Who have you turned down in the past for a relationship? Do you regret turning down them down later on, or it doesn't really bother you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd turned down a guy I had asked out before. I had asked him out because I was feeling lonely, and he was adorable and cool seeming. I learned on the date though that he isn't religious, which was important to me since I had just ended this sorta not really kinda relationship with a guy who always battered on my being Christian, he was abusive and made me suicidal. And also he did many things I didn't think I could approve of, as well as talking about having a violent history at his old school like its something to be proud of. I had known he was really tall, and I love tall guys; but I also realized he was really strong. I didn't know that before because I didn't pay much attention to it, and this made me feel intimidated because I don't like guys who're a lot stronger than me. Plus he wasn't funny and clever which is my type, he was simple and boring. Anyway, I knew that if I had dated him I'd be taking advantage of him, because he makes good money as a mechanic and I'd just be using him for companionship so I couldn't do that no.
He IS super cute and tall though, unfortunately I sit next to him in Economy and its a bit embarrassing. I do regret it sometimes, but then I just remember the reasons I said no, and also the fact that I was able to not take advantage of him.

desertflwr · Accepted Answer

tbh I've turned a lot of people down. I know what I do and don't want in a partner and I won't settle. there's only one person that I genuinely regret turning down, I wasn't really ready to date after I broke up with my ex. she took it very well and understood how I felt but when the time came that I was ready, she was dating someone. I don't know if I necessarily regret that I turned her down tho because I wasn't in a great space emotionally to start a new relationship. I guess I'm just upset at the whole of the situation. I could've had something great with her but I was so damaged and insecure of how things went with my ex that I didn't wanna give anyone a chance, I was scared to be hurt again. I'm happy that she's happy tho and I hope things work out for her and her girlfriend. if it didn't happen with her and I then it's just not in God's plan. when one door closes it's because He's waiting to open an even greater one for you.

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

I don't regret any potential relationships.

I regret turning down a friend of mine though. He was known as a player and he asked me round for a film. I knew I wasn't what he was looking for in a woman. What I didn't know what he was MND (motor neurone disease). Within a year he was bound to a wheelchair and a year later he died.
After he was in a wheelchair he shut himself off from most people. He was an entertainer, a social person and a musician. He spent his year before wheelchair experiencing everything - sailing, surfing, exploring. And after he couldn't any more... he shut himself off from the world with his parents and his girlfriend... and he died.

Piluex · Accepted Answer

Yes, I fucked up one of my pretty much no oportunities to get something qoth a girl, when I was like 13-14 I was being contacted by a childhood friend (who I had a crush on when we were younger), ahe was all excited and wanted to hang out, but I just said no to everything because I was a stupid piece of shit who didn't want to leave his confoet zone (my house pretty much). Now she's pregnant, in a relationship and I barely even talk to her. It goes without saying that I regret it, well, regret is an understatement, it made me feel like a stupid piece of shit.

Cosytoasty · Accepted Answer

I turned down my fiancé first time around. Regretted it for the best part of 5 years, until we got together. For the most part I don't regret anyone I turn down.

Kymmai0305 · Answer

My last relationship was the worst thing to ever happen to me so I have no intentions of jumping into another one , if I ever do. There's a guy I like now, but I had to reject him because I just can't trust anyone right now and it would not be fair to him to start a relationship while I'm so destroyed. I don't regret it yet, but I might later.

cth96190 · Answer

I have turned down a lot of women, especially after the age of 30, which was when I gave up on the project.
I do not regret rejecting anyone.
Until I was 30 I could almost not get a date, although women of other races made moves on me to a degree that was disturbing.
After 30, after I had given up on women, there was a big change in what women wanted and I found that I was in demand. That continues, with women in my age range.
I am not interested in taking a 50 per cent risk of losing everything via the Family Court, by responding to one of these offers from women who would not have given me the time of day when they were 20.
They can go back to one of those more exciting bad boys, who they preferred when they were younger.

foodandfaith · Answer

Yeah. There was this guy who I met on Facebook in 2011. We instantly connected and even had plans of meeting each other in real life. The only problem was I was barely in middle school while he was about to graduate high school (four years apart). I feel so bad because of my insecurities, I would ignore his calls and video chats. He was such a great person. Fast forward six years later, he followed me on Twitter, but we haven't talked or anything. I believe he's in college or whatever. But sometimes I think, dang... what if.

