First you must define flirting, everyone has a different definition of what it means to "flirt". To me Craig isn't flirting, he is just being social. Just because a guy is socializing with you doesn't mean he is flirting with you.
I just did, Socializing and flirting are completely different. You an speak to someone and joke around with them without wanting anything more for a relationship. There is such a thing as a friend zone.
Your take isn't accurate, Craig Ferguson is married. He isn't flirting with girls, the idea that a guy is flirting with a girl anytime he is speaking to a girl is just some moron trying to push Hookup culture.
We boys are taught to be more aggressive and dogged in our pursuit of girls, whom society socialize to be coy and subtle rather than overt about their desire to bond with guys or they're labelled sluts.
Why are you so judgmental towards the end? I can't flirt, and I don't care, because there's more to life than just trying to impress women! Besides, I actually enjoy being single.
Honestly I have no need, I don't see the importance in it. I also don't trust those random guys on youtube who either come up with the cringiest stuff of just give advice so vague that its just practically useless.
1. I zoned in on one women. And I bet the entire farm on her.
2. Either I was going to have success with this one woman or the entire night was going to be loss.
3. So I go slow. Painstakingly slow, I nibble around the edges of every conversation. I play four dimensional chess, I call for a lifeline, etc.
I am just saying maybe that's a plan for failure. Now this could be cultural. But I am thinking not. But most women from my experience, determine within the first few seconds if you are worth it and if they like you. So if they like you, if you keep it light-hearted, flirt for a few minutes, then get out. . . that is not going to destroy anything or ruin you chances. And if they don't like you, you won't be wasting time.
Because my point is to keep it moving. Keep it light-hearted, have a good time. They will signal you if they want something serious.
Some people just can’t or they not good at it so they’ve given up on it. Others are low confidence self esteem social skills etc etc. And some just don’t need to.
Because I don't want to pretend to be someone I'm not. If that doesn't get me girls then I'll just have to come to terms with it. I am not changing who I am.
@RolandCuthbert I don't want to learn how to flirt because I see flirting as underhanded & repulsive. I'd rather date AI Chatbot than flirting with a woman.
I don’t even know what to say to a woman like what are we to even talk about. Being socially awkward all my life I never learned to get along with people especially with women now I’m 28 so it’s much more difficult as you can expect. Never had female companions growing up
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First you must define flirting, everyone has a different definition of what it means to "flirt". To me Craig isn't flirting, he is just being social. Just because a guy is socializing with you doesn't mean he is flirting with you.
How do you define flirting? I just gave hints about what I do. Every guy has to find what works for him. But it has to be playful.
Dude everyone who has watched his show knows he is flirtatious.
You seem to have a definition that includes wanting sex. Craig didn't want sex. He was just flirting.
You know. . . flirting is not serious, right?
I just did, Socializing and flirting are completely different. You an speak to someone and joke around with them without wanting anything more for a relationship. There is such a thing as a friend zone.
Nothing you say has to do with my "take".
I suggest for men use flirting as a way of building confidence and social skills.
Your take isn't accurate,
Craig Ferguson is married.
He isn't flirting with girls, the idea that a guy is flirting with a girl anytime he is speaking to a girl is just some moron trying to push Hookup culture.
Yeah, I don't think you understood a single word of the take.
You don't seem to have a point.
But you can write here to your heart's content.
Thanks for the support!
Because, believe it or not: Some people in this world don't care to communicate in the same manner you do. =^)
We boys are taught to be more aggressive and dogged in our pursuit of girls, whom society socialize to be coy and subtle rather than overt about their desire to bond with guys or they're labelled sluts.
Why are you so judgmental towards the end? I can't flirt, and I don't care, because there's more to life than just trying to impress women! Besides, I actually enjoy being single.
I am "judgmental" because a lot of dudes pretend that they cannot be successful so they don't even try.
If you don't want to try, just admit that. But stop pretending this is something you cannot control or correct.
Man, I hear you. I am so shy in a dating situation and can't get away from it.
Honestly I have no need, I don't see the importance in it. I also don't trust those random guys on youtube who either come up with the cringiest stuff of just give advice so vague that its just practically useless.
Nothing I said was vague. But those excuses young guys give for being alone definitely are.
