If my chick wore that, I'd be cool because she is mine. I know whatever happens, we are together. Plus, I love the view. lol
Also, be careful. You are sounding like you're hating.
I don't dress THAT revealing, personally. But, if I do, it's about 70 per cent for myself, 20 per cent for my man, and 10 per cent for others. Only because being checked out boosts my ego a little. But, even if people didn't look at me, I'd still enjoy my outfits lol.
I don't really care what she wears. She's mine. Other guys can look, but they can't touch. I wouldn't encourage her to dress provocatively for public, but if it's something she wants to do, fine. I'm not going to control what she wants to wear.
A guy who would try and control how she dresses just reeks of insecurity, to me.
I personally do not desire a partner who wears revealing clothing and I'm off-put by the women who do.
As for the men who don't care. About two thirds of men are promiscuous, they lead relationships out of convenience rather than emotional attachment. As long as their dick doesn't stop getting sucked off, what is there to complain about?
If it were my girlfriend, i suppose a strong sense of pride for her as seeing as she is the best dressed or goddess like being that has confidence in dressing in this bold fashion. It’s as if to say she’s flying close to the sun but far enough not to get burned. It adds a bit of danger and a compelling nature. Sure other people would stare and eye fuck, but it is something... unique, if the word fits.
I like to wear sexy clothes when I'm feeling particularly confident and I'm not going to an event that would otherwise "shame" me for dressing revealingly. So yeah sometimes, I'll go to the grocery store wearing cute things but then if I'm not feeling confident (more lazy) I'll just wear sweats. I like to dress sexy for me and for a man to remind him what he's got and not to take it for granted.
And no way I'd be attracted to a girl who dressed like that anyway. I like modesty. If she dresses sexy it better be for me. Also, when we go out to do something special I wouldn't mind a classy dress.
As far as your update goes, no I would not like for my girlfriend to wear clothes like that. Some kinds of athletic wear that are somewhat similar would be fine, but overall I wouod not like it because I do not go around in deep V-necks and transparent pants--not that anyone wants me to lol
I never wear anything as revealing as that. That would only attract unwanted attention, especially in public. And I'd definitely be against my girlfriend wearing anything revealing like that in public. Although I doubt she ever would as she's shy and humble. Sometimes I wear shirts that show a bit of cleavage at home, although not to the extreme in the photos. That's the kind of thing that want her to see and nobody else.
I don’t dress sexy all the time but when I do, it’s for me or the occasion. I don’t really consider how other people are gonna look at me unless I’m out on a friendly date. For friendly dates, I dress in tracksuits so that they don’t get the wrong message.
Update: I think some guys are into that because they treat their girl like a trophy. She looks like a whole meal that every other man wants to devour but they simply can’t have. Some guys just like to show off their girls body for the social praise that is disguised by jealousy among their peers. Also... I know you don’t believe it but not every woman who chooses to dress sexy does it for other people’s attention. Maybe most, but not all.
Looking presentable, groomed and nice to feel good in ourselves is a different thing altogether from dressing sexy to garner people's attention. They are strategically trying to get some thing happening but not just to get men's attention.
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