How do I get a shy guy to ask me out? (Page 2)

Question

I really like this guy and can tell he likes me back we've known each other for 4months but he's really shy and I've been told I shouldn't ask this guy out myself because he wouldn't like it because it would make he feel less of a man. Is there any signs or hints I could give him to let him know I like him and want to go out with him?

Jogagorathi · Answer

Tell him about a place/event that you really fancy going to sometime and say you're looking for someone to go with. Make it really obvious that you're leaving the door open for him to ask you to go with him

Apope16 · Answer

You should be the one to ask him out. Im tired of women playing gamesbsnd expecting a guy to do it. They say they want to be equal to men but are to lazy or chicken to ask a guy out? Now you know how a guy feels. Us guys have pressures too.

thomasf4532 · Answer

I agree, ask him out shy guys rarely make the first move and tend to want the girl to ask them out. I think however told you that was jealous or doesn't know what their talking about. Good luck 😊

troyboysen · Answer

A guy who gets upset because you ask him out isn't a man, he's a little boy throwing a fit, and he's not going to be a man regardless of whether you ask him out or not. But the best way to ask anyone out is to just talk to them as if you are on a date already, and eventually you'll just mutually agree to continue your conversation at the coffee shop or restaurant or wherever it is you agree to meet.

BigRayFromNC · Answer

If you have a good rack of Tit's it would not hurt to flash them at him when he least expects it and he will become very interested in you and will ask you out for sure as he will not be shy any longer..

It can not hurt by trying.

Anonymous · Answer

Im extremely shy, but it comes at the price of being too clingy when i finally am in a relationship, because im not used to the attention... Anyway, if i really like someone, i'll let them know, I've had many girls say they like/are interested in me, but i dont really respond because im honestly not interested in them. I dont mean to sound like a douche, but thats how i work. Im shy, if i like you, i REALLY do like you.

ObliviousJester · Answer

Screw that opinion. He probably feels he wouldn't have a chance with you if he asked, so in this scenario, you may be better off to initiate things. Who knows, it may bring him out of his shell.

Arias · Answer

Talk to him and get him to relax and be comfortable around you. HOWEVER, you seem to want to date him. So why not ask him. You seem to already said yes in your head already.

Thatstrangeguy · Answer

Don't buy into this public idea.
If you like the guy, just ask hin out already; if he is really shy (instead of not interested), he will be thankful for taking off the pressure, if he is not interested, well, then you can stop trying and waiting

oscar5559 · Answer

Just ask him out, I've had a girl drag me along before and just like girls, guys will eventually move on. It won't destroy his masculinity, if anything it'll boost his confidence because having people desire us is always nice.

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

Ask him out, seriously. I've never asked a guy out but my girlfriend asked his current boyfriend out. He was very shy and now he loves her more than anything.

Aoron · Answer

you gotta be proactive about the situation. try to know his interests. communication is a big deal as its important to break his shy shell. chat as much as possible but try to avoid bothering him. if he loves any outside activity then try to set up a date. trust me, the moment he 'll be comfortable around you, the things will get much easier for u.

AlphaGhost · Answer

There are other ways to tell guy that you like him other than asking him out, like spreading a controlled and intentional gossip about you telling mutual friend, you would to love to date him.

chris1984 · Answer

ignore ego. if you want a piece, ask him for it;) if he's shy but interested i doubt he will mind you taking the reins a little. if he's shy and disinterested he will learn to say "no thanks"

dietcokepapi · Answer

I really think the best call is to just ask him out yourself. Guys are bad at picking up on hints, and if you really want to go out with him there's nothing wrong with asking him yourself. It's very unlikely he'll feel less manly, and will instead feel flattered.

Stinkydog · Answer

You can't, either you make it so obvious you like him that he has 100% confidence you'd say yes, and still might not have courage to ask, or you have to ask him out... Always just ask then out, if they react badly, would you want to date someone who can't handle being asked out.

Farmmad · Answer

Ask him, I am a shy guy and sometimes a little nudge in the right direction helps get things moving, I've missed "hints" from women and was asked days later by friends what happened. My view was she wasn't interested, their view was she was and I just didn't see, turned out they were right but I found out way too late

Abdash · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with you asking him out yourself. He might feel a little less "manly" but in the end things will end out the same.

heyhowu26 · Answer

If they are shy, you need to make it blantenly obvious. Thats how you deal with shy and introverted types of people. They are very uncertain about themselves, so you got to spell it out for them.

AustinTXGuy · Answer

Work through the network to have one of your friends drop the hint to one of his friends and let them do the work to nudge him.  Also you can text him nudes, that might work 🤣🤣

SBurpinstein · Answer

I would recommend to listen to this short video on youtube why men are not asking woman out anymore.
type "MGTOW : Woman's testimony about men avoiding western women" into youtube and listen to the black lady talking.
you will understand

ZafirUzoma · Answer

WHoever told you that is dumb as fuck, guys will love it if you actually put in that risky leap of faith, especially if he's shy

Anonymous · Answer

A signal can be small as just smiling when eyes are met and blushing away. Key is, you will have to keep giving signals for more than couple of days.