Frankly I was scared of getting into trouble if I tried in nearly all circumstances. There was just little to no opportunities to safely learn.
There is plenty of opportunity if you can take the seriousness out of it
How do you take the seriousness out of it? I felt I would be facing legal and financial trouble if I did not do it right.
And that's the problem.
A recurring theme in this thread.
1. I zoned in on one women. And I bet the entire farm on her.
2. Either I was going to have success with this one woman or the entire night was going to be loss.
3. So I go slow. Painstakingly slow, I nibble around the edges of every conversation. I play four dimensional chess, I call for a lifeline, etc.
I am just saying maybe that's a plan for failure. Now this could be cultural. But I am thinking not. But most women from my experience, determine within the first few seconds if you are worth it and if they like you. So if they like you, if you keep it light-hearted, flirt for a few minutes, then get out. . . that is not going to destroy anything or ruin you chances. And if they don't like you, you won't be wasting time.
Because my point is to keep it moving. Keep it light-hearted, have a good time. They will signal you if they want something serious.
Some people just can’t or they not good at it so they’ve given up on it. Others are low confidence self esteem social skills etc etc. And some just don’t need to.
it's not something you can learn as it must come naturally or it sounds fake which sounds shity.
I never said all women were great people. Many women are just as shallow, driven by instincts, and fake as the men who are plowing them.
Because I don't want to pretend to be someone I'm not. If that doesn't get me girls then I'll just have to come to terms with it. I am not changing who I am.
How is flirting changing who you are? It is like a woman claiming putting on make up changes her personality.
Flirting actually reveals who you are to woman who could be romantic partners.
@RolandCuthbert I don't want to learn how to flirt because I see flirting as underhanded & repulsive. I'd rather date AI Chatbot than flirting with a woman.
Hey dude, I am not going to join your pity party.
It is your party and you can cry if you want to. . .
cry if you want to.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mtCIdpnQoWk
@RolandCuthbert I'm not interested in flirting because it doesn't fit with my core values.
No one is trying to force you to flirt, dude.
Just deal with the consequences like a mature adult.
I wish I had learned. No confidence - late bloomer.
But I am a late bloomer too. In high school and most of college, I sucked!
Don’t think I know how let alone speak to women. Could be gay easier to joke and talk to other guys.
This is so weird to me. I don't get it. I have never had to encourage a woman to talk. They are gonna talk and talk often all by themselves.
Women don’t seem to want to engage with me in convo they are much happier avoiding me entirely
I don't get it dude. You are way better looking than me. And what you are engaging in right now, is social interaction.
Believe it or not.
Just do this with a woman.
I don’t even know what to say to a woman like what are we to even talk about. Being socially awkward all my life I never learned to get along with people especially with women now I’m 28 so it’s much more difficult as you can expect. Never had female companions growing up
Again, you are saying stuff to me right now. I was socially awkward. And believe me. I still am. But I know how to navigate circles with females.
That did not happen overnight. It took years of practice.
Because being good at flirting doesn’t matter if she thinks you’re ugly
We have had this answer a dozen times already.
It simply isn't true. Flirting is a gateway to acquiring social skills. In order to date successfully, you have to be able to socialize.
Not true I’m very awkward and stand-offish and women love it
Of course. Women are breaking down the door to get to you.
Nice!!!
No it’s super Annoying because I don’t really want to talk to people
I know dude. Thanks for stopping by to let us know that your issue is too much attention!
Wow. . . that kind of contradicts like 90% of this take. Good job. Stop by some of these thread man.
Help some of these guys out!
I’m just a loner I don’t know if it’ll help them out haha
I'm honestly just not attractive enough to flirt without coming off as creepy.
Dude, I promise you. You are not uglier than me.
I got a 4 when I posted my photo here!
You can find the thread in my profile.
I scare patients in the burn ward
Sorry dude. I have yet to see anyone get lower than me.
Saying so much as hello or nice day gets negative reactions so
Nah, I am not seeing that. Besides, this is about the women you know. Flirting with complete strangers is kind of weird.
They’re all too busy playing video games
Yeah I look at the social dynamics of men and women differently now
I just approach.
Dude, no one thinks you have an issue getting puddingtang. You probably have a list as long as my arm.
interesting 🤔