Darkfairie17 · Answer

I don't regret rejecting most of the people I have rejected. I basically try to get to know them as best as possible, and so when I reject them, it's usually for a good reason.

The last few guys I rejected just didn't seem all that interested in spending time with me. And if that was them on their best behaviour and trying to win me over, it wasn't really working. Not seeing someone for weeks at a time, even months is not a good way to show interest. So I just broke things off.

GoeySamurai · Answer

Most of the people I've turned down in my life have been online and 6/10 of them were dudes so nah, doesn't bother me so much lol.

wrightontime · Answer

Yes I regret turning down a few girls in high school because I thought people would judge me for dating them. I would say they were 7-8 on a 10 scale. But they werent ugly and they were nice personality girls. Plus I found out later they were virgins, which is what I always wanted.

Today I regret not giving one of them a chance. I was too concerned about what other people thought. Then as karma has it I ended up dating 9-10 on a 10 scale but weren't virgins and douchebag leftovers. I treated them like shit after I got sex I wanted.
I never regret treating those non virgins like shit. I wish I had 1 more opportunity to treat them like shit.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

To be honest I don't regret rejecting anyone, just regret that I had to reject some people since the relationship would have been inappropriate. Mostly because I had a boyfriend at the time. I absolutely don't regret rejecting a few of the weirdos that asked me out.

xxmamichulaxx · Answer

I dont regret turning down any of the guys who have asked me out. Majority were so desperate for a relationship they would go from girl to girl and try to pursue them , and the rest were straight up fuckboys lol

LolaB28 · Answer

I have turned down a lot of guys because they're honestly just creepy weirdos. One guy was getting way too clingy and that was just after one day of talking/texting on the phone! Like, slow down! We didn't even get each other's last names! I don't regret rejecting the guys I have rejected, it's usually a good reason!

April10 · Answer

My boyfriend and I broke up for a while before we got back together. During that time, I did go out a lot and met a guy that was interested in me. But I turned that down because I realized I would much rather get back together with my boyfriend and work through our problems. No regrets.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I turned down a shy guy once (very cute) because I believed the bad advice my girlfriends gave me about shy guys. I have regretted it to this day. Today I see younger girls (and older) making the same mistake.

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

I don't have regrets. About anything. Not just in terms of women and relationshits, *anything*.

Any bitch I rejected I don't even remember anymore. If I rejected her, there's a reason, and a few minutes later I cease to remember that she even exists.

lucyy422 · Answer

No, when I have regretted it before I always tend to get the opportunity again later on and then see that yes, I was right to turn them down in the first place lol. But, during college I've had past dudes from high school hit me up, saying they never noticed me like that before but now, they are attracted to me. It always sounds condescending and rude, so I turn them down too.

Anonymous · Answer

My now Husband turned me down 2 years before we got together. In 2001 someone moved in who liked him and I said I did. I guess cause I had liked him off and up growing up and people went to him and told him and I got shot down so, I dropped it. Watched him turn everyone down then 2 years later in 2003, we had moment and I tried again, officially I put in the work and talked to him, laid down ground work & we will be celebrating 14 years together in July. Married for 10 years in Sept.

Anonymous · Answer

not so much as turned down but screwed up chances through being too career focussed for too long.

When i was 39 i had a really attractive 25 year old who wanted to go out with me but i never sorted out the time for her, and another time i had a Colombian girl at work offer to go on holiday with me.

Yes, i know i'm an idiot...

Tony1974 · Answer

No. Most are not worth my time, resources or emotional energies... I thought there was one who was 2 years back but she was just laying her games. I quickly backed off and let her indulge her get herself involved with another guy who within 6 months dumped her ass for a girl a few years younger than him...(She was 10 years older than him)

Anonymous · Answer

I went out Friday and turned down 9 guys and I'm single 😅

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. Most of the time, I don't think it matters if you turned them down for a good reason.

Personally, I regret not giving a girl I used to go out with a shot at something more serious.

She was great, but I wasn't ready to commit to her for some rather shallow reasons. I regret it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, my ex, best friend is harassing the f*** out of me. That's foul to me. I haven't talked to my ex in many moons and I'm wondering if the two of them had a falling out. I have not seen my ex in about 5 years. Her best friend immediately started telling me a bunch of s*** about her etc. It just gets to be a hassle.

