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Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material

This post is inspired by two GaG's questions I recently came across. One was about why a guy doesn't call after having a girl's phone number. The other was about the things a girl says or does that could be turn-offs to guys.


It then dawn to me that during the courtship phase, commonly known the hitting on a girl or guy, the hitter drops out, much to the astonishment and dissapointment of the other party.


Based on real experiences, what reasons caused you to "unhit" a guy or girl you initially thought was girlfriend or boyfriend material? If you were the person being "hitted" upon, could you relate with any of the reasons identified below and those provided by other GaGers?


Reflecting on my own experiences, I came up with the following:


1. The thrill chaser


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The girl wants me to chase her till thy kingdom come. She answers my calls but would never honour a date invitation. She always have excuses, and yet promises to honour the next invitation. I tend to delete a girl's phone number once she fails to honour the second invitation without a good enough reason.


2. The show me you really love me girl
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


Dammit. Dating is for two. I put in my own shift, I expect yours. Sorry girl, I'm not a gentleman when it comes to courtship. I think I used to be one, but that was back in the days when chivalry was in vogue. You either like me or you don't. May be it's a personality thing. I'm an INTJ personality type; I tend to rationalise almost everything including inconsequential details during the courtship period. Once the evidence are pointing you're wasting my time, I quit. Don't come rushing back telling me or your friends, I was never serious.


3. My dad is that my mum is this girl


Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


The girl who uses her mum's or pop's or even a distant relative's successes or status to raise her social value. Girl, I'm interested in you, not the fact your dad is the ambassador of x-country or your mum is a senator or government minister or your brother was an Olympic gold medalist. You've told me that, why keep repeating the same details.


4. The boyfriends resumé brandisher


Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


This girl thought our first date was a chance to showcase her resumé of the guys she has dated with the objective of raising her social value and attraction. What she didn't know was I knew (acquaintances) two of the guys she claimed she dated. Since it was the only subject she felt comfortably talking about, I let her continue ruining her chance for a second date.


5. The Asexual girl
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


Girl, I need a pussy to extinct the flame downstairs. It got to the point she licensed me to have a sex partner as long I have her as the First Lady. I really loved you; I wished I had a way to reduce my testosterone level to 0%.


6. Sex-schedule girl
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


My goodness! This girl had a sex-timetable, when we can and cannot have sex. Her reasons had nothing to do with her monthly red flag. Nada! In fact, she wanted to be the Sex-Decider-in-Chief. She even came across as a male basher, questioning the value of men in society, and how women have to use sex to bring men to line. By doing that, I was already looking for the exit door, for a girl with a spontaneous sex inclination.


7. The large mouth girl
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


One of the worst things a girl can do to me is to rant in my ears or seeing her ranting at others. Why can't you convey your point calmly and civilly? The moment she started raising her voice and swagging her fingers and all that female gestures on to my face, she's lost the plot. I'm gone. I know swearing or foul language is a staple to some people; sadly I'm allergic to them.


8. The girl who lacks basic hygiene
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


From afar you will be forgiven for mistaking her for Naomi Campbell. On close contact, she reminded me of the male restroom. I thought it was just a one-off thing. She invited me to her apartment, I was greeted by an unpleasant smell that reminded me of the male restroom. I would have still dated her and helped her tackle the problem. Unfortunately, I fell for the other girl whom I was courting at the sametime. Call me the shrewd investor who always hedges his bet.


9. My life revolves round my child girl
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


Okay. I get it, goody mother. I would never put you in a position to choose me over your son or daughter. What was I thinking in the first place? Dating a single mum? I've never shy from dating single mums but I'm wary of my role in the whole mix including mum, kids and kids' father.


10. The "Nun"
Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material


The girl who places herself on the moral high ground. She takes her religion serious; she wants a guy who is God-fearing. God what? What does that even mean? The usual lines are, "no sex before marriage", "attend church service with me" and "praying together". In one instance, she was reciting a verse from the bible with the hope of turning me into her type of guy. By the time she finished quoting the verse, I have completed the sentences for her. She looked up to me in astonishment, and asked: "How do you know that?" Girl, I'm the sheep that got lost, I replied without providing details. If she only knew I spent 7 years in an all-male, catholic boarding college. I don't want any more tension in my life. I stay clear of "nuns".

Reasons For "Unhitting" Someone You Thought Was Girlfriend or Boyfriend Material
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