Shy guy means, he is 95% time fear rejection. He may desperate to ask you out but, his brain constantly makes logic "what if she doesn't like me?"

To him to be sure that you wouldn't reject him, you'll have to keep positive attitude for extended period of time. You'll have to help him overcome his fear.

fashionguy17 · Answer

Just ask him. I hate when people play into gender roles. If you want to go out with him, tell him. If you wait for him and he never makes a move, there goes a miss opportunity.

ChronicThinker · Answer

No offence but most shy guys aren’t the hyper masculine type who worry about how manly they are. He’s likely waiting forever for you to ask him out.

Prima_Dana · Answer

Usually, you can't make any guy ask you out regardless of whether he's shy or not. He'll ask you if or when he's ready. You could let him know how you feel.

Anonymous · Answer

Either ignore the bad advice and ask him out anyways, or make him think it was his idea and flirt with him like crazy and give of the vibe that you want to date him as much as possible, but men don't understand body language as well so be careful.

fjh80 · Answer

We'll first of all, you need to be alone with him. A subtle hint of perfume doesn't hurt either. Finally, just talk to the guy about.

Axel80 · Answer

Ask him out. If you girls would not be so conditioned about being asked instead of asking yourself guys wouldn't have such a hard time.

slub20 · Answer

Sucking someone's dick is a good indicator of affection. But again you really just don't know in these situations.

soleil2666 · Answer

You don't have to ask him out per se - get close and simply spend time with him, there's no need to ask for his permission - if he likes it, he will be happy and all smiles and hearts about it!
The who asks whom out then becomes less of an issue.

Juxtapose · Answer

Speaking as a shy guy myself, do him a huuuuuge favor and make the first move. He'll feel wanted and more manly.

yoshi_wanna_ask · Answer

How do you get a shy guy to ask you out? You ask him.

hellofrewns · Answer

Start with hanging out ! Just as friends :)) den he would feel more comfortable with u !!!

Wolfy39 · Answer

If he is shy, even if he likes you, he may never do the first step. up to you to do it... and no it won't make him less of a man.

DevonB · Answer

Ask him out if you really like him... good luck trying to get him to come out of his shell though.. you may need to make the first move dear

shy_awkward_guy · Answer

You need to talk to them more and make them trust you. Show some signs that your interested. I’m really shy I know a lot.

GracefulCharm · Answer

Just try to make his weiner grow and when it does, then tell him he has to date you before he can use it.

arshlx · Answer

What the fuck? The ask him out straight up! People carry weird thinking about guys feeling hurt... seriously... dfaq?

tehlizard · Answer

What? Make him feel less of a man? He might very well be thankful you've taken the pressure off of him. I say go for it!

RickyChieu · Answer

Ask him out or give him hints that you like him or tell his friends that you like him.

annonboy · Answer

Try maintaining physical contact with him try to hold hands as long as possible try sitting very close to him when ever possible at the least he will be comfortable with you and will be more open to you

GodHatesKaitlin · Answer

Ask him out. If he's shy, that won't be happening any time soon.

mneofthestate · Answer

Ask him. Nothing wrong with a woman asking a man out.

Irishjack · Answer

Anyway you can get him alone so you can talk with him?

RobinMishaap · Answer

Whoever told you that doesn't know what they're talking about. As a shy guy myself, he'd love it if you asked him out.

CuriouslyEccentric · Answer

Send him lots of emojis when you guys text each other this will make you seem interested to talk to him.

Anonymous · Answer

You'll have to do the first step, shy guys can't ask you out first, they are uncomfortable about it.

thiagotf · Answer

May you can ask him out. Or make sure to him that you are interested in date him.

1coolguy · Answer

Thats not true. If you start a conversation that leads to dating then you can ask if he likes girls. One can get what you want if you clue em in.

nOoNeknOwSs · Answer

I don't understand why this has so many opinions I think ham and cheese nailed the answer

sawno · Answer

Ask him out instead but make sure he knows its serious. Dont be to overwhelming.

atfick · Answer

Maybe get one of his close friends to help you? Let his friend nudge him in tge right direction?

imredheaded · Answer

Ask him out anyway. Or tell him that you really like him. Anything outside of directly telling him what you mean will probably be missed. Us guys are stupid that way

Armourdillo · Answer

Stop playing mind games with him and just ask him out. Just change the question to "how can I manipulate a guy into doing what I want him to do without being direct or upfront with my intentions"

dontBshy · Answer

Ask him , he will smile from ear to ear😊 start with small talk , say hi , how are you , what's your name , etc... shy people like to talk. Snd hsngout there just to shy to say.. 👍

dan111 · Answer

Stop listening to everyone else and just ask him out

Chrysis · Answer

Just name a place & say something like "Man, I'd love to go there sometime!"

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

The best sign is by going up to him and telling him you like him. Just ask him out instead of wasting time trying to get him to ask you out.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

Why can't you ask him out if you wanted to go out with him so bad? Guess you don't want to go out with him?

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