My boyfriend says I'm pushing him away?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend going on three years and he cheated...to my standards. I saw a video of two his friends having a threesome with a girl as he record it,then this girl text him asking for him to come have sex with her. Since then I don't believe sh*t he says he kept lying about to my face even when I seen everything then he finally came out and told me but he said he didn't have sex so he didn't really cheat..I also have too add that he does do everything for me and he have been trying really hard to gain my trust but I don't know if it too late.. and lately I've been thinking about cheating.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

your boyfriend most likely cheated on u, I'm sorry but if I were you I would assume he cheated. he recorded a 3some and then one of the girls in the 3some was ready and willing to have sex with him? I doubt he turned it down. I'm just being real with you I think you deserve better than to continue dating a guy who thinks its okay to do this while he's in a relationship. if you didn't find the video you would have no idea this happened. that means he was being dishonest with you and lied (by omission). if he will cover that up he will cover up other things to. you can't believe sh*t he tells you so you might as well end it

no disrespect but the best answer is not a good answer, its hopeful and idealistic but if you go along with that you are fooling yourself. if you don't think he cheated I have a bridge in brooklyn I'd like to sell u

liltaylz911 · Accepted Answer

well your not pushing away, he did do something that broke the trust barrier. so obviously its going to take time to trust him again. since he didn't actually cheat by having sex, he doesn't think it is such a big deal. so you have to remind him of what he did wrong, because in his mind he didn't do anything, and your just being a "bitch" to him. I've been through this before. it isn't too late if you guys work together on this. and you also have to be the one to give him some space, and let him go out, to see if you actually CAN trust him again. and if your thinking of cheating, well that means your just as bad as he is.  talk to him about what he did, and explain how you feel. if he cares and loves you, he would understand how your feeling

Jermaine1502 · Accepted Answer

If I could give you my opinion, I think he has already cheated but there is always a chance that he didn't so what you need to do is find out the truth and move forward from there because your relationships will go down hill from here. As for you wanting to cheat you might be just after revenge.