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

A few and no I don't regret it cuz I wasn't interested and it's better for them in the long run to find people who are into them too

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Some guy that was studying culinary arts, whom I wasn't physically attracted to and he had a severe case of facial acne.

Nope, I don't regret it. I just simply didn't like him physically. No amount of sweet words would have made me change my mind.

peachblossomluck · Answer

I moreso regret the guys I have been involved with. I am a wise but jaded individual.

KingOfMaise · Answer

I used to be very shy but I have looks so I've turned down a lot of girls which looking back now I fully regret it

Nyx_85 · Answer

Multiple guys. No I don't regret a thing. I knew we weren't compatible. Some of them I became friends with and after a number of years I can see how right my decision was.

genericname85 · Answer

i obviously turned down cause i didn´t feel love and couldn´t imagine to do things with her. it never happened to me, that those things changed at a point. but i turn them down for all the things other than friendship. not just for "relationship".

Elarra · Answer

I don't think I've been given the chance to turn someone down. I'm always the one that gets turned down lol. I guess that's the price you pay for not being the pretty friend.

Poppykate · Answer

No. I am willing to date most people. Most people deserve a chance! ( except murderers, racists, etc)

PrincessPie · Answer

Anyone i've turned down was because i didn't fancy them or feel a spark so i'm okay about it... i have never changed my mind.

LinaAshhx · Answer

Dismissed multiple of men and a few women. I'm in a relationship- how long does it take to get the message across?

MissLibra · Answer

i turned down a really good guy who basically had everything in common with me, & was in the military. super good looking.  for the father of my kids who cheats nonstop.  i regret it so damn much!!

Anonymous · Answer

That I am really not sure. I did have some female acquaintances that showed interest in me when I was in college. I didn't have feeling for them because I didn't really know them and also too focused in school work. Now thinking about it, I could have had more pussies instead of just one, that would have made my other "resume" look good

HOAAH · Answer

no I don't because I am very happy with whom I am married to now... no regrets.

FatherJack · Answer

Not so much turned down girls , met quite a few stunners when I used to go raving / clubbing throughout the 90's... I lost their phone numbers.. because I was too spannered & off my face !

Anonymous · Answer

Tbh, a lot of people.. I don't regret a single person I turned down. I wish I would have turned down a few of my boyfriends too.

Westy616 · Answer

Not really. I've turned girls down who were way out of my league. They were only interested in me because of my job. No shame there to ditch those shallow girls.

Kristie12 · Answer

I've turned down a lot of guys but regret maybe only one.

Liberty_Howard · Answer

God.. i get asked out like, 50 times a day. Im sick of it. I turn them all down. Men can fuck themselves. All they are after is looks and sex.

Anonymous · Answer

I sabotaged a good relationship years ago. Complicated but I met her at the wrong time of my life. But I have to accept the consequences of my decisions (does anybody know of a good time machine?)

SunsetLover · Answer

I turned down someone who I think might have been one of the best persons I met... I did regret it sometimes but it's been a long time now.

PinkPandaBear180 · Answer

I once turned down a girl who a year later started dating a good friend of mine. Do I regret it? Not a bit.

jacquesvol · Answer

It happened but I had good reasons. I'd do the same any day. And I hope my son would do it too.

let456 · Answer

Yes I regret turning down a few. For various reasons. Probably the biggest reason was I declined some because of what other people thought of them.

blondfrog · Answer

You actually want us to give you names of people you don't even know? That's fucking weird.

Loveherbut · Answer

Not at all women i turned down had bfs or i wasn't attracted to them

Sabretooth · Answer

i regret i took the summer of from ged-it costed me time... could've prevented a lot of pain.

Anonymous · Answer

Turned down recently one clingy guy, who kept bothering me for 2 years... regret? No of course... glad this person finally stoped bothering me

reptocarl · Answer

Never regretted it and never think about it

Anonymous · Answer

A girl at college who had claimed she had been raped and that her ex boyfriend was abusive.

Anonymous · Answer

İ refused him and never be regret. because he is irresponsible immature and we can't move on anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

I regret giving my ex a chance. I actually wish I wouldn't have met him and dated another guy.

Belgie · Answer

No. I don't look back. What's the point?

ClareCursed · Answer

Nah no regrets look forward to my future

Pizzalover101 · Answer

No cuz if you let regret bother you never move on

Viranda · Answer

A lot, but I don't regret a single one

Anonymous · Answer

I turned down a lot of guys and I don't regret it

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