Why do men use sexual innuendo in front of women?

[Babsie1984]

If a man used sexual innuendo or made sexual comments/spoke about sex in front of a particular woman (but not necessarily directed towards her), what the reasons be?

My theory is that he has interest in her and it's his way of "showing off" but I might be wrong.

[shant]

Most likely is that he doesn't have interest in here but he respects her enough to talk the same in front of her that he does when he talking with the guys.
We use sexual innuendo all the time, we hold back in front of most women because the sexual harassment laws in the U. S. are completely in defense of the woman and no matter what the men says, if you are ever accused of sexual harassment or assualt, even if the woman admits to lying, the public will keep that brand in the man.

So, be honored that he is comfortable enough around you to be himself.

[Babsie1984]

What if I'd just happened to let him know the day before that I liked him... would that change things do you think?

[shant]

Oh, 100% absolutely.
Of course this is just opinions, but if he didn't talk like that before and after you told him something he seemed to be more open like this, then he is most likely interested but shy/bashful.
Even the most confident can get shy when speaking to the one they interested in.
Do you find his innuendo funny? Maybe add a few of your own if you do, but only toward him.
If something does happen between you too, make sure he knows what you want, some of us guys are really stupid and might think sex only (one night stand or friends with benefits) because the jokes are currently sexual.

[Vanjasper]

To see how she reacts. Is she put off, shocked, or interested. He might be testing the ground to see if she would be open to discussing sexual matters.

[FemWorship]

> locker room talk spills out as humor & you are accepted into his good ol' boy network
> primarily to "plant the seed" of sex as an option later; gauge your openness to sex in general
> so many compliments to him = confidence this success patter will continue to amuse and attract those more willing toward sex with him

[Babsie1984]

Thanks for that feedback - we shall see :-)

[FemWorship]

Will you expand just what's going on and how "we shall see"?

[Babsie1984]

I mean we will see over time how it all transpires!

[FemWorship]

haha I got that before I asked
so again, if you care to share

in what scenario (s) did all this begin... which precipitated your question?

it seems you will be seeing more of this guy to "we shall see", so how/when/what will be coming up in that vein?

[Babsie1984]

Ha! He's a guy I work with but we're based in different offices so don't see each other very often (once for an overnight stay or two, roughly every quarter). We'd been flirting a bit and then really ramped up at a conference we attended recently :-)

[Babsie1984]

I'm working on moving things forward but it's complicated - very complicated.

[FemWorship]

I just got an image in my brain that he's married but unhappy and gets frisky when away from her like @ conferences, etc. He may think you a replacement candidate and you think he's fun enough to risk some contact, [perhaps even intimate.

[Babsie1984]

Probably not a bad assumption

[Babsie1984]

You're not too far

[JSmith925]

It's called fishing, dear. They want to see how you respond to gauge your potential for them.
~JSmith

[Babsie1984]

So would a guy only use sexual innuendo in front of a woman that he was trying to reel in for sex or could it be that he's just comfy with her and feels he can be a "lad" without there being repercussions?

[JSmith925]

Well, he could be showing off, too, but even that is often a form of fishing. Usually, when a guy steers the conversation toward the racy end of the spectrum, he has a motive and he is speaking on behalf of his hormones. If you are interested in this man, I would either respond jokingly to his innuendos or make some of your own. You can also just invite him to go somewhere with you. This is the 21st century, after all.
~JSmith

[Babsie1984]

I'm very interested in him. I've actually just told him exactly that very recently. So it's good to know that this is possibly why he's turned to innuendo!

[martyfellow]

YEs, it's his way of testing her reaction without risking her taking offense, which might happen if he were to direct this to her instead of someone else nearby.

[iwannalicku]

I think for me it would be a way of telling her that would be something I would want to do with her depending on what sexual innuendo it is and if there's a lot of it LOL just my opinion

[wankiam]

you may be right but either way i have witnessed women doing the same thing. if its all in good humour its ok but doing it about a person without including them but in earshot is quite disrespectful

[Dme500]

sometimes you're right. sometimes its just because its funny.

[Babsie1984]

What if I've just told him I like him? 😉

[Dme500]

then probably both.

[Babsie1984]

I can live with that, I guess!!

[Dme500]

you should throw some innuendos back at him.

[Babsie1984]

I think I might ☺️😉

[Dme500]

cool i hope it works out. then you can pull a trump and grap him by the dick, haha.

[Babsie1984]

Lol!!

[jammieww2]

sounds a bit like a form of flirting. hoping that the woman will take a hint and be interested in sex.

[Babsie1984]

If he's giving me a hint then yes! I'd just told him the day before that I was interested

[jammieww2]

then take it to the next step and give him a kiss. then say something like "we could take this further if you wanted".

[Babsie1984]

😊 thanks

[Prof_Don]

Usually as a means of subtle flirting, or a way test her interest in him

[eagle1951]

could be showing off. could be trying to see if your interested.

[Babsie1984]

Say for example, is just told him the day before that I was interested?

[eagle1951]

than i'd say he is seeing how interested you are. or he wants to see if your interest is sex

[Babsie1984]

Yep. I am. Very much. Interested in sex ☺️

[eagle1951]

well then flirt back with him, have some fun

[Babsie1984]

Yes I will!! 😉 just wanted to check I wasn't misunderstanding the situation before I made a fool of myself

[eagle1951]

go for it

[Anonymous]

Why is it that a man cannot speak about sex infront of women? This really bothers me.

[Babsie1984]

They definitely can! But I mean specifically sexual innuendo - is it just fun to joke about?

[Opinion Owner]

It can be sexual interest. Depends on how his other behavior is.

[Babsie1984]

His other behaviour has been pretty flirty. Very flirty in fact. I've told him that I'm interested in him... just the day before this happened

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/ai8hMGBOL2E

[Babsie1984]

How is it really simple?

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/aAnkjCt0NZM

[Babsie1984]

Ah ok, thank you! Love your accent by the way ☺️

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/MIQScVhE450

[Rajini_chocolate]

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[sreenivasa]

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[Anonymous]

It could have nothing to do with any woman in particular. Chances are he's just a sexual guy.

[Babsie1984]

What if I'd just told him the day before that I liked him... would that change things do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily. When you told him you liked him what was the context? Have you been out on a date yet? Kissed? Anything else?

[Babsie1984]

We've flirted a bit but it didn't go anywhere as I backed off (long story). He'd went all quiet on me (he's pretty shy) and then I basically said "I like you, the reason I backed off before was xxx, " and then the sexual innuendo.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I think it's safe to say he's a sexual dude. Now the question is if the two of you will find an outlet together. Any plans for a date?

[Babsie1984]

Hoping to get there!!

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck! If you do get asked on a date, wear something sexy! ;-)

[Babsie1984]

🙃😉

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha! Do you have a "go to" outfit in mind? :P

[Babsie1984]

I do :-)

[Opinion Owner]

Ha! Nice! You're pretty serious then! :P Just sent you a follow. Feel free to follow back if you'd like to chat more.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! You have to follow back for messages to work

[Babsie1984]

I did follow back by the way!

[Opinion Owner]

It doesnt' look like you did. You probably just okayed my follow. You need to go to my profile and follow me as well.

[Babsie1984]

Can you check now? I've had to guess who you were from my recent followers so I'm not sure if I guessed right

[Opinion Owner]

You got it!

[thomasans]

Guys are jerks and lie, cheat and whatever for sex. Get him hard and he is yours...
Until he cums!

[SuccessfulHornDog]

It's part of our immature mating rituals

[Kataclyst]

honestly its just funny to do so to some :P